Charging wedding guests, yes or no?

fed_up_and_stressed

andyandnico wrote: »

Thanks for your replies.

I thought I'd better clarify the profit thing. I'm definitely not intending to make a profit on my wedding, and no, it isn't possible. I was proposing to offer the rooms at £100 each, so for couples that is £50 per person (I think there's only one single person on the guest list). The largest venue I'm considering has 10 rooms (one for us), so we could recoup up to £900.

The original idea came about because of the number of times I've been frantically calling B&Bs near a country wedding venue trying to get one of the last rooms. I'd have been overjoyed to have my accommodation and meals organised for £50.

Now I'm not sure whether there's been such an overwhelmingly negative reaction because of giving the impression I was making a profit, or because of giving the impression is was £100 each, or because it's a truly awful idea. So if anyone has any feedback with these in mind, it would be great:
1. £50 a head.
2. It doesn't even cover half the sot of the venue.
3. These are *close* friends and family, who, you know, like us.

I have been looking at other options, but of course with such a small group village halls, etc, are too big.

Many thanks!

Its still a rubbish idea.
£50 per person in effect for room only because

In effect the dinner - is your wedding reception which people would not be expecting to pay for anyway.

I am assuming breakfast the following morning is not provided.

I have attended weddings at hotels and country houses where the groom / bride hired the ballrooms and the choice as to whether to stay in one of the hotel bedrooms was up to me. But the bedrooms were booked direct via the hotel. (Ie at hotel standard rate prices) so it was clear it wasn't an exercise by the wedding party to earn any money back.

Much more preferable and less pressure on the guests to be honest! Also less pressure on the bridal party i wouldn't have wanted them to hire a hotel and then find there are no takers for the rooms and find themselves out of pocket.

Personally if would not be willing to pay more than the cost of standard b&b for the room. To be honest your scheme smacks of penny pinching. Either have the wedding you can afford or don't - but don't expect your guests to pay for it. Not classy.

Readytobefree

We have our venue for 4 nights with three cottages sleeping 24 ppl. It is £5000 for the 4 days but my family from Kent are paying £1000 in total for accommodation as they have to travel anyway and would need accommodation. We are providing food the day after the wedding (and obviously the day), and breakfast for the following days. Although they are arguing that we shouldn't do this. Before I booked the venue I consulted with them all as to how they would feel about contributing to the accommodation costs and they are all just so excited they said they would do anything to make sure they were there.
You know your family and friends best, speak to them about it. Don't be put off by what is essentially a lovely idea but best to be transparent in your choices and you might be nicely surprised.

heath480

I hope you have asked the owners of the cottages if this is acceptable?


Most property owners have it in the Terms and Conditions that properties cannot be sub-let,that would include you having more than each cottages allowance of guests in the property at any time.




I own and let out in Cornwall,this would be in breach of the T's and C's.Property Owners,quite rightly are wary of wedding guests in large numbers.

Readytobefree

heath480 wrote: »

I hope you have asked the owners of the cottages if this is acceptable?


Most property owners have it in the Terms and Conditions that properties cannot be sub-let,that would include you having more than each cottages allowance of guests in the property at any time.




I own and let out in Cornwall,this would be in breach of the T's and C's.Property Owners,quite rightly are wary of wedding guests in large numbers.

It's a wedding venue set up like this. It was the owners suggestion, in fact they have spare beds if we want any extra people to stay. Hence why we chose such an accommodating venue.

Gloomendoom

Although the OP doesn't want any more opinions, I would have definitely considered contributing £100 toward the cost of a room at the venue (or £50 a head.) I'd probably end up paying a similar amount anyway and still having the problem of getting transport to/from the venue or not drinking any alcohol.