Son's 9th birthday party dilemma

barbiedoll

I echo what others have said about having them all for a sleepover. It can be done but you have to brace yourself for a long night! :rotfl:

I also agree with posters who said that maybe have the sleepover on a different day. Perhaps promise him a mega-sleepover for one night during the Easter or summer holidays? Hopefully by then, the weather will be better and you can let them run around in the garden or local park all day to wear them out a bit. Then stock up on superhero films, popcorn and (sugar-free!) drinks, get out a load of old blankets and pillows and let them get on with it.

Mine had 3 friends overnight once, I actually did manage to get some sleep, amid the 3am giggling fits. Apparently, they were having a burping/farting contest, and when I cleared up my son's room the next day, I found a lot of his "kiddie" toys (trains, cars etc) had been bought out from under the bed. And there were sweets and crisps everywhere! :eek:

As long as you know that they all get on well and there's no prospect of fighting or similar, let him have them over. They will remember it fondly, even when they're much older. We have photos of sleepovers, it's lovely to look back on them when they were so young..... they're all now 17-18 and still friends.

Lu_Lu

Thanks for your responses everyone!

My DH is adamant that all 6 won't be staying over. We don't have the space really and, as this is the first one we'd like to keep it smaller to just test the water.

My son has definitely been the one left out on numerous occasions and so I really don't want to do that to others.

We have decided to do the laser zone and food on a sat afternoon with the 6 of them and then invite his 3 friends for a sleepover on his birthday night, which is 2 weeks later. Then he gets the best of both worlds and it's less stress for us!

Yes, he is a very luck boy having us for parents ;-). We just want him to enjoy his birthday as they only have a few we can play a part in. Won't be long before he doesn't even want us to be there!

FBaby

We have decided to do the laser zone and food on a sat afternoon with the 6 of them and then invite his 3 friends for a sleepover on his birthday night, which is 2 weeks later. Then he gets the best of both worlds and it's less stress for us!

Surely you are facing the same issue this way, the boys excluded will still wonder why they are not invited at the sleep over when the others are, and of course they will find out. Unless it is weeks apart, the two events will still be linked in their minds.

Threebabes

Hello

I would have all or none.

Recently my daughter was invited out for a birthday and out of the 6, my daughter and another one werent invited to sleep. I would keep them all the same.

onlyroz

If you can't have them all over it would seem fairer to separate the two events.

Mojisola

FBaby wrote: »

Surely you are facing the same issue this way, the boys excluded will still wonder why they are not invited at the sleep over when the others are, and of course they will find out. Unless it is weeks apart, the two events will still be linked in their minds.

I don't see this. If the OP's son has sleepover in a couple of months, why would the birthday guests think this was an extension of the birthday celebration?

JimmyTheWig

FBaby wrote: »

Surely you are facing the same issue this way, the boys excluded will still wonder why they are not invited at the sleep over when the others are, and of course they will find out. Unless it is weeks apart, the two events will still be linked in their minds.

Two weeks later is plenty of time to seperate the two events.

Jagraf

Threebabes wrote: »

Hello

I would have all or none.

Recently my daughter was invited out for a birthday and out of the 6, my daughter and another one werent invited to sleep. I would keep them all the same.

Thankfully my daughter is out of this now, but I remember the pick and choose time and it can be hurtful.

Op, keep it simple. His friends now will probably change over the next year so don't get too entangled! All or nothing vote for me too. Or just do the event with no sleepover, I hated being responsible gir other peoples kids overnight .

Jagraf

Lu_Lu wrote: »

Thanks for your responses everyone!

My DH is adamant that all 6 won't be staying over. We don't have the space really and, as this is the first one we'd like to keep it smaller to just test the water.

My son has definitely been the one left out on numerous occasions and so I really don't want to do that to others.

We have decided to do the laser zone and food on a sat afternoon with the 6 of them and then invite his 3 friends for a sleepover on his birthday night, which is 2 weeks later. Then he gets the best of both worlds and it's less stress for us!

Yes, he is a very luck boy having us for parents ;-). We just want him to enjoy his birthday as they only have a few we can play a part in. Won't be long before he doesn't even want us to be there!

Ask your DH to sort it

Lu_Lu

FBaby wrote: »

Surely you are facing the same issue this way, the boys excluded will still wonder why they are not invited at the sleep over when the others are, and of course they will find out. Unless it is weeks apart, the two events will still be linked in their minds.

It will be weeks apart and a separate event. These boys are always going to each others houses after school and we have invited them round to ours but I can't do it often as I work full time. My son regularly doesn't get invited to friend's houses and sees others going home with each other after school.

This is what he wants for his birthday and that's all that matters. Despite everything he still sees these boys as good friends so that's what counts for us.