Lied to the police & worried sick :(

TonyMMM

If it was 3 years ago and you don't know the name of the person you spoke to the chances are going to the police now will be a waste of time - they will have no idea what you are talking about.

Forget it and move on.

amyv1991

AJXX wrote: »

I honestly do not mean this with any malice and understand you're obviously you're an anxious person - but my good look into freelance writing/e-book publishing and possibly turning what you posted into some sort of thriller...

Lol, I'd probably end up giving my self nightmares if I did that!

amyv1991

PasturesNew wrote: »

Guilt can do awful things to your mind. I think your best bet is to visit a police station to talk it through with them in detail.

Get it all thrashed out, so they can assure you that you being confused/elusive back then won't matter and nobody's watching you.

For what it's worth, I'd have not answered their questions at all and I'd have either lied, or offered to go to a police station to answer stuff as I don't do business over the telephone as I get confused too quickly and am not entirely sure what I'm being asked or why.

Go on, go see plod. Get it all ironed out.

You've done nothing "wrong". They won't arrest you. You'll come out of there having had a bit of a laugh with them .... as you realise you were being a bit daft and there's nothing to worry about.

If there are odd cars, you'll probably find it's the lad up the road who is dealing stuff he shouldn't.... it's not you they're loitering for.

The thought of doing that scares me stiff! I haven't even been to a supermarket or shop in over two years haha let alone the police station. But it's something I'll keep in mind, I know I need to get it resolved some how!

amyv1991

TonyMMM wrote: »

If it was 3 years ago and you don't know the name of the person you spoke to the chances are going to the police now will be a waste of time - they will have no idea what you are talking about.

Forget it and move on.

I do know their name and strangely enough when I googled it at the time one article came up and it was about a police case they'd worked on in the local news paper and also another result where they'd made a comment to a reporter but I've since googled it again and the article is gone and there's no results at all. It could have easily been a fake name in the first place of a real police officer though I guess

Mojisola

amyv1991 wrote: »

This happened over three years ago now and since then we've not heard anything from this detective. Neither me or my mum can think what it is about.

I'm not sure if it's just paranoia due to my anxiety

I've discussed this with my mum and her view is that if they want to talk they'll come back which like I said they haven't. I feel that this is something added to a long list of things in my life that's unresolved.

I've had counselling about stuff but never mentioned this because I'm worried it comes across like I am guilty

Yes, it's because of your general anxiety.

Listen to what your Mum says!

Get more counselling and talk this through.

You don't really think the police have been spending enormous amounts of money following you around and watching your house for three years, do you?

Person_one

amyv1991 wrote: »

Sorry I'm just an extremely anxious person

This seems to be the real issue, not a minor incident that happened years back and doesn't matter in the slightest anymore (if it ever did).

It sounds like you need more support coping with this.

kingfisherblue

Maybe it's something to do with the school holidays...?

dancingfairy

So around 3 years ago you got a note. You rang the police and they asked about something about 15 years ago? Firstly the police wouldn't have put a note through if it was something important and secondly, again if it was important they would have come back before now.
How long are you going to carry this guilt for? You did something which you thought was right at the time. Now you are older and wiser you realise it wasn't the best thing to do but you did what you thought was right at the time. You need to forgive yourself. No one has been hurt, no one has been killed. I promise, when you are 80 or 100 one conversation on one day is really not important in the grand scheme of things.
It sounds like your mind is playing tricks on you and making you go over things. It sounds like you may be suffering and be unwell
Please do go and see a doctor/ get some counselling to help you move on from this.
Df

Hermia

PasturesNew wrote: »

If there are odd cars, you'll probably find it's the lad up the road who is dealing stuff he shouldn't.... it's not you they're loitering for.

I don't think loitering cars is an unusual sight. I think a lot of people who have jobs where they have to drive around do that either to kill time or whilst waiting for a call to tell them where to go next. I used to have to drive around a lot in my old job and would often park in residential streets and wait if I was early.

dirty_magic

I don't think you have anything to worry about OP. It's classic anxiety causing all this worry, and posting here isn't going to help you because deep down you probably already know that this is just a symptom of the anxiety. There's nothing worse than being neurotic and knowing it but still not being able to change your mindset. A bunch of strangers on the internet aren't going to put your mind at rest!

I think you should go back to your GP if you're struggling and see if there's anything more they can do.