Petrified of giving birth!

sarahmoon_2

Your all certainly lifting my mood!! It must be the hormones making me cry this morning (I'm not a cryer and it suprised me when I closed the door on the health care guy and burst into tears). I'm feeling okay about it now, I know deep down it will all be fine, its just the waiting and wondering I suppose, it drives you mad!!!! My midwife should be up sometime this week now anyway to check the gas and air are working, I'll try and have a chat with her then.

pnq06

Honestly hun, you've got nothing to worry about...
You know its gonna hurt and you know its going to feel like it takes forever...
But I find some comfort in the poor women for 100's of years who managed without drugs or help for that matter!!! Girl power

loobs40

I had a home birth for my second child, 7 years after a traumatic hospital birth with my first. Took me that long to pluck up courage to have a second!

As labour started any fears I had seemed to go and I just concentrated on getting over the pain and contractions. My mantra during this time which i repeated under my breath to cope with the contractions was 'I'm not having another f**ing baby after this one'

And sure enough it worked

sarahmoon_2

loobs40 wrote: »

I had a home birth for my second child, 7 years after a traumatic hospital birth with my first. Took me that long to pluck up courage to have a second!

As labour started any fears I had seemed to go and I just concentrated on getting over the pain and contractions. My mantra during this time which i repeated under my breath to cope with the contractions was 'I'm not having another f**ing baby after this one'

And sure enough it worked

Lobbs thansk for that it made me laugh!! I said that last time but then this happened!!

dollop

sarahmoon wrote: »

Hi all, just want to get it all out really. I'm 37+4 with my fourth child and this time for some stupid reason I am absolutely s!!t scared of giving birth. I'm booked in for a home birth because of a bad experience at hospital last time and my gas and air arrived this morning. I've done nothing but bubble since then!! I know I should be rational, I've done this three times and it wasn't that bad, sore yes, painful yes, but forgotton about the minute they were all born. But this time I am just so scared! I just feel pretty alone, everytime I leave the house someone asks how long etc etc, and I feel I can't explain to anyone how scared I am as they would just think I'm mad having done it already. Anyone else feel similar?

sarah hun i can totally sympathise with you, i was absolutely terrified id had a deadfull experince with my second thought i was going to die,i went onto have another one and done the domino birth which wasnt to bad but still painfull and was absolutely crapping myself but i was fine,then it came to baby number 4 which ive just had honest to god i have no nails left cause i bit them all while i was pregnant,i was smoking and smoking more than normal and then id feel guilty about the harm it was doing to baby and it was like a viscous circle,sounds pathetic but ive never been so scared in all my life,what made it worst was i booked a home birth obviously so i would be more relaxed and cope with it better,i had people giving me all the negatives about a home birth which made me feel even more worst,and you know what one midwife actually said to me the safest place you can have a baby is at home,and you get the undivided attention of a midwife unlike in hospital,that is of course if the midwife arrives on time lol as mine diddnt make it she foned me and said she couldnt see hte numbers on the doors could i send my fellow out sent him out she asked him to help her in with th e stuff and id already had the baby lol it was amasing it was very very quick and ill tell you what its the best birth ive ever had and i done it all on me lonesome (am proud lol) i do think youve made the right choice having a home birth(get a 6 pack of stella in) lol cause belive me if id had any in i woulda drunk em all lol,and just relax and go with the flow,its natrual to be scared petrified even and f you ever need a chat just pm me,also talk to your midwifes tell them how your feeling,tell anyone who will listen cause getting that little bit of re assurance will make u feel a little better (hey at least you got the gas n air there lol) i had bog all lol and look at me im fine wish i could give you a cuddle now cause i know how bad you feel if you need a chat please feel free to pm me ok,forgot to mention he came out in one push too and the quickest birth ive ever had so thats one consolation the more you have the quicker they are lol,anyhow ive babbled on enough now please feel free to pm anytime,and good luck hun youll be fine xxxxxxx

dollop

loobs40 wrote: »

I had a home birth for my second child, 7 years after a traumatic hospital birth with my first. Took me that long to pluck up courage to have a second!

As labour started any fears I had seemed to go and I just concentrated on getting over the pain and contractions. My mantra during this time which i repeated under my breath to cope with the contractions was 'I'm not having another f**ing baby after this one'

And sure enough it worked

lmao i was counting like a lunatic lmao with the window open at !!!!!!! 3,00am i musta sounded like a right !!!!!!! looney if any of the neigbours had been awake lol i fink i said summat along the lines of no more kids for me lol and they always say you forget once youve had it (i dont think so)lmao

sarahmoon_2

Thank you so much for that dollop. The midwife has been again this morning to heck the gas and air are working and to deliver the bl!!dy huge birth pack aswell so its really sinking in now that its on its way. I asked about a membrane sweep nearer the time because I was induced with the other three and really really want to go into labour myself this time and experience what I would call a normal birth (i.e. not a forced one). I have followed your story over the past couple of weeks and was so proud of you to read that you did it alone!! I've calmed down a lot and seem to have had yet another bloody nesting instinct, I havent stopped this morning! We have a bottle of champagne chilling in the fridge ready (we got it as a gift two years ago buit haven't really had anything to celebrate until now). My neighbour had a home birth and I've chatted to her a lot. I'm just hoping I can stay calm through it all. As for the smoking I have to say as bad as I feel I am guilty of that too. The more I try and cut back the more I want one. It is a vicious circle like you say. Anyway I've got a huge walk to and from football training with my wee boy tonight, my hubby can't do it because he trains an under 16s team on a Friday night so maybe that will get things moving!! I'll certainly keep you updated.

Have you a name yet?? Hope all is well. Thanks again.

Sarah

Snaggles

Hi Sarah, just wanted to pop in and wish you luck for the birth.

I hated every second of the birth of my first, so I was absolutely petrified when I got close to my due date with my second. In amongst, I kept having the odd 'brave' day, where I thought 'okay, I'm ready, bring it on', but then I would go back to carping myself again the next day.

The second time I gave birth couldn't have been more different to the first though, it was VERY quick, a bit scary, quite uncomfortable (but not the unbearable agony that I'd expected), but I really loved it - I would do it again now if I could!

With every contraction I tried to think about what my body was actually doing (ie pushing the baby out), and I kept thinking 'every contraction I have is one contraction closer to holding my baby' (cheesy I know, but whatever gets you through eh? ).

You don't actually need to hear any of this though, you KNOW you will be fine, you have done it before, and when the baby is ready to come out, your instincts will take over, and you will find a way to cope.

All the best and can't wait to hear about the new addition to your family.

Bettyboop

I had a c-section the first time and even though I am pregnant with the second I am sh*t scared of giving birth. The first was very traumatic they she ended up being an emergency and I had to have injections in my stomach for 5 days! Good Luck and I hope it all goes well for you.

sarahmoon_2

Thank you Snaggles and Bettyboop. I'm sure that things will be fine, today has been a braver day and like you said I'm like bring it on today, tomorrow no doubt I will be a bag of nerves again!! This has got to be the worst part of pregnancy, the final weeks!!