When does it seem to get easier with a baby

LannieDuck

DD1 wasn't clingy at all. In contrast, DD2 was hugely clingy right up until her first birthday - crying every single time I left the room (even to nip to the loo), unable (or unwilling?) to play by herself, I'd put her down and she'd immediately crawl back over to me to be picked up again etc etc It was very very difficult. It got much better when I started her in nursery for a couple of days a week. I thought that was going to be a difficult transition, but actually it couldn't have gone smoother and her clinginess at home eased up markedly.

But it does very much depend on the baby.

arbrighton

Funny how OP comes and grumbles about the poor child not meeting his expectations and then disappears apparently not taking advice

Mrshaworth2b

He never comes back to say what they have tried or changed. Then a couple of weeks later writes a whole new thread ..

JohnFree

In my experience, never. lol

Caroline_a

Best advice I was ever given when I had Daughter #1 was 'your house won't fall down if you don't dust'. And it didn't!

However, a friend who had a very houseproud husband was a nervous wreck, as was her baby, trying to fit everything in.

jee

Good to read other people's experiences here as I'm expecting my first in September and it's pretty scary. OP get a cleaner if you're that concerned with the house.

Wellyboots6

We are expecting our first in September too, and have already decided that nothing will get done now until at least after Christmas!
Just about completed all DIY that would need doing, and are just planning on enjoying baby and bonding.
I'm hoping to be able to get out and about walking the dog, with baby in a sling, but if it doesn't happen then it doesn't happen.
I'm hoping to breast feed too so am expecting a good few difficult months whilst we get settled and learn what to do

OP, your life has changed, don't expect it to be anything like it was before.

jjj1980

My ex-h was horrendous when I came home from hospital with DD. Refused to help with anything baby-related, expected full meals being cooked, housework kept to immaculate standards, washing done, ironed and put away without him having to have lifted a finger. He used to complain at having to wash up after himself. My answer to that was that he would have a lot more to do living on his own and he was welcome to leave and try it!!


DD was on two-hourly feeds 24/7 for around her first 9 weeks so I was a walking zombie! Whilst recovering from Pre-Eclampsia, HELLP and an EMCS as well! I made sure baby was sorted as a priority, then me so I had a small reserve of energy and if I didn't get round to anything else that day, stuff it!!


Sorry OP but you come across as rather demanding and selfish. Why can't you take over the housework and sorting your own things out, regardless of work? Like others have said, your partner is recovering from pregnancy and birth, which is exhausting even if it all went smoothly. She now has a tiny person dependant on her who is finding their new surroundings unsettling and is relying on Mummy to make them feel safe and comforted.


Agree with the suggestions of a baby carrier/sling as they are a huge help with an unsettled baby, as long as OP doesn't just see this as a way to get partner running around after him.

patchwork_cat

I think that you are struggling, some babies are more difficult than others . I would recommend a cranial osteopath if the birth was difficult as for the reflux just ride it. You are in 6 o'clock colic territory. I recommend a good bouncy chair and a baby wrap. You just have to ride it, I am afraid. Re- prioritise a quick hoover and whip around kitchen and bathroom.


My brother was a difficult baby so I believe, ha ha! My mum used to tell tales of driving around in the early hours whilst trying to do her dissertation. My DS was difficult in the early days and I can remember once saying oh he was good last night he only woke 5 times! He then improved and by 3 months was a dream, until he became a toddler! My DD was an unhappy baby as she had a severe umbilical hernia that had to be operated on when she was 3 months ( unusual).

duchy

My ex husband was a bit like the OP.
Couldn't understand what I did all day at home with a baby and why when he got home I wasn't full of the joys of spring with an imaculate house and dinner ready to serve .

I went back to work part-time when LO was seven months old -one of my working days was Saturday so Daddy could have time with his son as he worked long hours in the week.

It took one Saturday to "cure" my husband- never again did he ask me what I did all day and why was I tired when I didn't work etc