tiptoeing around collegues

Mistral001

just to follow on from above. this person is obviously taking out his her problems with the company on his/her colleagues. The problems are quite likely nothing to do with the conditions, but something else. it could be that they were promised something at the interview and that promise was not fulfilled. it could be anything from a room of their own, a good chance of promotion, or even something more simple than that. If the OP does tell tales out of school and the manager has a show down with the colleague then these real grieveance will no doubt come up and might even be resolved. The negative colleague is now not negative about the company. However, it is likely that the colleague will find out who made the complaint and a working relationship with this colleague is probably going to be destroyed.


In short what the Op should do is say to the work colleague "you may have problems with the company do not take it out on us".

BoJangles_2

Mistral001 wrote: »

just to follow on from above. this person is obviously taking out his her problems with the company on his/her colleagues. The problems are quite likely nothing to do with the conditions, but something else. it could be that they were promised something at the interview and that promise was not fulfilled. it could be anything from a room of their own, a good chance of promotion, or even something more simple than that. If the OP does tell tales out of school and the manager has a show down with the colleague then these real grieveance will no doubt come up and might even be resolved. The negative colleague is now not negative about the company. However, it is likely that the colleague will find out who made the complaint and a working relationship with this colleague is probably going to be destroyed.


In short what the Op should do is say to the work colleague "you may have problems with the company do not take it out on us".

I agree, the colleague is a whingebag who may, one day, get pulled up by his/her comments....

[Deleted User]

Perhaps ask for all to have neuro linguistic programming? it should be rolled out everywhere! much better then can we ban him/her to home or own office!
Failing that I do like Mistral's suggestion or checking out another recent thread like this one where it backfired..
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5278398

TBagpuss

have you ever spoken directly to the colleague? Not to critisize them, but to respond to what they say.

It might be worth trying.

SO next time the go on about how crappy the job is you might respond by asking them, cheerfully, what luck they are having finding a new job. If they seem surprised, you respond "well, you're always saying how much you hate it here - I assumed you were applying for jobs elsewhere"

And after that your response can be "so you're said. Frequently. |How are you planning to resolve the issue?"

It may not change them, but it might reduce the extent to which they winge at/to you.

I'd also suggest looking at you r employees handbook / office manual to see what the grievance procedure is - and consider making a formal complaint about the impact on you of this person's behaviour -it may mae it harder for them to ignore, and if they want to take action, having a formal complaint may make it easier for them to do so.

Do you know whether other members of staff feel the same way? if so, then more than one of you raising it with HR or as a grievance may work better thn f you are the only one.
Short term - can you get noise-cancelling headphones so you don't have to kisten to him so much?

mattcanary

TBagpuss wrote: »

have you ever spoken directly to the colleague? Not to critisize them, but to respond to what they say.

It might be worth trying.

SO next time the go on about how crappy the job is you might respond by asking them, cheerfully, what luck they are having finding a new job. If they seem surprised, you respond "well, you're always saying how much you hate it here - I assumed you were applying for jobs elsewhere"

And after that your response can be "so you're said. Frequently. |How are you planning to resolve the issue?"

It may not change them, but it might reduce the extent to which they winge at/to you.

I'd also suggest looking at you r employees handbook / office manual to see what the grievance procedure is - and consider making a formal complaint about the impact on you of this person's behaviour -it may mae it harder for them to ignore, and if they want to take action, having a formal complaint may make it easier for them to do so.

Do you know whether other members of staff feel the same way? if so, then more than one of you raising it with HR or as a grievance may work better thn f you are the only one.
Short term - can you get noise-cancelling headphones so you don't have to kisten to him so much?

Why would you raise a grievance for this issue? The colleague's problem is with the company and not with the OP!
Raising a grievance for this behaviour is as likely to make the OP look a whinger, as the person that OP is complaining about.

mustang121

Loads of people had asked how they are coping, what can be done to help (both professionally and personally) and just receive sarcastic responses.


They occasionally, very rarely, be civil and even fun and in those short moments. It's pleasant, but 98% of the time they are just a foul, short tempered individual.


I try to avoid all contact with them as 98% of the time I only receive a sarcastic, foul mouthed response. I sense the feeling is the same throughout the company and others seem to prefer to come directly to me.


You name it and we have tried different things to make them feel better, but they won't have any of it.


They just want a job that isn't stuck in a office, so I guess we're stuck until that happens or until they fudge up through not caring and get the company shut down.

[Deleted User]

Opps in pocket moment I don't understand how this isn't challenged unless it must not be effecting sla's? Therefore it it likely isn't an issue much