2week old baby settling problems

penguin83

Two weeks is still really, really tiny and far too early to be thinking about routine or sleep training imo. It is hard going but they are so brand new. Have a read on the 4th trimester.


http://sarahockwell-smith.com/2012/11/04/the-fourth-trimester-aka-why-your-newborn-baby-is-only-happy-in-your-arms/

Mazzarati2000

I agree with what the other posters have said about 2 weeks being very early to expect routine, cut yourself and baby a little slack. The osteopath sounds like it could be worth exploring, and, just a thought...but you mentioned comfort milk...unless I'm mistaken that's thicker and generay aimed at either very hungry babies or those with Reflux? You might get more standard milk in, filling baby up more by volume rather than consistency, and I would guess the thicker stuff is harder to digest for a very immature digestive system? Just an idea, and I might be wrong, but the way I'm looking at it is that trying an alternative might yield better results, and if not you're unlikely to be in a worse position having tried it. We were forced to top up , and iirc dd1 was only taking approx 2oz (60 ml) every couple of hours in wk 2, so quantities don't seem far out to me. Sending sympathy and crossing fingers things improve for you.

double_mummy

is it very quiet where you are putting baby to sleep?

my LO wouldnt sleep without some sort of noise - remember they have had the noise of mums body the entire time in the womb so keeping everything very quiet can be weird for them you could try a classical music CD or a white noise machine

the added bonus is now once my kids are asleep they could sleep through WW3

FBaby

Two weeks is not too early for colic to start. Both mine hardly cried for the first 10 days of their lives and then it started! With my DD, it was identified that she suffered from lactose intolerance. As soon as I used drops in her milk, she went back to being a very happy baby. It took 9 weeks to realise though. With DS, never identified what it really was. I tried absolutely everything, in the end, I decided to invest in an osteopath in desperation and that was the end of the problem, but then he was 5 months old and I'll never know whether it was the treatment or the natural end of colic.

OP, if your baby is suffering from colic, it is going to be hard. Take it one day at a time, and work with your OH to make sure you are supporting each other. More importantly, don't hesitate to ask for help from anyone you trust. There is a phoneline you can call for support with colic and they are very helpful.

somethingcorporate

FBaby wrote: »

Two weeks is not too early for colic to start. Both mine hardly cried for the first 10 days of their lives and then it started! With my DD, it was identified that she suffered from lactose intolerance. As soon as I used drops in her milk, she went back to being a very happy baby. It took 9 weeks to realise though. With DS, never identified what it really was. I tried absolutely everything, in the end, I decided to invest in an osteopath in desperation and that was the end of the problem, but then he was 5 months old and I'll never know whether it was the treatment or the natural end of colic.

OP, if your baby is suffering from colic, it is going to be hard. Take it one day at a time, and work with your OH to make sure you are supporting each other. More importantly, don't hesitate to ask for help from anyone you trust. There is a phoneline you can call for support with colic and they are very helpful.

This is really the problem and the longer you have one the more you realise that everything is a phase, even the good stuff. If they have an amazing routine or ability to sleep it only takes teething/growth spurt/any other bit of development and everything goes out the window and the status quo is forever altered. Newborns are changing dramatically on a daily/weekly basis and you'll rarely know if it's any intervention you've made or if they are just growing up and growing out of it.

OP, make sure you do lots of research, there is a lot of misinformation/strong opinion/quackery concerned with parenting and some of it has the potential to be damaging even if it is generally accepted (cry it out, non-ergo carriers, forward facing car seats etc).

Lunar_Eclipse

Personally I think this sounds like a normal two week old baby!

My first born suffered from colic and reflux; colic tends to kick in at about 6 weeks, often with a growth spurt, so I doubt the unsettling is due to colic.

I always tried to feed as much as possible during the daytime, with a bedtime feed starting at 10pm at this age, when we would all then go to bed. We had a lot of fussing from about 5pm, which I suspect was hunger related in hindsight, but one can never be sure.

I also placed a lot more importance on nighttime sleeping than daytime naps (though most at this age will only basically sleep & eat) and finally succumbed to a dummy at 7 weeks which was a LIFESAVER.

Tried Gina Ford at around 5 weeks and had a week from hell - waking a sleeping newborn at 7am was particularly harsh and counter productive, plus DD1 didn't sleep anywhere near as much as her routine suggests for during the day. It was the worst week of parenting I've ever had, so I'm definitely not a fan of that method.

Second the comments about winding. It's definitely something to concentrate on and ensure you've done fully, sometimes taking 1/2 hour! We split feeds with what felt like a 1/2 hour walk around to wind!

FBaby

colic tends to kick in at about 6 weeks, often with a growth spurt, so I doubt the unsettling is due to colic.

really? Well both mine did, diagnosed as such by a GP both times when they were less than 3 weeks and it gone on since they were 10 days old.

morocha

I agree, a routine for a newborn is too much. I breast fed my youngest till she was 20 months. In all that time she never slept through the night. My eldest was sleeping 12 hs by 4 months.. so all babies are different. My youngest was a very unsettling baby, she would want to feed continuously or would cry, she was very demanding... I was really really tired during the first weeks/months, it was very tough.
I even thought if it is was me with a miserable baby, when my friends ended up with very placid ones...
But it is true, they grow out of it.... She is the happiest little girl, she is 2 now.
So many people tell you or make you believe is all easy with newborns... it is not, it's hard work and more so if mum/family are not there to help you get some sleep.

Mrs_Imp

How to get through colic the Mrs Imp way:
Cake
Box sets
Subtitles on
Ignore any housework that isn't 100% necessary
Never wake a sleeping baby, no matter what the 'book' says. Use the time to nap.
Tummy massage (and back massage for you from OH)
It will pass. I promise.

somethingcorporate

Mrs_Imp wrote: »

How to get through colic the Mrs Imp way:
Cake
Box sets
Subtitles on
Ignore any housework that isn't 100% necessary
Never wake a sleeping baby, no matter what the 'book' says. Use the time to nap.
Tummy massage (and back massage for you from OH)
It will pass. I promise.

^^ this.

Our netflix of choice for compulsive watching through sleepless nights was mythbusters