advice please

Feral_Moon

And in hindsight it would probably have been far kinder to have the vet put him to sleep at his age than cause him so much trauma in his last few days that he died anyway. The OP was damned whichever decision she took. People are far too judgemental, especially when hiding behind a keyboard.

gettingtheresometime

Feral_Moon wrote: »

And in hindsight it would probably have been far kinder to have the vet put him to sleep at his age than cause him so much trauma in his last few days that he died anyway. The OP was damned whichever decision she took. People are far too judgemental, especially when hiding behind a keyboard.

I'm willing to agree that to move the cat to Spain would have been a non starter for me,and the probability of it dying within a short space of time - given its age - was extremely high but I would like to think I could come up with a solution that didn't involve it being pts

Petra_70

fawd1 wrote: »

Hi, I am back and frankly I am neither ashamed nor embarrassed at my plans. As it turns out I did find a home for my cat because god forbid a nearly 20 year old cat be put to sleep. He died 3 days later according to the vet "because of the trauma of moving at his age". He moved less than 2 miles. I'm sure it would have been much kinder to have him in a cat box for 3 days, on a plane, and then into a country 20 degrees hotter than he was used to. He did so well with a 5 minute car journey.

Sorry to sound so bitter but frankly the vitriol shown by some posters who clearly have never met my cat, let alone have any idea of what he can and cannot cope with and who have assumed I am some sort of evil cat killer amazes me. I have had this cat for 18 + years. Clearly I looked after it well, or it wouldn't have still been here!

Not many things really truly shock me, but this most definitely has.

I don't know what is more shocking and disturbing; the fact that you thought about having your cat put down because he was an inconvenience to your life, or the fact that you are so annoyed that people are so incensed by it, and are trying to make people feel bad for being so horrified at what you were considering doing.

Nothing that you have said on this thread is good or acceptable; it's an utter disgrace that you were considering having your cat put down, so you could move to another country. And frankly I am not sure I believe you about him dying just a few days after you supposedly rehomed him. There is no reason whatsoever why he would have died just because of being rehomed; even at 20. I think you're just saying this because it suits your argument.

Re the comment by Feral Moon; I do not see anyone being judgemental, and even if they are, they have a right to be.

Re your first line of this post: you are not ashamed or embarrassed? Well you should be ashamed and embarrassed. Planning on having your cat put to sleep to suit your lifestyle? Really? A cat is for life, not just while it suits your lifestyle!

Disgusting.

Feral_Moon

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

I'm willing to agree that to move the cat to Spain would have been a non starter for me,and the probability of it dying within a short space of time - given its age - was extremely high but I would like to think I could come up with a solution that didn't involve it being pts

But surely it would have been kinder to allow such an elderly cat already in poor health the dignity of a stress free and comfortable death whilst still in the loving care of its family, rather than subject it the trauma of moving to a strange place with people it doesn't know, and where the stress of the move killed it anyway!

I've owned elderly cats that have lived into their 20's and yes, it's a difficult decision to make but the decision has to be what's best fir the cat, not the sentimentality of the owners and especially not of a bunch of people on the internet that don't even know the cat!!

gettingready

FM- the cat was old but OP said it was in very good shape, never said cat was in poor health.

gettingready

fawd1 wrote: »

despite his age, he's very healthy. Are there any organisations that take really old cats? And if not, do you know the rough cost of euthanization?

That was in the opening post

Petra_70

gettingready wrote: »

FM- the cat was old but OP said it was in very good shape, never said cat was in poor health. That was in the opening post.

Exactly. There was nothing wrong with the cat. He was perfectly healthy. As I said in the post earlier, I am not even sure that I believe that the cat actually died 3 days after rehoming him (as the OP claims.). Seems a little too convenient. Also, the poster is acting like she thinks it gets her off the hook; it doesn't. And i still can't believe that she doesn't think she has done anything wrong. FGS, she was thinking of putting her cat to sleep so she can move abroad. (For all we know she did but just isn't letting on!)

I am still in shock that someone would want to have their cat put to sleep because they want to move abroad. I don't think I have ever heard of anyone doing this before. And as 'gettingready' said, the cat was perfectly healthy, and so it makes no sense that he died 3 days after being rehomed,.

If he did genuinely die, maybe it was from a broken heart, from knowing he was no longer wanted, and he was a huge inconvenience to his owner, and his owner was considering having him euthanized. Cats aren't stupid; they are very perceptive and they know when they're not wanted.

As I said, I don't know what to believe with regards to what happened, but I am convinced that the OP is not telling the full story here. Either she did put him to sleep after all, or she is still trying to figure out what to do, and she is telling us she rehomed him and he died, to shut us up, and to try and get herself off the hook by saying 'see he died anyway...'

What a sad tale.

theoretica

Petra_70 wrote: »

Re the comment by Feral Moon; I do not see anyone being judgemental,

Thank you for a laugh- this thread needed one!

nonnatus

Petra - I think it's YOUR tone and attitude that needs looking at. The OP came here looking for advice and of all the horrible things happening in the world at the moment, her question is something that "Truly shocks you..."

Your judgemental ranting is way over the top. And you've twice basically accused her of murdering the cat herself, because you obviously don't believe the 20yr old cat simply died naturally.

OP was in a horrible position. Of course she shouldn't have NOT gone to Spain to remain at home with the cat. Once the awful decision to move had been reached, she then began searching for a solution to secure the cat a home for the remainder of its natural life.
She didn't leave it in a box at a re-homing centre, or throw it in the river in a weighted sack, she came here to see if anyone had any thoughts or similar experiences.

Can you not see your reaction was a bit wrong?

Georgiegirl256

I think what has actually annoyed and disgusted people is the fact that the OP even brought up the possibility of euthanising the cat in the first place. If the animal is a much loved family pet, then in most people's minds, that would never even be an option in the first place.

The fact that someone even considers it to be so should be thoroughly ashamed and disgusted with themselves. The fact that the OP isn't, along with her attitude speaks volumes IMO.