Confused.

emzky

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BrassicWoman

perhaps start by actually listening instead of discarding his views as "blah blah"?

Georgiegirl256

Only he can tell you that. There's obviously something that's making him unhappy. Just because you deem things to be ok doesn't mean he thinks so.

Could be there's nothing you can do to change the way he feels? People's feelings can and do change in long term relationships and quite often it's nothing the other person has done. Listen him out and see what things he wants to try to make things different.

emzky

Oh I listened. But thanks for the helpful sarcasm. Was feeding my baby at the time of typing and didn't feel it relevant to go into lots of detail. It was more to get it off my chest to be honest. I've not actually done anything to make him unhappy. Im a housewife who irons all his clothes, cooks his tea, etc. I only ever have a moan when I feel that he's not spending enough time with us and when he does he's usually distracted by a phone

BrassicWoman wrote: »

perhaps start by actually listening instead of discarding his views as "blah blah"?

Darksparkle

Just because someone has a family and a mortgage doesn't mean they are happy.

It doesn't mean you have a good or bad relationship.

Do you socialise together?

If he has gotten to the stage where he has told you he is unhappy then he will be unhappy. As said, only he can tell you what will make him happy.

emzky

I know and that's why I'm confused. I've tried to get it out of him what it is and what he thinks would make him happy but all I get is "I don't know" so I can't do anything with that. I understand that people can change their minds it's just not easy to hear. He has said that he feels that a house move would help. (Bigger property) more space. But I can't really see how that will change the way he feels about me.

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Only he can tell you that. There's obviously something that's making him unhappy. Just because you deem things to be ok doesn't mean he thinks so.

Could be there's nothing you can do to change the way he feels? People's feelings can and do change in long term relationships and quite often it's nothing the other person has done. Listen him out and see what things he wants to try to make things different.

System

emzky wrote: »

Oh I listened. But thanks for the helpful sarcasm. Was feeding my baby at the time of typing and didn't feel it relevant to go into lots of detail. It was more to get it off my chest to be honest. I've not actually done anything to make him unhappy. Im a housewife who irons all his clothes, cooks his tea, etc. I only ever have a moan when I feel that he's not spending enough time with us and when he does he's usually distracted by a phone

Do you think he's cheating? You've deleted the first post so most people who read this dont exactly know what is going on :huh:

heuchera

Thread posted at 2.51, then deleted at 3.12 :huh:

Am picturing someone typing on here whilst feeding their baby, lol. That's dedication.

Gigervamp

Another deleted first post. This is happening far too often.

heuchera

There is a way of retrieving them Some people will have it in their google cache. You can never delete things from the net, not fully.

Gigervamp

heuchera wrote: »

There is a way of retrieving them Some people will have it in their google cache. You can never delete things from the net, not fully.

Yes, I know, which is why deleting a post is pointless. I'm sure someone will come along and repost it, as has been done in other threads.