House Guest staying longer

maninthestreet

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

Yes, I suppose she may find a boyfriend locally. But I don't see it as a "risk". If she found a new boyfriend, he could take care of her and I would be back to normal. I wouldn't let a new boyfriend move in, obviously.

I haven't noticed any real increase in my costs. Plus it's nice to have some company, so I'm happy for her to stay.

If she found a new BF, she might invite him to live in her (i.e, your) home...rent-free!

Penguin_Biscuit

Jhoney wrote: »

What was your cousin's plan after 'a while' was up? Their flat wasn't going to get any bigger in the interim.

Also why didn't your cousin direct them to Social services initially? I would have crossed them off my christmas list weeks ago for this alone, but I am not you.

You say you do not wish to ask for rent, then several posts later appear to be mulling over taking rent if she can get HB, which is it? It seems your ok with her staying for free if she has no money, but equally happy to take what little she may be entitled to, thus preventing her from getting herself and child into some form of secure independent living situation.

This is not good however you spin it.

I don't follow what you mean by preventing her getting independent living situation. Surely she can apply whether I accept rent from her or not.

Obviously I can't expect rent, if she hasn't got the money available. I don't see how that makes me dishonest.

Penguin_Biscuit

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

You are being very kind OP - but I just have this feeling it aint gonna end well.

Lets hope I'm proved wrong.

So - as you're not getting any money from her currently - then what way is she "paying her way" currently? Is she doing all the housework/cooking/etc for instance?

Yes she does do some cooking and cleaning. But as she has a young baby, not that much obviously. But there's only two of us, so it's not much more than one really.
My cousine comes over to help. But it's more social really.

Penguin_Biscuit

maninthestreet wrote: »

If she found a new BF, she might invite him to live in her (i.e, your) home...rent-free!

I wouldn't allow any boyfriend to move in.
Should I put that in any lodger contract I get?

I suppose I should really get it translated also?

PlymouthMaid

Oh dear. I do hope this doesn't backfire spectacularly for the OP but there are lots of alarm bells. How is this girl buying food and baby stuff with no job or benefits? Pretty cheeky of the cousin to offload the girl onto you and letting 'stay for few days' turn into a semi-permanent situation.

Penguin_Biscuit

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Each to their own but I cannot fathom why you would do this. You are getting no rent yet your council tax and utility bills will increase. What about food? Does she have any money to pay for that?

It's not just the money either. You seem to live so remotely that she will be totally dependent on you for everything.

I also wonder if one of the reasons she doesn't want to be easily found it because she shouldn't be in the country.

It wasn't my plan. I didn't think she would want to stay in the middle of nowhere.
But now she's here we get on well. The renovations may cause problems.

I hadn't thought about the immigration issue. It all seemed more to do with her splitting up with her boyfriend.

Jhoney_2

Penguin_Biscuit wrote: »

I don't follow what you mean by preventing her getting independent living situation. Surely she can apply whether I accept rent from her or not.

Obviously I can't expect rent, if she hasn't got the money available. I don't see how that makes me dishonest.

Never mentioned dishonesty - if it was the word 'spin' I meant no matter whose point of view you saw it from - indeed if you go back to that post, you will see that I amended it and why time stamped.

Re your first point, I am saying that IF she is entitled to some tax-payer assistance, surely it would be better for her to find her own place or stay rent free with you as was your offer, enabling her to save it in order to be in a position to consider her option and her future.

FWIW, anyone claiming single occupancy CT discount in this situation (if applicable)isn't exactly a choirboy either, but none of that was in my previous post - just thought i'd put some perpective on your indignation.

DCFC79

PlymouthMaid wrote: »

Oh dear. I do hope this doesn't backfire spectacularly for the OP but there are lots of alarm bells. How is this girl buying food and baby stuff with no job or benefits? Pretty cheeky of the cousin to offload the girl onto you and letting 'stay for few days' turn into a semi-permanent situation.

Must have some funds to be buying baby milk, food etc.

Penguin_Biscuit

PlymouthMaid wrote: »

Oh dear. I do hope this doesn't backfire spectacularly for the OP but there are lots of alarm bells. How is this girl buying food and baby stuff with no job or benefits? Pretty cheeky of the cousin to offload the girl onto you and letting 'stay for few days' turn into a semi-permanent situation.

I buy all the food and nappies etc. But it's not much more than I would be spending on my own anyway. I don't mind that. It's nice to have someone to chat to in the evening. I'd probably go to the pub otherwise and that wouldn't be cheap - when you add in the taxi!

So she may actually be saving me money.

Like I said, I don't fear her getting a boyfriend. She can move out then, and I've lost nothing. Just back to how it was before.

Penguin_Biscuit

DCFC79 wrote: »

Must have some funds to be buying baby milk, food etc.

It's not that expensive!