Present for miserable brother..

Katiehound

torbrex wrote: »

Give nothing to him but if you feel the need to give, there is bound to be an animal shelter close enough that you could serve up a dogs dinner in his name.

I love it!

Clearly he won't appreciate anything , so better let some charity have a gift!

duchy

Why do you give gifts ?

If it is to receive thanks then what is the point ?

If it is to make you feel good about yourself ..and it does then do it. If t doesn't make you feel good then don't do it

I personally wouldn't want a gift given grudgingly because someone felt they had to give me something

As for the poster who intercepts gifts from Amazon and unwraps them and wraps them again...... Why ?????

SailorSam

I've given up on my Sister, i don't even bother with a card now. You can only try so fsr.

Kitty777

@duchy I love giving gifts, I love choosing them and the idea of goodwill around this time of year. The issue with my Brother is he is ungreatful all year round and it wears me down sometimes. My concern is as I mentioned that he won't be getting a gift off anyone else and inside that makes me feel sad. My mother (with my recommendation) invites him to her house with me, for Christmas day dinner so that he isn't alone..or so we thought...when last year he came 5mins before dinner was due, ate it quickly, watched TV for 30minutes and then said he had to go as some sport was on at the pub...it left us feeling pretty poopy..

As for intercepting the presents, I think they meant that they take them out of the postage packaging and wrap them with nicer paper. I think the paper bit makes it special especially for children

Pollycat

Kitty777 wrote: »

So my brother (he is 9 years older) and I have never really been that close, and since I moved 40 miles away we haven't really been in contact much. He has never really done the present thing (and we met up for my birthday for a lunch, and he 'forgot' his wallet leaving me to pay..) and never said thank you for the presents I have bought him (nor has he worn the shirt that I bought him last year according to mum). Annoyingly last year he told mutual friends that we weren't doing presents that year because *I* couldn't afford it, even though I had already got him a gift...

I am not fussed about receiving in return, what I am fussed about is manners and a nice 'thank you' text or in person would be nice..

Do I just give up this year? I am also concerned that now he is on his own he won't be receiving any presents as my mother is in no financial state to even do something small...yet I am running out of options as I don't really know him very well to buy him anything decent either..

What does everyone think? Give up? Tin of biscuits? Another Shirt? Scratch card? New car? (Or not...)

For me, that would be the deal-breaker.

Anyone who can't even be bothered to thank someone for a gift deserves nothing (imho).

But I don't take prisoners (nor do I suffer ingrates). :cool:

elsien

Does he even want a present? My brother says he doesn't want anything, and he means it. Doesn't feel right not getting him anything, so having gone with the "miserable sod" t-shirt (which is one of the few things he does wear) I get a couple of crap things from the pound shop (family joke) so he's got something to open with his kids (they get upset if he's got no presents), and otherwise take him at his word.

Susie_Richards

Sounds like your brother doesn't like Christmas and doesn't want any part of it?

He's probably dreading the whole thing?

Maybe he would be happier spending the day in the Pub? (He wont be alone).

Kitty777

He has always been like this though, even when he was 'happily' with his partner and kids...I remember when his youngest son was a toddler and he used to spend christmas morning running round clearing up after him and he used to make him keep some toys in the boxes for weeks...he is just a scrooge! :P

In the end I got him some strawberry cremes (I do know he likes them!) and touch screen gloves from 99p stores. Present done!

pinknfluffy28

This sounds like it could be my brother! He is 4 years younger than me, and has always been a spoilt brat (my parents will happily admit it too!).

He is on his 3rd marriage, and last year I got presents for my 2 nephews & neice, and put together a lovely family night hamper for him, his new wife, and her 2 children.

He got my dd's a selection box each. Never thanked me for any of the gifts, and told our mum he & wife were upset & insulted that I hadn't got his step children individual gifts!

This year, he didn't even send my dd's a card for their birthdays. So I have made the decision that this year, and every year there after, I am buying a gift for my nephews & neice, and he, his wife, and her kids (who I have met once - at their wedding) are getting nothing.

I know this is going to cause upset in the family (he will go crying to mum, she will tell me I'm selfish,) but I am past caring. He is the most ungrateful person I have ever met, and I'm actually ashamed to call him my brother.

bossymoo

duchy wrote: »

As for the poster who intercepts gifts from Amazon and unwraps them and wraps them again...... Why ?????

Kitty777 wrote: »

As for intercepting the presents, I think they meant that they take them out of the postage packaging and wrap them with nicer paper. I think the paper bit makes it special especially for children

That's it, Kitty. Amazon parcels for my kiddies in mahoosive cardboard boxes don't fit under my tree and they are often addressed to me anyway, so I don't know which is which! so I open them, wrap in festive paper, and sign from uncle xxxxx