Am I lucky?

jhgkp

Am I being paranoid.

My sister last week called, as we got a cheque in the post re: my mums will - it was split evenly between all my siblings - she called to say I shouldn't of got a split as mum helped me buy a car years ago and didn't want anything for it - I didn't ask for help, just mine was written off and she offered.

Now I feel my sister was unfair to me - wish I had the gut then to say what I am thinking now. She lives at home still with my other siblings and my father. She doesn't pay any bills at home - rent, council tax, electric, etc. All she pays is her train fares and mobile phone bill.

So surely we are kind of even - she just seen my outright payment and thinks I am lucky.

sk240

Money always brings out the best in people doesnt it :-(

Pollycat

If she has an issue with anybody, it should be your Mum.

After all, it was your Mum who put you in her will with an equal share with your siblings.

If she comes back at you again, I'd tell her to take it up with your Mum.

If she doesn't pay any bills or pay board, she is being spoiled and will get a slap in the face with a big dollop of reality once she does leave home and has to pay her own way.
She doesn't sound like a very nice person to me.

paddy's_mum

Yes, you are lucky. You don't have the nastiness, greed and envy in you that she is displaying.

Enjoy the money, guilt free, as I'm sure your mother intended.

gayleygoo

If it's in your mum's will that the money has to be split evenly, then surely that's the way it has to be. Your mum could possibly have considered the financial benefits of your sister living in the house in a similar way to you having her car, hence the even split.

I think you are entitled to the money as it was your mum's wishes, and is not up to your sister to justify things her way. What would be the point of a will if heirs could do that?!

kingfisherblue

Pollycat wrote: »

If she has an issue with anybody, it should be your Mum.

After all, it was your Mum who put you in her will with an equal share with your siblings.

If she comes back at you again, I'd tell her to take it up with your Mum.

If she doesn't pay any bills or pay board, she is being spoiled and will get a slap in the face with a big dollop of reality once she does leave home and has to pay her own way.
She doesn't sound like a very nice person to me.

If the OP has received a cheque from his mum's will, presumably his mum has died and therefore his sister won't be able to take it up with their mum.

OP, your mum made her decision to include you in her will. That is what she wanted. It isn't for your sister to decide what is fair or not. She should respect your mum's wishes.

paddy's_mum

kingfisherblue wrote: »

therefore his sister won't be able to take it up with their mum.

I think Pollycat's comment was meant to be irony - a prompt and precise way to shut the complaining sister up as clearly she can't take it up with Mum....

RuthnJasper

jhgkp wrote: »

Am I being paranoid.

My sister last week called, as we got a cheque in the post re: my mums will - it was split evenly between all my siblings - she called to say I shouldn't of got a split as mum helped me buy a car years ago and didn't want anything for it - I didn't ask for help, just mine was written off and she offered.

Now I feel my sister was unfair to me - wish I had the gut then to say what I am thinking now. She lives at home still with my other siblings and my father. She doesn't pay any bills at home - rent, council tax, electric, etc. All she pays is her train fares and mobile phone bill.

So surely we are kind of even - she just seen my outright payment and thinks I am lucky.

Please don't let your sister's words get to you. As others have said, it was your mum's money and her choice, hers alone, what she did with it.


Your sister may feel that it wasn't fair, but I am sure your mum would have helped her with her car if the need had arisen.


When my grandfather died and the bequests were made it turned my aunt and cousin, already unpleasant people, into poisonous and spiteful vixens. Caused my mum a great deal of distress.


Concentrate on your mum's memory, and how she loved you, if your sister starts on again and try not to retaliate (it is hard though).


Best wishes to you. Sorry about your mum. x

mgdavid

kingfisherblue wrote: »

If the OP has received a cheque from his mum's will, presumably his mum has died and therefore his sister won't be able to take it up with their mum..........

>> whoosh ! >>

Kynthia

Grief and greed are a bad combination. Your mother probably did things for you all in different ways and at different times. An equal split is what she wanted so try to avoid a falling out until time has gone by. After a while the share of money won't seem important any more and you'll all get on with your lives, hopefully with your relationship intact.

DigForVictory

It's not by accident that there is the old saying "Where there's a Will, There's Relations".

I'm sorry your Mum has passed, I'm glad someone else has had the execution of the estate, and I'm very sorry your sister is choosing to behave badly.
If she has another swing, do ask her to check with the executor? (Who may feel she might have had a point had it been documented anywhere but happily the Will was admirably clear & so it's now all over bar the shouting. An Executor can tell her it's all far too late now without getting as much verbal as your sister may feel entitled to give you.)

Just to add, I think women appear to behave particularly badly after what they conceive as a disappointment as they often have what *they* see to be the most to gain, but that is not much of an excuse.

Hoping it all blows over & that your other siblings damp her down...