Marriage Breakdown Advice

fairy_lights

Have you and your wife had any other marital problems, or is it purely the fact that her daughter has moved in that makes you want to end the marriage?

Pixie5740

Why is OK for your son to come and stay in the matrimonial home but not for your wife's daughter and grandchild?

If you don't think your wife should be entitled to any of the matrimonial home why do you think she should give you spousal maintenance if you divorce?

Your posts come across as though it's one rule for you and another for your wife which makes you sounds unreasonable. I'm not sure if you mean to come across this way but you do to me.

An alternative to divorce would be to sit down and talk with your wife. Whether that's just the two of you, or with Relate that's up to you.

FBaby

My solicitor said.

Of course he would say all this, he wants your business, but notice the
'As weve been married 2.5 years and we both have homes and have no children together, the court would almost always put you back in the position you were in before the marriage as i have no job / pension or income'.

This is a generic statement and I wouldn't rely on the fact that it will automatically apply to you. Did he mention anything about some judge taking into consideration how many years you lived together before marriage?

itsanne

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Why is OK for your son to come and stay in the matrimonial home but not for your wife's daughter and grandchild?

An alternative to divorce would be to sit down and talk with your wife. Whether that's just the two of you, or with Relate that's up to you.

Lionheart99 wrote: »

Ive actually had this long talk, the daughter is the real problem here sha has got many @issues@ and her real dad is as they say 'a waste of skin'.

Perhaps the daughter's "issues" make it much more difficult. Much as I love him and do try to support him, there is no way I could live with my son who has significant "issues".

I would agree about communication, though, and think Relate would be a very good idea.

Tigsteroonie

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Why is OK for your son to come and stay in the matrimonial home but not for your wife's daughter and grandchild?

Perhaps because the son visits occasionally (access visits to the NRP) whereas the daughter and her baby have effectively moved in? There's a world of difference in terms of impact between the two.

Surely asking the daughter to leave wouldn't be making a baby homeless either - the daughter is responsible for providing a home for her baby, not its step-grandfather. Else anybody could turn up at your house and then say "You can't turn me out, you'll make me homeless" There is always the option of the wife serving notice on her tenants and moving back into her own home.

Pixie5740

It's the tenant's home and the wife's home is with her husband.

I wouldn't turn my family (and that includes step children) away if they needed somewhere to stay or were struggling with being a new parent. The OP's posts come across as though he sees it as his home, his property bought with his money rather than a home with his wife which I think is sad.

It's odd that he's gone from 0-60 and is talking to a solicitor about divorce before talking with his wife about living arrangements.