Lodger Problems - Landlord's Boyfriend

HB58

Ah, sorry!

marleyboy

I dare say the LL was oblivious of it, yet was quick to address once she found out. It surprises me more that he had a key to get in in the first place. It would have freaked me out too, so I can understand the reluctance in wishing to carry on staying there.

I must admit I would have expected the LL to have mentioned it to me beforehand so would be checking into it there and then as there is no saying what could have happened overnight.

melanzana

He has a key, LL is away, I'd say he's in the doghouse anyway (if LL is telling the truth!!), so what is to stop him just coming back and sod her anyway (his words in his head maybe?)

The whole situation seems quite odd to me.

sidefx

G_M wrote: »

You are a lodger living in someone's home. She can invite whoever she wants to visit whenever she wants. It's her home.

True, but common courtesy says the LL should have warned her lodger that her fella would be staying whilst she was away?

Why would she want to upset a lodger, when otherwise, they are living together without any issue?

Piscean1991

I've been in the position of being a lodger before and I'm now advertising for my own lodgers. From both perspectives, this still doesn't seem okay to me.

I would have felt exactly the same as you do in this situation. Yes, it's her home and legally she's done nothing wrong but it's a really discourteous way to behave. The issue isn't so much that he's stayed without her present, it's that you weren't informed of it prior.

As your landlady, she should be willing to take into consideration your comfort. Sharing a house is a two-way street and it requires respect on both parts no matter who the homeowner is and who the lodger is. My old landlady wouldn't have done this to me and I wouldn't do it to my future lodgers, that's for sure.

dodger1

sparkle84 wrote: »

I don't know if this is appropriate for this forum couldn't think of anywhere else to put it.


I rent a room in London for 4 nights per week (Sunday to Thursday morning). My landlady is very nice no problems so far - she has gone on holiday with her children for a week - back Wednesday. On Sunday I came up (earlier than usual around 5.00pm normally I get there at 11.00pm) to find her boyfriend in the flat, I had only met him for literally a minute a couple of weeks previously so at first didn't know who he was, I quickly realized said hello, how are you, blah blah - as the time when on it became apparent he wasn't leaving so I asked if he was staying the night to which he replied yes.


I don't know this guy I wasn't told in advance he would be staying while she was away, if I had come up at my usual time he would have been in bed and I wouldn't have even realized he was there and would have been terrified if I heard him moving around in the night. Am I unreasonable in thinking this is a bit off - he left me a note this morning to say he would be back tonight - I don't want to share a small flat with one bathroom with a complete stranger, he has been there all weekend. My landlady cancelled the cleaner as she would be away which would have been fine if no one had been living there - now the place is quite grubby.


Don't know what I am asking really - just am I being unreasonable?as it is her flat and he is her boyfriend can he just come and go as he pleases? I will speak to her when she gets back but any comments/advice would be appreciated.


Sorry for the essay

Grubby in a few days, really? As for the LL, yes I agree she she should have told you, nothing to do with any law just common decency. Maybe she just forgot though.

paddy's_mum

sparkle84 wrote: »

she had no idea he was there

she is now spending the last few days of her holiday "perplexed" as to why he thought this was a good idea

Don't be too quick to hand in any notice - I suspect that within a very few days of your landlord's return, he will be her ex boyfriend unless he can think up several very plausible excuses!