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Savvybuyer

TrulyMadly wrote: »

Yes Savvy.....I do sums in my head...then Mr TM falls off his bike...then Oz wants to go out.......so I start my shop again....then mr TM starts pedalling....then I start my shop again:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Thank you. I was just writing out an epic post... and then, eventually, the screen flashed and lost everything! Basically about how mhoc earlier had said I was liked for the font of knowledge but how I'd been reading, including the other night away from here, again about Asperger's and how people who have Asperger's are disliked. I couldn't have thought that as I think I'm a kind, nice person who is good to get to know, but I can see how someone that corrects someone all the time (especially if the correction is correct - http://theemergencesite.com/FearMonsterColumn/FearMonsters-03Feb08.htm) or who blurts out truths that are embarrassing - or who sometimes steps into your personal space because I can't always see where the invisible boundaries of it begin and end and sometimes, because of my gait, I keep moving and moving and moving... and keep moving through space and end up not stopping... can be disliked.

I wonder if that's the reason for my lack of social success. And is why I never make true friends, but people are always acquaintances. I don't think it is though - I think it's more to do with lack of body language connections (face-to-face in RL) and because I don't get involved in "small" talk and therefore people simply can't see themselves as being closer to me. It's more to do with subtle impressions that I leave, that people can't ignore/put aside because they are not fully aware that they have those impressions.

However, the trouble is that, if people did dislike me, then they don't tell me to my face, because people don't do that - instead they would have "told" me via their body language - but that is an ineffective method of communication and never even gets received by me because I don't see it. Are people who have Asperger's generally disliked? Is there something off-putting about them? (Or me, including me.) I can see they are a bit "off", in that we don't always behave as socially expected to do, but our behaviour, whilst a bit "odd" at times, isn't usually too disconcerting (more "eccentric" than unacceptable - and, I have no choice, but if I did have a choice, I would choose, deliberately, to be eccentric).

So, I can see that you "like" me, for my font of knowledge, but surely I'm irritating when I correct people on here sometimes and I'm disliked for that? If you did dislike me, you wouldn't tell me - but, come on, be honest! You dislike me, in some aspects, don't you? You do - you'll say you don't, but that's just something that people say! Am I right or am I not?

shirley999

aau1 wrote: »

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aau1 wrote: »

Oh well, never mind

I just looked on Snap and Save and the offer has gone now anyway

Was it ever on Snap & Save (topcashback)? It was, and still is, on Clicksnap (Quidco).

zippydooda

rose28454 wrote: »

Checked my mums phone bill with Sky on the tv today and I see she had 2 phone calls costing over £9.00 each to these 2 numbers, 09068786060 and 09067393030. I looked them up online and one seems to be a draw line for Daytime tv and other mentions people being called and the calls costing them loads. My Mum wouldnt be able to write down a tv draw number in time so I can only think they called her. I am not sure what to do?

put it down as lost, now the next step would be to bar outgoing premium numbers, im sure you can do this for about £1
must be a good investment for peace of mind

Savvybuyer

There's another thing I have not reached (in other words not got round to mentioning) on here yet. The woman and the TBG. Been intending to post a link to that (you'll have no idea what I'm going on about here btw:rotfl:) and discuss it, but I'm just not getting to it - because of my own disorganisation and "executive dysfunctioning":D. Rather nice that is - I like the words in which I've put it! It can be a problem though, to some extent (it's not totally debilitating, but it's there to some degree) with putting things off in RL other than your 'special interest', although they do get done eventually, although this time I'm putting off aspects of my special interest:huh:?!? It's just too long-winded for me to go and deal with the TBG article and dissect it all. So I won't bother - or not got to it yet. (If I ever get to it, I may. It's not urgent and can be 'anytime'.) I think I'll do the Morries collection tomorrow instead:rotfl:.

[Basically, the TBG, some newspaper had someone trying out the TBG. And she seems happy that she got a voucher (maybe this is now a :wall: symbol) - by buying products more expensive at T for a price-match - though it was not for the amount she expected! But, she seems totally confused - and admits to being finding it confusing in her article - precisely what the stores want it may be thought! - and did it all wrong as she has mixed up all her shops (thinking she would get price matches to A, S and M by buying cheaper items for each of them all in one shop). She actually ended up paying T more for a couple of items than for a competitor whose prices she was trying to match but which was not the cheapest overall competitor on her overall shop. She thinks an item failed to compare to M even though they have it cheaper and thinks she would have got that price match had it compared. However, her shop was cheapest at A and would still have been cheapest at A even if the M item (she thinks they have at £x price - I have no clue as it's too expensive for me:rotfl:) had appeared, so she would not have got that price match. She would probably not understand why and would probably be totally confused if I were to tell her this:rotfl:. Anyway, possibly, a full look later, on another day - if I ever reach it:o:o!:D]

zippydooda

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Thank you. I was just writing out an epic post... and then, eventually, the screen flashed and lost everything! Basically about how mhoc earlier had said I was liked for the font of knowledge but how I'd been reading, including the other night away from here, again about Asperger's and how people who have Asperger's are disliked. I couldn't have thought that as I think I'm a kind, nice person who is good to get to know, but I can see how someone that corrects someone all the time (especially if the correction is correct - http://theemergencesite.com/FearMonsterColumn/FearMonsters-03Feb08.htm) or who blurts out truths that are embarrassing - or who sometimes steps into your personal space because I can't always see where the invisible boundaries of it begin and end and sometimes, because of my gait, I keep moving and moving and moving... and keep moving through space and end up not stopping... can be disliked.

I wonder if that's the reason for my lack of social success. And is why I never make true friends, but people are always acquaintances. I don't think it is though - I think it's more to do with lack of body language connections (face-to-face in RL) and because I don't get involved in "small" talk and therefore people simply can't see themselves as being closer to me. It's more to do with subtle impressions that I leave, that people can't ignore/put aside because they are not fully aware that they have those impressions.

However, the trouble is that, if people did dislike me, then they don't tell me to my face, because people don't do that - instead they would have "told" me via their body language - but that is an ineffective method of communication and never even gets received by me because I don't see it. Are people who have Asperger's generally disliked? Is there something off-putting about them? (Or me, including me.) I can see they are a bit "off", in that we don't always behave as socially expected to do, but our behaviour, whilst a bit "odd" at times, isn't usually too disconcerting (more "eccentric" than unacceptable - and, I have no choice, but if I did have a choice, I would choose, deliberately, to be eccentric).

So, I can see that you "like" me, for my font of knowledge, but surely I'm irritating when I correct people on here sometimes and I'm disliked for that? If you did dislike me, you wouldn't tell me - but, come on, be honest! You dislike me, in some aspects, don't you? You do - you'll say you don't, but that's just something that people say! Am I right or am I not?

it wouldnt be a correction if it were not correct
also you dont have to have asperger's to correct someone all the time. aau springs to mind. i get away on that, as when i try to im the one that ends up wrong :rotfl:

Savvybuyer

zippydooda wrote: »

put it down as lost, now the next step would be to bar outgoing premium numbers, im sure you can do this for about £1
must be a good investment for peace of mind

I thought you could do it for free? (Why pay for it?) Or is that now way out of date? It could be. I'm not aware that they now charge:eek: you for this! It ought to be free. But I wouldn't be surprised if, today, in the competitive marketplace, the phone companies charge for this:(:eek:.

EDIT: It may be just like directory enquiries. It used to be clear and simple - then they brought in numerous competitors to make it "clear and simple" and it's never been so complicated and confusing as it has been since! Now it seems it's absolutely expensive (though I don't know whether it is or not as I'm so confused by it), more so than it ever was, and a commercial opportunity for companies. Especially when phone numbers can be found online for free (effectively, obviously you pay your broadband costs and electricity costs). Thus, IMO, there is never any need to ring directory enquiry lines ever.

altojack

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Thank you. I was just writing out an epic post... and then, eventually, the screen flashed and lost everything! Basically about how mhoc earlier had said I was liked for the font of knowledge but how I'd been reading, including the other night away from here, again about Asperger's and how people who have Asperger's are disliked. I couldn't have thought that as I think I'm a kind, nice person who is good to get to know, but I can see how someone that corrects someone all the time (especially if the correction is correct - http://theemergencesite.com/FearMonsterColumn/FearMonsters-03Feb08.htm) or who blurts out truths that are embarrassing - or who sometimes steps into your personal space because I can't always see where the invisible boundaries of it begin and end and sometimes, because of my gait, I keep moving and moving and moving... and keep moving through space and end up not stopping... can be disliked.

I wonder if that's the reason for my lack of social success. And is why I never make true friends, but people are always acquaintances. I don't think it is though - I think it's more to do with lack of body language connections (face-to-face in RL) and because I don't get involved in "small" talk and therefore people simply can't see themselves as being closer to me. It's more to do with subtle impressions that I leave, that people can't ignore/put aside because they are not fully aware that they have those impressions.

However, the trouble is that, if people did dislike me, then they don't tell me to my face, because people don't do that - instead they would have "told" me via their body language - but that is an ineffective method of communication and never even gets received by me because I don't see it. Are people who have Asperger's generally disliked? Is there something off-putting about them? (Or me, including me.) I can see they are a bit "off", in that we don't always behave as socially expected to do, but our behaviour, whilst a bit "odd" at times, isn't usually too disconcerting (more "eccentric" than unacceptable - and, I hbe ave no choice, but if I did have a choice, I would choose, deliberately, to be eccentric).

So, I can see that you "like" me, for my font of knowledge, but surely I'm irritating when I correct people on here sometimes and I'm disliked for that? If you did dislike me, you wouldn't tell me - but, come on, be honest! You dislike me, in some aspects, don't you? You do - you'll say you don't, but that's just something that people say! Am I right or am I not?

Give over Savvy, if someone one here disliked you they would ignore you, be off hand with you, hint they didn't like you. I've never seen any of that so I would say in general you are well liked you nutter.
As far as having Asperger's, to me that makes no difference at all. Yes, you are different but you've said it yourself, you are eccentric but that suits me as I'm a little that way myself.

You come across as a kind person and a person I would love to get to know, and although you are unable to show it, a caring person. Yes, getting close to people to form relationships /friendships is hard but not impossible even for you.


And on that note I must go to bed, I find my fingers want to hit keys that I don't want to. If I did that Savvy would be after me :rotfl:

Night night all , see you tomorrow x

Savvybuyer

zippydooda wrote: »

it wouldnt be a correction if it were not correct
also you dont have to have asperger's to correct someone all the time. aau springs to mind. i get away on that, as when i try to im the one that ends up wrong :rotfl:

To correct you, you (not literally you;)) can make a correction and be wrong.
A person on another website did that the other day. And I then came in - carefully and politely of course - and corrected them for being wrong. (I didn't exactly say it like that. Online, at least you can think about what you are writing and correct it before you post. Or afterwards in my cases of edits on here:rotfl:. Which I do all the time. Er, anyway... it's more in RL spoken situations, where it's more difficult to get my words correct - in order to ensure that I give any correction tactfully - and therefore I end up just keeping quiet. Besides, the conversation has always moved on by the time I've had the extra processing time that I need in order to think about exactly what to say.)

Savvybuyer

altojack wrote: »

Give over Savvy, if someone one here disliked you they would ignore you, be off hand with you, hint they didn't like you. I've never seen any of that so I would say in general you are well liked you nutter.
As far as having Asperger's, to me that makes no difference at all. Yes, you are different but you've said it yourself, you are eccentric but that suits me as I'm a little that way myself.

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I wouldn't notice it if people were ignoring me. They don't speak to me and tell me that's what they're doing (on this thread). Hints don't work either, so that's useless.

However, I'm glad you've been looking on my behalf:rotfl:.
I've just noticed that you've called me a "nutter":rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:.

Twenty years ago, when it could probably now be argued that I was one:rotfl:, I would have been really offended by that as I rationally considered terms relating to mental illness, sexuality and discrimination to be far far worse than even regular swearing and because I was really rules-based and had read about the Press Council upholding complaints about the use of that word during the 1980s under its clause relating to "discrimination" so, in accordance with that rule, I therefore personally took offence. Now, however, I've moved away from my strict adherence to rules in order to try to conform to the rest of society and, as such, I like what you said in the particularity of your post there, and I appreciate the banter there:T.

Gosh, I am such an odd person!:laugh:

Savvybuyer

altojack wrote: »

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You come across as a kind person and a person I would love to get to know, and although you are unable to show it, a caring person. Yes, getting close to people to form relationships /friendships is hard but not impossible even for you.


And on that note I must go to bed, I find my fingers want to hit keys that I don't want to. If I did that Savvy would be after me :rotfl:

Night night all , see you tomorrow x

I understand it that you mean unable to show it on this thread because it is not RL interaction. In other words, not face-to-face (or may not literally be face-to-face but I mean dealing in RL around and in the physical presence of other people etc. (Though no-one other than an Asperger would add this clarification:rotfl:)).