CSA vs Not - What can I legally request?!

Loz01

OP just go to the CSA or whatever its now called. If he really is aggressive and angry then he'll kick off either way about anything so just leave it to them to calculate and sort out and then its not another issue you're trying to sort out personally. But I agree with the poster above, I'd be more concerned about the fact that there were two serious child protection issues yet he still has the child quite a lot, unsupervised and overnight?

Lynxe

Loz01 wrote: »

I'd be more concerned about the fact that there were two serious child protection issues yet he still has the child quite a lot, unsupervised and overnight?

Believe me, we fought this one but our legal advice said that they weren't serious -enough- to warrant supervised access. We argued and argued and eventually it came down to the fact that we -probably- wouldn't win in a court. So we agreed to let it go, sadly.

kingfisherblue

I would have taken my chance in court. You refer to them as serious. The hospital thought they were serious. The child is six. There were two separate incidents. He is an aggressive person.

Have you thought about seeking advice from a different solicitor? The little girl has the right to see her dad, but more importantly, she has the right to be safe.

Lynxe

Neither of the incidents are aggression towards the child, thankfully. If anything, they both class as neglect, which we can "control" by having more custody, if that makes sense.

duchy

With someone so volatile it makes sense to use a government agency to deal with child support . In the short term he'll be furious but in the long term he'll have to accept it or have it taken direct from his pay at source.
The fact he's already threatening to stop paying once your partner is working only underlines the point.

If he turns up hammering on the door - just call the police .

Frankly with a child protection issue or two already raised AND his irrational behaviour I'd not be allowing him to have the child unsupervised until a court had decided if it was appropriate and at what level. The more he ranted the more likely he'd end up with a contact centre access order anyway.

If you have the courage to give him enough rope - he will hang himself -


As for agression not been aimed at the child - If a stranger was hammering on your door, making threats and effing and jeffing - would you be happy for you child to be exposed to this ? The fact he shares genes with her makes it even more unacceptable ! If you want your child to grow up thinking bullying is acceptable - you are going the right way about it

DUTR

Lynxe wrote: »

Neither of the incidents are aggression towards the child, thankfully. If anything, they both class as neglect, which we can "control" by having more custody, if that makes sense.

Careful as earlier you wrote "Fast forward. Two (TWO!!!!!) serious child protection issues in his care result in an out-of-court agreement between him and my OH that we have full custody as of the middle(ish) of December. He has her for 2 nights every fortnight (Fri-Sun) and sees her for three hours once a week on a weeknight. This clearly has implications for the child support payments."

The overnights equate to 1/7 to 2/7 of the max.
Which from the sums you suggested earlier would only get you up to £84pm.
The contact is the standard cafcass offering suggestion.