Social Services say i need to quit job

topaztiger1983

I was always going to take on as much of the care responsibilities as possible whilst working full-time, I am not lazy, a lot of people on here will know that I have gone above and beyond in my job to try to further my career & I would apply the same attitude to parenting

Tiddlywinks

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

We had a previous child removed from our care 6 years ago, but I was due to his extra needs (Autisim) not only our parenting

But we have changed a lot since then

Where is your son now? Still in care? Have you tried to have him back to live with you?

Edited to add: Back in 2012 you said your partner was claiming Carers Allowance for looking after her dad. How come SS now believe she is incapable of caring for a child? Why was she OK looking after her father but not he son?

topaztiger1983

he has been adopted

jetplane

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Where is your son now? Still in care? Have you tried to have him back to live with you?

Edited to add: Back in 2012 you said your partner was claiming Carers Allowance for looking after her dad. How come SS now believe she is incapable of caring for a child? Why was she OK looking after her father but not he son?

There is a whole world of difference between providing 35 hours a week care for a father than looking after, nurturing and meeting the needs of a new born child. You can not compare, surely you already know this?

GwylimT

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Not if he's at work full time and his partner's at home!

So people who work are never at home? What a load of rubbish, a working parent can easily provide all the care a baby needs when they are at home from work.

topaztiger1983

You have to understand the situation when we had our son was not good, we lived in a homeless shelter had hardly any money and just made ends meet & we made some silly mistakes in our parenting (nothing life threatening for our son, btw)

Now we live in a rented house and have a better income & we have changed our lives, don't people deserve a second chance

missbiggles1

GwylimT wrote: »

So people who work are never at home? What a load of rubbish, a working parent can easily provide all the care a baby needs when they are at home from work.

Of course they can and one would hope they would contribute but if one person's out at work all day and the other person's the full time parent and homemaker you wouldn't expect the worker to come home and do the same amount as the person whose job it is.

missbiggles1

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

You have to understand the situation when we had our son was not good, we lived in a homeless shelter had hardly any money and just made ends meet & we made some silly mistakes in our parenting (nothing life threatening for our son, btw)

Now we live in a rented house and have a better income & we have changed our lives, don't people deserve a second chance

Not being nosy but why are Social Services still involved with your family?

topaztiger1983

They were gone but got involved again when partner got pregnant

jetplane

OP have SS spoken about community fostering? In my experience asking the father to give up work is not a request made lightly but are there other options to explore?

I agree with the early poster who suggested posting this in marriage and families or have it moved over, as there are people who understand the process, understand why SS will become involved and can give you informed information and hopefully some good advice.