A Right to be Angry?

BucksLady

If the Estate has been settled, I would suggest you walk away from this family. I'm sure your friend would not wish you to be upset and the way his family is behaving is very upsetting.

GwylimT

It must be awful for them inheriting all that free money they haven't earned.

Pollycat

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Just tell them to take it up directly with Uncle....

(with thanks to Pollycat for the original comment in a recent, similar thread)

Oi!
You've pinched my line! :mad:

But I think that's exactly what the OP should do.

Mr Costcutter - why are you allowing this family (who sound pretty nasty, imho) to badger you in this way?

It doesn't matter whether they have a 'right to be angry' or not.
They do not have the right to be angry with you.

Just tell them you will do your job according to the written wishes of your friend and the law and you will distribute the bequests as per the will.

Then refuse to accept any more calls from them.
I assume you can tell who is ringing you - just ignore the call.

ETA:
I am named as the executor in a close family member's will.
I am anticipating similar trouble from someone named as a beneficiary and that is how I intend to deal with it.

rpc

heuchera wrote: »

I can see why they'd be a bit nonplussed, but it's your friend's decision. No-one has a right to inherit someone else's money.

Point of order!

Under Scots Law, a spouse and any offspring have legal rights over a share of the moveable estate that cannot be extinguished by a will.

So they do have a right (in statute) to inherit someone else's money.

CathA

Not wishing to sound nosy but did your old friend leave you any money? Perhaps that's why the relatives are annoyed, especially if you got more than them?

Wills and money cause no end of problems, trust me I know! If you've done what was required by law and by your friend's wishes then you have no reason to feel amy remorse.

Mojisola

Mr_Costcutter wrote: »

The funeral was attended by only 3 family members.

Mr_Costcutter wrote: »

They rarely visited - despite being less than an hour away by car.

They rarely visited and couldn't be bothered to come to his funeral and yet can now find the time to pester the executor!

I wouldn't have left them anything at all.

Mr_Costcutter

Pollycat wrote: »

Oi!


Mr Costcutter - why are you allowing this family (who sound pretty nasty, imho) to badger you in this way?
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My wife asked me the same question

Now the Estate has been settled, there is no need for further contact and I should draw a line under this matter.

Many thanks to everyone who has contributed to this thread. Talking about this matter has helped me

Pollycat

CathA wrote: »

Not wishing to sound nosy but did your old friend leave you any money? Perhaps that's why the relatives are annoyed, especially if you got more than them?

It really is none of the beneficiaries' business what the deceased left anyone else in his will.

They still have no right to be angry or annoyed at the OP - especially as it appears that they had little time for their Uncle when he was alive.

Pure bottom-dwelling scumbag parasites!

Mr_Costcutter

CathA wrote: »

Not wishing to sound nosy but did your old friend leave you any money? Perhaps that's why the relatives are annoyed, especially if you got more than them?

Not a penny . I carried out his wishes as a friend and would not wished to have received renumeration for doing so.

Pollycat

Mr_Costcutter wrote: »

My wife asked me the same question

Now the Estate has been settled, there is no need for further contact and I should draw a line under this matter.

Many thanks to everyone who has contributed to this thread. Talking about this matter has helped me

Well done. :T

You've done your job by your friend, step away from the family.