grrrrr men!!!

madmoney_2

hi all, i am crying as i write this, couldnt really reply b4 but oh decided he wanted a drink, knowing that i wanted to stick to a budget, he suggested i get some cheap cider (99p), so i got it and lo and behold he got drunk n sed some nasty things to me, i know this isnt dfw related but just feel so down about it, he says im "like babylon, constantly going on about figures n numbers all week", dont even know what that means for gods sake!!
I just want us to be debt free, is that so much to ask? especially when it seems i am doing most of the cutting back? sorry to rant again, just wanted to write it down i suppose

Spendaholic_Chick

Sorry he's being a d!ck to you madmoney. MAybe you should agree an allowance each and anyhting he wants has to come out of it and when its gone its gone? Don't try tonihgt when he's drunk though, try and have a calm chat 2moro when he's sober and explain the benefits wll be for both of you.

Good luck ((hugs))

Triker

'babylon' used to mean 'the police' in my day, years ago, why he's using it re the budgets and money gawd only knows, unless he's got a few things he's not telling you!

madmoney_2

thanks guys, i think he means "corprate a**eholes " when he says babylon, he means like all the bigwigs ruling the country n stuff, thing is, its those babylon people what we owe money to, so why would he challenge me trying to bloody get rid of them??? He absolutely does my head in sometimes, ive been so positive all week and last week, n everytime i try to talk to him about the bills or our budget he hits the roof!!! Ive calmed down now!! I think Im at the angry stage lol

pinkthinks

Hi madmoney

All I can say is I have one just the same, so can sympathise.

It's hard when you feel like you're the only one doing owt, here's some hugs for you :grouphug:

xx

madmoney_2

thanks pink, just reall peed off with him lately!! Semms like im taking 2 steps forward n hes dragging me 1 back xxx

(Land_of)_Maz

Awww poor mad, remember that it was probably just an off the cuff remark from him and he'll not think about it again. So you shouldn't stew over it for ages, as i doubt he is.

Of course if things are trouble all round then that's a whole other matter and one that only you can think about. Something we can all relate to at some time or another.

Take care anyway and know that you will get the support you need here, whatever happens.

Maz
x

duchy

Hrmmmm
Maybe he's adjusting to the fact that the fluffy little woman is taking a bit of control of her own destiny and the caveman within him is feeling a little bit threatened. The male ego can be a tender thing and you're definitely getting your act together.
Have a hug

madmoney_2

thankyou very much maz, ive really calmed down now lol, i love this forum and am constantly posting....its just good to know that there are others in the same situation as you, it helps me alot more than what any1 realises, feeling positive again now, going to be strong again tomorrow, got 100 quid in the bank and by this time on a friday night its normally ALL gone!!! once again thankyou for the kind words maz, i appreciate them xxx

Dithering_Dad

Babylon was a city of ancient Mesopotamia, the ruins of which can be found in present-day Al Hillah, Babil Province; Iraq about 80km south of Baghdad. It was the "holy city" of Babylonia from around 2300 BC, and the seat of the Neo-Babylonian Empire from 612 BC. The Hanging Gardens of Babylon was one of the Seven Wonders of the Ancient World.

I don't think this is what your OH was referring to though...