Mooloo's little tapestry of life, 2016

Savvy_sewing

dktreesea wrote: »

Someone on another site put me onto this site (for the free knitting patterns);
http://www.craftsy.com/my/home
You join to access the site - I did it through an email I rarely use rather than facebook, but I thought some of their patterns might give you ideas for making things... I liked some of their quilt patterns.


I was an older mum. In some ways I regret it, which is silly because I am regretting something I couldn't possibly know, though I did have the chance at the time, being a teenage or early 20s mum. I found I didn't have the patience that I thought I might have had when I was younger. But you know what - I did the best I could, which is what you are doing. At least you are there for your DGD and helping out.

Thank you. X appreciate it. So much.

jackyann

Mooloo - hope you have a lovely break.

Regarding DGD - at the "everyday" level, you sound as if you are doing very well. Don't get upset about your handling of one small incident - that's part of being in a loving family.

However, at the difficult level, where your DGD's experiences cause these anxieties and odd behaviour, then I think you need professional help ( as any family would). I think you need to put this in writing to SW and ask for a specific Child & Adolescent Mental Health referral with a view to supporting you.
You are doing a heroic job and you deserve better support than you are getting. Whilst I think that the Big Bag of Worries is an excellent book, it can only go so far. It sounds from your post as if your DGD is indeed carrying around some worries that need specialist help. It often suits SWs and others to say that only low-level support is needed for some troubled kids, and that can be true. But for some who have had damaging experiences when young, specialist help can make all the difference.

dangers

Mooloo, I found a document on the web that has helped me to understand the little girl I support. I'm happy to (try and) email it to you if you would like it. If so, pm me your email address. Xx

Savvy_sewing

jackyann wrote: »

Mooloo - hope you have a lovely break.

Regarding DGD - at the "everyday" level, you sound as if you are doing very well. Don't get upset about your handling of one small incident - that's part of being in a loving family.

However, at the difficult level, where your DGD's experiences cause these anxieties and odd behaviour, then I think you need professional help ( as any family would). I think you need to put this in writing to SW and ask for a specific Child & Adolescent Mental Health referral with a view to supporting you.
You are doing a heroic job and you deserve better support than you are getting. Whilst I think that the Big Bag of Worries is an excellent book, it can only go so far. It sounds from your post as if your DGD is indeed carrying around some worries that need specialist help. It often suits SWs and others to say that only low-level support is needed for some troubled kids, and that can be true. But for some who have had damaging experiences when young, specialist help can make all the difference.

Thanks. The school were doing a referral supposedly before Christmas, but I hadn't heard anything back.
Everything was completely fine until Mum moved away to have the new baby. DGD is very confused. Dispite repeatedly telling her she is not a bad person, any negative words she thinks she's bad!
It's like walking on glass at the moment.

Now time for the school run and then back to do all the little jobs needed.
My guardianship money finally came in today. So one less worry now.

Savvy_sewing

Well my case is packed. It was a difficult choice as to what to pack for day to night etc all in my carry on bag!
It will be an early night as we have to be at Birmingham airport at 5am. So probably up at 3am
I will catch up with you all on Sunday or Monday.

I need to pinch myself as it doesn't feel possible that I'm actually going away.

Jo4

Mooloo wrote: »

Well my case is packed. It was a difficult choice as to what to pack for day to night etc all in my carry on bag!
It will be an early night as we have to be at Birmingham airport at 5am. So probably up at 3am
I will catch up with you all on Sunday or Monday.

I need to pinch myself as it doesn't feel possible that I'm actually going away.

I hope all goes well. Enjoy yourself!!

Savvy_sewing

Free wifi in a bar we have stopped at for a beer.
We left our room at 10.30 with jumpers and coats. We are now sitting in glorious sunshine after acouple of hours walking and stopping to take in the views. We arrived a little later then expected due to a delay leaving Birmingham, and we left sleet.
We arrived before lunch to a breeze but pleasant enough. Visited a few old haunts and enjoyed the quiet compared to the summer. Hardly any children is a bonus.
DGD wanted to Skype me yesterday evening but I wasn't near wifi at the time. Said we'd look for wifi to call her tonight.
For now it's beer time !

Savvy_sewing

Had a great day yesterday for my friends birthday. We had a lovely meal in a Portuguese restaurant, listened to a singer in one of the bars in the Marina in Vilamoura, wondered round the Casino but didn't spend anything. It was about 1.30am when we got to bed.
We attempted to book a hire car on line, and hope to get that today, and go for a drive to Faro today. That's if it all goes to plan.
We leave for the flight home tomorrow morning around 8am so we should just manage breakfast before we go.

Savvy_sewing

Well I am home. The trip was lovely. A few days seemed a lot longer.
Back this lunchtime to the cold and snow!
DGD was happy to see me, but now is missing mummy again. Can't win them all. Somehow the kitchen window is broken! Nobody seems to know why.
The mould in the downstairs is worse then when I went away, and condensation is everywhere throughout the house.
I think I need to get housing to come and survey what's happening.
Back to work tomorrow. Mixed feelings of whether I want to be home or not!
I am looking forward to starting the changes at the shop, but the weather has delayed the sign writing.
I have put the electric blanket on to heat up my bed, and DGD has taken her hot water bottle.
I think I will be in bed very soon. Call the Midwife may have to wait until another time.
Now is the time to turn my attention back to the budget, the meal planning and the timetable for the coming month.
I will be away again at the end of February but only s flying visit to Dublin to take my Mum to see her brother.
So I must make sure I am on top of everything and an save the fuel money for twin1 to get back up here.
It's the unseen extra's that getting their help involves that I must factor into the budget.

Savvy_sewing

Brrrr is all I can say! I went to bed early last night with the electric blanket on for a while so it was warm and cosy in bed. This morning I woke about 30 minutes ago, and think I may need to sort out an old cardi to put on when I sit up in bed as its cold. I thought I had left the heating on, but maybe I did turn it down. I'm sneezing well, have cracked lips and a bunged up nose! Great start to the day.
A quick peak out of the window tells me at least it's not snowing, and the car parked across mine has at least gone.
I forgot to do the staff wages last night, so I better get the laptop out when I get up and do that. I can tell it was a very quiet week at work as only £140 was banked. That's just less then my daily target. So it's going to be a tough one to meet the bills. I won't know until I get in what work there is in, and waiting for me to do. I will be on my own today. Monday mornings is usually accounts, but if there is a lot of work I will probably need to muscle down and get started as the turn around will be quite tight after nobody sewing since Wednesday.
On the home front I was so tired I forgot about sorting out the school uniform etc to wash, so I hope I can find a clean one in the spare room.
Tonight should be Brownies, but I don't know if DGD will go now I am home. Last time she didn't want to go. After some time without me she wants to be with me. Time will tell I suppose.
On the money side, things are ticking along and the new credit card and bank card have arrived. I just need to activate them, and get the switch over day confirmed from the bank.
Once the new one is up and running, then I will sort out the rest, and close down some of the old ones, I want to stop the CO Op completely, and get everything moved across. So that's the ISA, a current ACc, and a savings account. Not that there is much in them. I only get £110 a week going into the current account these days.
I have managed to keep the £700 savings in my Santander account, and up the ISA to £650.
The current Account in coop has £90 after I paid this weeks fees. The Santander which will soon be first direct has £174 in it.
So not too bad.
The post office account credit card was higher then I thought it would be. Around £600 as there was a few transactions on automatic debit of DGDs toucan boxes, somehow 4 transactions, so there must have sent out more than one every two weeks. I may just get my act together and cancel them, and maybe let DGD have some pocket money to save/spend each week instead.
That's my tea drunk, my situation reviewed and the alarm has gone, so I better go greet the day.