Brother In Law Being Stubborn

bluelass

Hi all. My BIL is living in a property that is far too big for his needs. My husbands mother had to go into a care home six years ago due to dementia. My BIL had always remained living at home with her even though all the other brothers and sisters moved out many years ago. The house has four bedrooms and two large reception rooms and he is paying bedroom tax on three rooms. He never has the central heating on even in the bitter cold and has been sleeping downstairs. The council have offered to re house him in a new build 2 bed apartment in a housing association but he wont budge. He was born disabled btw. He says its disrespectful to leave what was the family home for many years whilst she is still living and he wont go until she does stop living. He could have bought the house from the council many years ago for a very small price and the mortgage would have been cheaper than renting but he wouldn't.

tiger_eyes

Just to clarify since it seems your brother-in-law is happy living there, what specifically is the problem? You list a number of decisions that perhaps weren't financially optimal, but what does he (or you) want to do exactly? Is your brother-in-law having problems meeting expenses? Or something else?

tea_lover

Yay, it's been... what... hours.... since bluelass last entertained us with the latest instalment of "why the rest of the world is wrong and why it's my business".

pinkshoes

If he is happy and can afford it, then leave him be...

If he cant afford it, then that is his problem!

thorsoak

If it is a council house, and in the name of your B-i-L - why on earth are the rest of the family sticking their beaks into his business? Does it matter to anyone else if he is happy there?

Wind your neck in, bluelass - you're at it again!

heuchera

bluelass wrote: »

Hi all. My BIL is living in a property that is far too big for his needs. My husbands mother had to go into a care home six years ago due to dementia. My BIL had always remained living at home with her even though all the other brothers and sisters moved out many years ago. The house has four bedrooms and two large reception rooms and he is paying bedroom tax on three rooms. He never has the central heating on even in the bitter cold and has been sleeping downstairs. The council have offered to re house him in a new build 2 bed apartment in a housing association but he wont budge. He was born disabled btw. He says its disrespectful to leave what was the family home for many years whilst she is still living and he wont go until she does stop living. He could have bought the house from the council many years ago for a very small price and the mortgage would have been cheaper than renting but he wouldn't.

Wow that's one helluva council house!

He was right not to buy up a council house, - the reason there's such a shortage of council housing now is that people were allowed to buy them up left right and centre, and the housing stocks were never replenished.

LilElvis

Why not suggest that your stepson, his partner, their sprog and your aunt ( the one who is married to the cantankerous old man who likes strange ladies to bathe him) move in with your BIL. Underoccupancy situation solved and you can get your "fix" of family gossip all under one roof. Win win situation!

Just_a_Girl_2

***yawn***

pebbles88

More spam ...... *yawn*

breaking_free

Saw the OP was Bluelass and thought I'd pop in for some entertainment value.

Shuggles! Everyone's already cottoned on to her trolling and there's nothing to see here now. Back to my knitting then...

meritaten

I usually take threads on face value - but, bluelass, even I am losing patience. you have a neverending supply of relatives/friends who are all in the wrong in your eyes - but not in most of the threads readers eyes. Either you have a very skewed view of the world or you are a troll.
I think I will just add you to the ignore list as your threads are not worth my time.