House Buying Regret

GoldenShadow

It's your attitude/perspective giving you grief. No disrespect, but what did you expect with a preloved house?

It would take at too much time and effort to list all the issues with our house, but rest assured there are plenty! It happens and you fix things and then more will go wrong. It's just how it is if you own your own home.

heather2409

I know how you feel Iamred. We moved from the Midlands to the Yorkshire Coast 2 months ago, having lived in previous house for nearly 20 years. We too have far more work to do on new property that we thought, we are lucky in that we have equity from sale to be able to pay to have the work done, as my OH is also inept in the DIY department. at times it feels as though we're living in a holiday home, but its getting better. i'm sure its not helped by the very wet weather we've been having recently. Give it time and look forward to getting the jobs done one by one and the better weather, when it arrives, will make everything feel better.

moneyistooshorttomention

Iamred wrote: »

DaftyDuck - Thank you for making me smile. I needed that. Unfortunately my husband is inept at DIY. I guess that leaves it up to me.

Errrrrmmm.....yes! it does.

I was grinning at the "my husband doesn't do DIY" - as I've always tended to assume husbands did (ie because my father did). But I know that I'm being sexist to think that way.....and I should be able to as well.

...and then I remember that there aint no husband anyway in my case (as I wouldn't settle for anyone other than Mr Right) and sigh and reach for my debit card instead and then sigh again (ie because there is only one income coming into the house to pay for everything - so maybe I should have followed common practice and married Mr Second Best and I would have been better off....oh well.....:rotfl:).

But - I do know exactly what you mean by buyers remorse - both times to date. The trouble with being on a poor income (even if not exacerbated by being single) is the huge compromises many of us have to make in choosing a house to buy in the first place (because of being so restricted by the amount of money available to buy with....).

By now - I would say that its an absolute certainty that I would have buyers remorse about any house I bought unless it cost 2-3 times the amount of money I can actually manage to spend and I think that's how it is for most of us. We just have to keep visualising how the house will be when we've finished working on it and try and be glad because the situation could be even worse (ie not having any of the money we have just decided to spend on renovating the house).

So - I guess its count blessings:
- You do have a bit of money to spend on making a start on the house.
- You haven't mentioned the neighbours (from which, I presume, they aren't creating any problems).

moneyistooshorttomention

PaceThePixie wrote: »

FREEZ, yes I would. I am aware of many horror stories about unscrupulous landlords etc but I have been very lucky. No rent increase in 8 years. I am not saying it will never go up but I have absolute peace of mind in the private renting sector. I am 45 almost 46 and I am quite at 'home' with renting.

It suits my needs. I hear that everyone will say what about when you're old......blah, blah, blah! I'm quite contended with my choice of life.

Sounds like you've been very lucky.

I would have hated to have been forced (by lack of money) to stay in the rented sector. Whenever I read about how things are for renters now (with all those 6 month contracts, hefty fees and the like) it would seriously scare me to be at risk of all that.

You are about the age where it is likely to start hitting very hard if you aren't in a place that is "Home" by now. If you've seen your parents (and theirs before them and....etc...etc) owning their own homes and doing what they decide to them, there comes a time when you find yourself copying that blueprint or being thoroughly frustrated you cant. I had to wait till my 30s:mad: before I could buy my starter house and, when the 40s hit, I started buying seeds and tools and things for my garden. The fact I only had a "courtyard garden" at that point didn't stop me buying a lot of the stuff appropriate to a proper garden. Most of those seeds were too old to use by the time I finally bought a house with "proper garden" in my 60s and had to be thrown out:rotfl:

Ithaca

heather2409 wrote: »

I... at times it feels as though we're living in a holiday home, but its getting better. .

That's exactly what we said about our new place when we moved over the summer.

Part of that was because the house had been empty for six months so it was a bit musty and felt sort of "flat". I think it's also because it takes a while to get used to where everything is kept... cupboards are in different places etc, so I'd often find myself opening a cupboard to get a saucepan and only finding a dustpan and brush.

Miles better now though, cupboards all rearranged how I want them and the house feels more "alive" now it has children running around it.

freeman3030

Hi,
I completely sympathise with you and your situation. I think it's a good idea to get quotes on the larger problems and see if you can sort the smaller problems yourself. If you do a little DIY you'll get a great sense of achievement and will like being in your home because you've fixed a problem and satisfied you did it yourself.
I had buyers remorse, 3 months ago we purchased our new house, we've yet to move in as we're doing work, but it's always strange being in a new home and don't feel at ease until you know what every creak and sound is. When my dad changed our locks, he noticed marks on the rear patio doors as though it had previously been jimmyed open, we too had signs in the loft they had been growing cannabis. It worried me, so I took pro active steps. We've now got a burglar alarm which really helps out my mind at ease and I'm taking the tables they had previously put up in the loft inbetween the roof struts (if that's what they're called) so I don't have the reninder every time i go in the attic.
Solve the problems and it all pales into insignificance!