Husband not coping

Crazy_Diamond

Thanks everyone for your replies and support. I think the major issue is my husband coming to terms with our son's diagnosis. The person that equated it to grief over a life provided a very accurate description of how my husband feels. I don't however think he could be persuaded to see a councillor. I think it would be really helpful if he could speak to other Dad's in similar situations, I will suggest the facebook group to him. He has come along to some of the events at our sons school but unfortunately they have all been just attended by mums and he feels a bit out of place.

I have tried to encourage my husband to do things at the weekend. He used to like horse riding so I booked him on a hack. He says he would however do things with me so we usually go out as a family. We do get a bit of respite every few months or so when grandparents look after our son for a night, neither set live very close, 200+ miles away but do visit occasionally.

Workwise I am not sure what we can do. We had to fight the local authority to get our son a place at the right school and now he is there we do not want to move him so we can't really move house. Maybe when my husband has been at his job for a bit longer he can ask for more flexible hours.

VfM4meplse

OP, I think you need to be aware that you are in dangerous territory here. Your DH doesn't interact with DS at all during the week! It sounds to me like your DH is gradually detaching himself which could have disasterous consequences for your family unit.

Get him involved in your sons care, starting at the weekends. Then work on getting DH to bed at 11.30pm and waking up at 7am on weekdays, which will at least give him half an hour to interact with DS before school. Good luck.