DBS check and working with children.

BlueEyedGirl

GwylimT wrote: »

My caution shows up from when I was 19, being drunk and disorderly for throwing a chicken nugget at a police car because it looked hungry.

That made me laugh! :rotfl:

wilbo1974

sangie595 wrote: »

If you wish to be more involved in your child life your wife has said that you can see her whenever you want. Why can you not be satisfied with that?

I feel very vulnerable because access to my daughter rests with the decision of the mother. One week could be fine the next not.
I know it is pathetic but we have BOTH proven time and again that we can't agree on even small things. Very frequently contact turns petty and obstructive.
The law clearly states that parents must share as much as possible the parenting. I know we are pathetic but there is a system to help us. The law doesn't care about my or the mothers feelings only about the child's welfare and that's why I think we need the court.

Johnnytwostep

wilbo1974 wrote: »

I feel very vulnerable because access to my daughter rests with the decision of the mother. One week could be fine the next not.
I know it is pathetic but we have BOTH proven time and again that we can't agree on even small things. Very frequently contact turns petty and obstructive.
The law clearly states that parents must share as much as possible the parenting. I know we are pathetic but there is a system to help us. The law doesn't care about my or the mothers feelings only about the child's welfare and that's why I think we need the court.

quite right too

tomtontom

wilbo1974 wrote: »

Please keep up mate, I mentioned that already in post #4 of this thread. We are now #28

You'll see I was responding to becket, who posted incorrect information.

You need to speak to the mother. If she doesn't like your plans and she complains then it turns into a safeguarding issue. I don't think you realise quite how big an issue this could become.

wilbo1974

tomtontom wrote: »

You'll see I was responding to becket, who posted incorrect information.

You need to speak to the mother. If she doesn't like your plans and she complains then it turns into a safeguarding issue. I don't think you realise quite how big an issue this could become.

I am amicable with the mother. We both have Elsie at the centre of our hearts.
I'm not doing this as a power trip thing. And she knows I'm not doing it as a power trip thing.

sangie595

tomtontom wrote: »

You need to speak to the mother. If she doesn't like your plans and she complains then it turns into a safeguarding issue. I don't think you realise quite how big an issue this could become.

The OP appears to be unwilling or unable to recognise just how badly this could blow up in their face. Assumi9ng that this person actually exists and it is not just another big wind up to enable them to have a go at other people who mistakenly are trying to help someone in need. Seems to be quite a few of those around here - ask a question and then insult people.

OP if you really are genuine and not just another troll, you need to stop and listen to yourself. In one post you say that your ex says you can have access whenever you want, and next the two of you can't agree on small things and contact turns petty and cobstructive. If it really is that bad (and obviously we have only one side of the story) can you not see that what you are proposing is going to fuel another harassment allegation for following your daughter around? Volunteering is not a method of contact. If you want more contact with the child and you and the mother cannot agree, then you must do things properly and through the legal system. The route you are proposing could easily end up with you having all access terminated by court order.

wilbo1974

sangie595 wrote: »

The OP appears to be unwilling or unable to recognise just how badly this could blow up in their face. Assumi9ng that this person actually exists and it is not just another big wind up to enable them to have a go at other people who mistakenly are trying to help someone in need. Seems to be quite a few of those around here - ask a question and then insult people.

OP if you really are genuine and not just another troll, you need to stop and listen to yourself. In one post you say that your ex says you can have access whenever you want, and next the two of you can't agree on small things and contact turns petty and cobstructive. If it really is that bad (and obviously we have only one side of the story) can you not see that what you are proposing is going to fuel another harassment allegation for following your daughter around? Volunteering is not a method of contact. If you want more contact with the child and you and the mother cannot agree, then you must do things properly and through the legal system. The route you are proposing could easily end up with you having all access terminated by court order.

Thank God you have no real time power in the world. I asked one simple question and this is your answer? What a joke!

sangie595

wilbo1974 wrote: »

Thank God you have no real time power in the world. I asked one simple question and this is your answer? What a joke!

Ok then... troll

Such a shame that you have nothing better to do with your life.

BlueEyedGirl

sangie595 wrote: »

Ok then... troll

I don't see a troll, I see a frustrated father who wants to see more of his daughter, whom he clearly loves.

MataNui

It WILL show on the DBS report. I can 100% guarantee that. In general if you fail to disclose something during an interview or on your application and it shows up on the DBS you can be asked to leave instantly.

Given that you will need to volunteer the information upfront and explain what it will show (harassment of your own family) and you are looking at volunteering in your daughters school would you give yourself the position? I sure as hell wouldnt.

Mitigation simply wont come into it. I am not saying i dont believe you (a lot of us have had some pretty bad experiences during break ups) but look at it cold and logically. You have a conviction for harassing your ex and child and now you are applying to work in your childs school.

If you are honest and tell them upfront about the conviction you wont get the position. If you try to conceal it when they get the DBS check you wont get the position. Also if that happens and the ex finds out then she may make another complaint and it could be jail time as that would likely be seen as continued harassment.