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Separating but child advice needed badly.

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  • Person_one wrote: »
    What about Saturday and Sunday?

    She does classes at the weekend but yeah there is that time, my issue is the week that i had planned was ruined by her actions, and changing her mind. I guarantee i will get it on the phone or in a argument about her not having enough holidays later in the year for some reason or another.
  • Do i say something to her when she gets in or just keep my mouth shut?
  • Person_one
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    Do i say something to her when she gets in or just keep my mouth shut?

    Don't say anything while you're in this frame of mind.

    Later, when you're a bit calmer, do you think you'll be able to have a sensible, productive conversation about how you're going to plan ahead and make arrangements for future school holidays?
  • Mojisola
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    Person_one wrote: »
    Don't say anything while you're in this frame of mind.

    Later, when you're a bit calmer, do you think you'll be able to have a sensible, productive conversation about how you're going to plan ahead and make arrangements for future school holidays?

    I second keeping quiet for the moment - you don't want to spoil the rest of your daughter's week.

    It might to worth making plans through emails or letters so that there can't be any "he said/she said" - both sides will have records of what was agreed.
  • Person_one wrote: »
    Don't say anything while you're in this frame of mind.

    Later, when you're a bit calmer, do you think you'll be able to have a sensible, productive conversation about how you're going to plan ahead and make arrangements for future school holidays?

    Yes your right inside i am fuming, its not great working away from my daughter, then planning my week for half term only to see it all go sideways.
    The way i'm feeling now anything i say will only lead to an argument, but i will be saying something about future holidays and once i have them planned i won't be changing them to accommodate her and be taken for a fool like this week.
  • Man i hope someone buys this house soon so we can go our separate ways asap.
  • Mojisola
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    but i will be saying something about future holidays and once i have them planned i won't be changing them to accommodate her and be taken for a fool like this week.

    Please don't take this stance - there will always be good reasons for plans having to be changed - both parents will need to be flexible for your daughter's benefit.
  • Sounds like you're not communicating very well and didn't make specific plans. If you hadn't specifically decided to do a specific thing on a specific day then I don't see that she's done anything that wrong and if you storm out in anger now over this then I don't think you stand a chance of keeping things civil in the future which is only going to impact badly on your daughter.
  • mai_taylor wrote: »
    Sounds like you're not communicating very well and didn't make specific plans. If you hadn't specifically decided to do a specific thing on a specific day then I don't see that she's done anything that wrong and if you storm out in anger now over this then I don't think you stand a chance of keeping things civil in the future which is only going to impact badly on your daughter.

    What? I had my week planned then she got me to change that with her taking the time off work when she didn't need to.
    We had both agreed to family days out after she told me she was taking the week off and had things in place, then when i got home it all changed!
  • heuchera
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    She does classes at the weekend but yeah there is that time, my issue is the week that i had planned was ruined by her actions, and changing her mind. I guarantee i will get it on the phone or in a argument about her not having enough holidays later in the year for some reason or another.

    But that's because she's taken days off when she didn't need to!
    left the forum due to trolling/other nonsense
    28.3.2016
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