Clingy baby - advice please!

owsaboutthatthen

Thanks for all your helpful advice. I do try the singing/talking to let her know I have not completely left her for the evening or whenever I walk out of the room. She still cries in between the pauses. She was terribly upset earlier today she was in her cot while I was getting my son and I dressed etc and she would not stop crying, even though she could hear us. I made sure she had everything she needed, clean nappy, toys, drink etc etc but she just carried on until it was time to go back downstairs and she was in my arms! However I will take on board some of your suggestions and see how I go on.

squashy

mossstar wrote: »

I'm (very) anti controlled-anything, I'm afraid... do your research very carefully folks.

I found it really natural to do 'attachment parenting' where I ACTIVELY shared my bed with my babies... they gradually moved to their own beds around the late twos to three.

Your daughter wants to be with you, unless you really REALLY need to be on your own, then why don't you just sleep with her? you'll both get more sleep and be way more relaxed, and it IS such a short time really.

If that would make YOU suffer though (i know that sometimes you just want to climb out of your own skin to be alone! i know i did) - you could let her fall asleep with you and then move her when she's fast asleep...

good luck, i feel for you.

Hang on to the mantra 'this too shall pass'.

x

Couldn't have put it better myself :T

Good luck xxx

scrimpingbadger

Controlled crying worked for us. We still have little man in with us from time to time but he's so squiggly he keeps us awake. I reasoned it like this - my boy needs to have a fully functioning mother during the day (he gets up at 5am so the day is very long) therefore he needs to learn to go to sleep by himself.

I would add that they do go through clingy stages and it will pass. They're all different - thank goodness!!

Oh, and I shoudn't say this but I will- Medised saved us on many a long teething night.

crispeater

dunno if this would help but both my children have a portable cd player in their rooms and they have a cd called pure lullabys. its a woman singing obviously lullabys in a classical tone and it has their names in it. quite hard to describe but my 4 yr old still has hers on as she loves it and they are both asleep before the end of it and if ds (2 next month) wakes up for what appears to be a dream or something i just hit play and off he goes back to sleep..

this is what they have http://www.ababycd.co.uk/

and i am no way connected to the site in anyway, its just a really nice cd and helps me sleep on a bad night

hampshirebabe

owsaboutthatthen wrote: »

She was terribly upset earlier today she was in her cot while I was getting my son and I dressed etc and she would not stop crying, even though she could hear us.

Hi, please dont shoot me for saying this, but couldn't you just take her with you while your in another room, put her on the floor with a few toys. I know several people who say 'babies cry for attention', but whats wrong with that? If I was stuck in a cot for what must seem to a baby like hours, while I could hear my mum and brother playing in another room, I'd want to join in too.
I take my 7 month old DD into whichever room I'm in, either on the bed, in the highchair in the kitchen, or just on the floor. She's happy as anything, I get on with what I'm doing and if I go into another room for a few mins, she's usualy too distracted to notice. If she's not walking yet, could you get one of those baby walker things with wheels on so she could just follow you around? They're the sort of thing people keep but dont use, you could ask on freecycle if anyones got one.
Mary

owsaboutthatthen

hampshirebabe wrote: »

Hi, please dont shoot me for saying this, but couldn't you just take her with you while your in another room, put her on the floor with a few toys. I know several people who say 'babies cry for attention', but whats wrong with that? If I was stuck in a cot for what must seem to a baby like hours, while I could hear my mum and brother playing in another room, I'd want to join in too.
I take my 7 month old DD into whichever room I'm in, either on the bed, in the highchair in the kitchen, or just on the floor. She's happy as anything, I get on with what I'm doing and if I go into another room for a few mins, she's usualy too distracted to notice. If she's not walking yet, could you get one of those baby walker things with wheels on so she could just follow you around? They're the sort of thing people keep but dont use, you could ask on freecycle if anyones got one.
Mary

I've tried that Mary - didn't work for me! The toys/tv etc etc didn't end up as a distraction, just the idea of me walking out of the room! She isn't quite walking on her own yet - I have a walker with wheels but she won't use it! Oh well I will persevere i'm hoping it won't last forever!

harrysmum03_2

Try ashton and parsons infant powders i used them for all my children since having my 11yr old and a
have always advised people to try them , they won't work over night but give them a few days i think they work wonders.
a told a friend of mine about them 9 yrs ago and she still to this day thanks me for it.