DLA for children with behavioural problems

serenity2012

I find it amazing that parents with badly behaved children always try and fit that behaviour into some medical term. Why on earth would you need extra money for this? What are your extra expenses? I really think its getting ridiculous now. Sometimes children are just badly behaved. It isn't a disability.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

serenity2012 wrote: »

I find it amazing that parents with badly behaved children always try and fit that behaviour into some medical term. Why on earth would you need extra money for this? What are your extra expenses? I really think its getting ridiculous now. Sometimes children are just badly behaved. It isn't a disability.

1.Dla need no medical diagnosis in order to be awarded there just has to be more care and mobility needs than that compared to a child of the same age.


2. You are obviously blessed in this life or have no children, or you simply wouldnt be so judgemental.


3. Costs involved can be ludicrous, How about a new TV broken in a fit of rage, perhaps some internal doors and stud partition walls to be repaired after a blow out, or fixing the neighbors car after your child for no reason took his anger out all over it!, or perhaps the extra costs of taxi's because you and your child are banned from public transport due to dangerous behaviour being displayed all the time that could distract the operator form driving and walking could just be as dangerous if not more dangerous than giving your child a sharp knife to play with for e.g not to mention plates, cups, glass, cutlery, computer remote controllers, tv remotes house keys. Not to mention other obsessions such as expensive activities.


4. some children are just naughty, but this doesn't usually extend 24/7 365 days per year though does it!

marleyboy

serenity2012 wrote: »

I find it amazing that parents with badly behaved children always try and fit that behaviour into some medical term. Why on earth would you need extra money for this? What are your extra expenses? I really think its getting ridiculous now. Sometimes children are just badly behaved. It isn't a disability.

Until you have spent time with a disabled child with behavioural difficulties, you're really not in a position to make such a judgement.

My son is on the severe side of Autism, a result of being born premature and with a bleed to the brain. His disability could not be diagnosed until he was 3. It was discovered he was also deaf, however his autism meant they could not establish his level of deafness.

Now at 6, he still cannot talk, nor can he sign or even go to the toilet, his communications involve gestures. You cannot possibly know how easy a frustrated autistic child can snap.

Just last Month his first tooth fell out. This cost us around £400 in damages after his uncontrollable meltdown meant not only replacing what he has smashed, but padding his wall and door, so he could not injure himself like that again. Thats just from one tooth.

I am a pretty well built, tough nut to crack, no nonsense kind of bloke. I still cannot control his meltdowns, particularly if there is a particular toy he has lost in the house, out of hundreds of toys. He cannot tell me which toy he wants, in fact he could not even tell me he has lost a toy. Thats more than enough for a severe meltdown.

So off the handle he can be without warning, he still has to be placed in a disabled buggy just so he can go outside safely without randomly wanting to fly off into the middle of a busy road, his disability means he has no sense of danger whatsoever, so heights, traffic or fire is completely irrelevant to him in what he does.

These are just the tiny things I am talking about, the grand scale is far beyond your limited knowledge of what a disable child with behaviour issues actually is.

swt4ajt

Thanks for your posts!

Sorry for going so defensive but the post did seem a little belittling

Also thanks atrixblue.-MFR and Marleyboy!
This is exactaly what we are going through, one minute he is cool calm and collected and the next its like a a light switch has been flipped and boom he goes into a melt down

I seriously cannot sum up the amount of damage hes done in recent years!

lemontart

It is a case of persistence with medic's to get to the bottom of things, and yes sadly at 11 hormones are beginning to kick in and do not help either. exacipating an already difficult situation. Took 15 years for my daughter to get a diagnosis of aspergers, after years of child and family guidance, suicide attempts, self harm and extreme tantrums and more. And the hormones kicking in made it a whole lot worse.

marleyboy

swt4ajt wrote: »

Thanks for your posts!

Sorry for going so defensive but the post did seem a little belittling

Also thanks atrixblue.-MFR and Marleyboy!
This is exactaly what we are going through, one minute he is cool calm and collected and the next its like a a light switch has been flipped and boom he goes into a melt down

I seriously cannot sum up the amount of damage hes done in recent years!

It might be worth thinking about videoing his meltdowns, to at least give his doctor a clearer idea of what you are going through.

Our Son went through a period of epilepsy, he would go into some sort of sneezing fit. These were short, sporadic spasms so it was near impossible to get his doctor to see them happen, as soon as we filmed it the doctor instantly knew what the problem was and had him sent to hospital for tests. safe to say we caught it early enough for the hospital to diagnose and resolve it.

jak

Hiya one of the first things I had to do was a parenting course which was incredible years for challenging behavior. It was really good and helped me and my son a lot. When it was first suggested I was horrified and took it personally but actual it was well worth doing. I apologise if I offended you, that wasn't my intention. Patenting courses are often a means to an end in that unless you have done one you won't be offered any other support. So just from
That perspective it's worth doing. I hope things get easier for
You. My son is autistic and the difference I'm him is amazing now I know how to handle him. I wasn't a bad parent before But I didn't have a clue how to cope with his violence and meltdown and was making them worse! At one point he tried to burn the house down! Now, however, he very rarely melts down, he is happy and pretty well adjusted. And a lot of that is down to me knowing how to deal with him more effectively and quite honestly that course made all the difference in our lives x