can i get help?

louj101

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

ERIC?

http://www.eric.org.uk/

Poor lad, especially to have been written off as lazy, there's surely got to be more too it than that (or a better way of describing it!)

Yes I know I really do feel sorry for him x I did have a go at the lady that said that to him!!!..... I think they are going to start more tests on him.......I think he just sleeps very deeply, we have tried!everything and still nothing works

Savvy_Sue

Yes, telling a lad he must sleep very deeply and therefore not wake up when he needs to go is one thing. He can't help how deeply he sleeps, it's not his fault. But to say 'you must be too lazy to wake up / get out of bed' or whatever - I feel aggrieved on your behalf!

A younger child may not 'bother' to stop what they're doing and go to the loo, even if they know they need to, and one might - MIGHT - describe that as being 'lazy'.

Mind you, something has just 'twigged' in my brain: there is something called 'underactive bladder syndrome', or sometimes as 'lazy bladder syndrome'. Calling his bladder 'lazy' is a different thing - it's not him, it's his bladder. Is it possible that's what she was trying to do?

Either way, I think you will find ERIC helpful. I do hope so.

GlasweJen

Sue you're a genius, ERIC is the one. Again I've not done a charity application in years but I always find that if a charity can't help they always know who can.

McKneff

often it is an emotional thing.
Does he have a settled home life, any divorce, any bullying at school etc. Its amazing what out minds can make our bodies do and we have no control.

louj101

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Yes, telling a lad he must sleep very deeply and therefore not wake up when he needs to go is one thing. He can't help how deeply he sleeps, it's not his fault. But to say 'you must be too lazy to wake up / get out of bed' or whatever - I feel aggrieved on your behalf!

A younger child may not 'bother' to stop what they're doing and go to the loo, even if they know they need to, and one might - MIGHT - describe that as being 'lazy'.

Mind you, something has just 'twigged' in my brain: there is something called 'underactive bladder syndrome', or sometimes as 'lazy bladder syndrome'. Calling his bladder 'lazy' is a different thing - it's not him, it's his bladder. Is it possible that's what she was trying to do?

Either way, I think you will find ERIC helpful. I do hope so.

thank you sue for your help :A and yes i think one of they syndromes are what they are going to test him for..... i will look into ERIC thanks again :T

louj101

McKneff wrote: »

often it is an emotional thing.
Does he have a settled home life, any divorce, any bullying at school etc. Its amazing what out minds can make our bodies do and we have no control.

i know sometimes it can be but he is in a loving home with no divorce, me and his dad have been together for 23years and have been married for 15 of them and we are still very happy and in love with each other, he has a lovely group of friends and loves school