Care Homes Necessary Or Evil?

bluelass

I have watched the salvation army advert today. There is a old man sat in his home and a sally army worker blows bubbles at him because he is lonely. Yes the sally are good people and do valuable work indeed. The man on the ad would be better off in a care home. He would have people his own age to socialise and communicate with and wouldn't be lonely and see people every day. I don't know why people see going into care as being a failure. If and when I get immobile or god willing I reach a grand age I would rather be in a care centre than all on my own if I had no surviving relatives. Blowing bubbles at an elderly man isn't entertainment is it?.

System

Care Homes Necessary Or Evil?

Well that depends on whether you have done your homework and found the right one.

GobbledyGook

Some people do judge when you "put" a relative into a home. I got a bit of stick from a few people when my Nana moved from my home into a home. Simple fact was I couldn't give her the 24 hour care she needed. We were lucky we had some time to work out which home we wanted her in.

Some care homes are shockingly bad, but that's because it's socially acceptable to staff them with minimum wage staff. It's much like the rubbish nurseries that are fully of young teen staff on minimum amounts of day release to get qualified. People don't want to pay more, the business owners want to make a bigger profit and the users are the ones who suffer.

I honestly believe there should be more state run care homes (and nurseries for that matter). They'd create jobs, they'd run at a break even level in terms of cost and standard to get rid of the variance, extra beds (or spaces in nurseries) would force the big businesses to lower their prices too and it would funnel the funding people got back into the same system. I've no idea if the idea would work for care homes as well as it would nurseries, but I do think it would.

cbrown372

bluelass wrote: »

I have watched the salvation army advert today. There is a old man sat in his home and a sally army worker blows bubbles at him because he is lonely. Yes the sally are good people and do valuable work indeed. The man on the ad would be better off in a care home. He would have people his own age to socialise and communicate with and wouldn't be lonely and see people every day. I don't know why people see going into care as being a failure. If and when I get immobile or god willing I reach a grand age I would rather be in a care centre than all on my own if I had no surviving relatives. Blowing bubbles at an elderly man isn't entertainment is it?.

If I were you I'd remember that your SS and his wife may well be the ones choosing your care home

Pollycat

One may wonder why the OP has resurrected 2 old threads......
Is there something lacking in her life.......

Poppie68

cbrown372 wrote: »

If I were you I'd remember that your SS and his wife may well be the ones choosing your care home

:rotfl::rotfl:.....I have just spat my coffee out.....that's a good one...:rotfl::rotfl:

Poppie68

Pollycat wrote: »

One may wonder why the OP has resurrected 2 old threads......
Is there something lacking in her life.......

Yes.....a life!

System

My nan fell ill and was about to be discharged although we'd been told she'd have to go into a care home. She died the next day. I think in her own way she was telling us no chance was she going into a care home :eek:

My parent actually live next to a care home and have often joked about us kids sending them there. Tbh though unless there was no alternative and if they had care needs that exceeded the care me or my siblings could give them, i wouldn't want them in a home. I don't know why, i'm sure there are some great care homes, i'd just feel bad as their child for not being able to look after them.

Mojisola

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Tbh though unless there was no alternative and if they had care needs that exceeded the care me or my siblings could give them, i wouldn't want them in a home. I don't know why, i'm sure there are some great care homes, i'd just feel bad as their child for not being able to look after them.

If your parents do end up needing care, you have to do what's right for them, not what makes you feel good.

I've seen older people kept at home by their children, miserable and lonely and hating to have to ask their children for help who would have been much happier and better cared for in a home but their children didn't want people to think badly of them.

Jagraf

I have a 90 year old great aunt in a care home. She pays the organ for the singalong and refuses to visit anyone on Christmas Day as she will miss out. Charming!! :rotfl:

I don't think its that its a care home that upsets people - I think psychologically its the last place you are going to be - and that's really hard for lots of people to accept.