Seeking advice please.

Darksparkle

sdoherty1000 wrote: »

I came here to ask advice before proceeding with any enquiry. I have no clue about claiming benefits and wanted to make sure I had my ducks in a row before proceeding.... Isn't that why this forum was invented in the first place?

I think your missing the point entirely, I have no choice to make because everything is on her terms, on her demands! Why do you think we are still living like this 2 years down the line?

3 holidays she went on last year and then turns around and tells me she can't afford to rent privately- that is her reason for not selling the house!

She has told me- she would give better off defaulting on the mortgage as she would be given a council house, and has threatened to do so!

I have offered to buy her out- she said no
I have offered to have her part rent- she declined
She won't move out

She knows she is fully protected by the stupid justice system in this country and doesn't have to do anything until the youngest is of age!

So please remind me again what choice I have?? Move out and have her live here while I'm out renting at £800 a month and paying child maintenance... I don't think so!

I have given you plenty of advice. If it isn't advice you want to hear then that's your issue, not mine.

Married couples claim joint unless you are separated under a court or or separated in circumstances likely to be permanent.

That's their rules, not my opinion. It will be up to her to prove she is single and if you claim up to you to prove it.

I haven't asked who spends what and who is a good parent or not, it's you that's mentioned all that.

sdoherty1000

My last reply was not aimed at you at you- you have given me some great advice and I will most definitely be taking it all on board.

Thank you to all

Darksparkle

sdoherty1000 wrote: »

My last reply was not aimed at you at you- you have given me some great advice and I will most definitely be taking it all on board.

Thank you to all

Use the quote button next time then

sdoherty1000

Aplologies, I'm using a mobile phone with a small screen

Darksparkle

sdoherty1000 wrote: »

Aplologies, I'm using a mobile phone with a small screen

Me too. There should be a + button. You press that then quote

FBaby

I think your missing the point entirely, I have no choice to make because everything is on her terms, on her demands! Why do you think we are still living like this 2 years down the line?

This is a benefit forum, so as said a few times, your decision to stay where you are is irrelevant and not the issue for the purpose of your thread. The issue is whether she is currently claiming as a single person and your question as to whether you could do that too.

You say you are not sure that she is claiming as single. You should definitely find out. If she is claiming as a couple, then it is imperative you see the award letters, which should be addressed to you too, because you are taking the risk that she is giving them wrong information (she would need to input your income) and if this result to an overpayment, you would be liable for paying it too. So ask her for the paperwork, or contact DPW and ask for the information.

If she is claiming as a single, then it isn't your problem but hers as she would most likely be considered to be claiming fraudulently. It isn't your claim, so it wouldn't affect you, but clearly could if you decided to claim yourself, especially if you try to claim for a child that she is already claiming for (as on your income, you won't be entitled to any tax credits as a single person).

Considering what you say about control and her interest in money, I very much doubt she would agree to drop a claim for one child.

If it is her lifestyle that gets to you, you should feel better knowing that she is right to make the most of it as your children are getting older, and the time by which her benefits will drop each time one of them stops their education or get to the end of it, she will see quite a reduction until like you, she will be left with living on her salary only, which might come as quite a shock to her as probably will half her disposable income.