Present for miserable brother..

Helen_Winkelhock

You should buy him some cool clothes.

Rummer

I tend to give a donation to a charity in their name if it is for someone challenging to choose. That way I am giving them a gift, they can't complain and the charity benefits too

springdreams

Rummer wrote: »

I tend to give a donation to a charity in their name if it is for someone challenging to choose. That way I am giving them a gift, they can't complain and the charity benefits too

Actually, if I were given a charity gift I would complain!

I do support charity, and have a monthly direct debit contribution to the Dogs Trust. I also regularly donate items to my local St Francis Hospice charity shop.

However, when it comes to gifts, I feel that if I am receiving a gift and I choose for it to be a charitable donation instead of something for myself then that is okay. But I think it is cheeky to decide that someone else should be making a contribution to a charitable cause of my choosing, albeit indirectly, by my choosing to make a donation to charity on their behalf instead of giving them a gift. To me that is not a gift to another person if they have not agreed before it is made for that contribution to be made to that particular charity. That is a charitable donation I have chosen to make. In addition, they may not even support the cause of the charity that I have chosen to make the donation to.

If you are going to make charitable contributions instead of giving gifts, that is fine. Just don't pass it off as having given someone a gift by way of giving a charitable contribution in their name!

Hezzawithkids

Families eh? Thank god they're dispensable.

My bro is similar in that he's not miserable but he is self-absorbed. Xmas pressie time is OK because we all get together beforehand for a meal with the explicit intent of exchanging gifts so he has no excuse. Birthdays are another matter. Our kids are all roughly the same age and I always remembered my niece & nephews birthdays with cards and gifts (not that I ever got a thank you from them). However, he hasn't sent my DD so much as a birthday card for the last 5 years and this year he also managed to forget (or ignore) my DS. I'd tolerated it up to that point because I didn't want to take it out on his kids but this year I decided enough was enough and didn't even send a card to either my niece or nephew on their birthdays. Nothing has ever been said. Mind you his kids are so spoiled they probably never even noticed.

Ganga

Why not send him a nice DVD such as A CHRISMAS CAROL or SCROOGED,will make him feel right at home

Ganga