At what point do you consider a relationship 'long term'?

74jax

I think after two years of living together.

I'd been with OH for 7 years, not living together and wouldn't have called that long term.

missbiggles1

meritaten wrote: »

how long is a piece of string? I have known people reluctant to commit after years together - and others who met one day and that was it! you just KNOW. if you have to have a set period of time - perhaps you just haven't met the right one yet.

A long term relationship isn't the same thing as a committed one.

lostinrates

comeandgo wrote: »

My first relationship lasted 25 years but it was not long term as we split up. Second one is now 15 years. Will it be long term? I hope so.

Long term is not the same as permanent! Very little in life is permanent! We are not permanent! I'd personally consider both your relationships long term.

Guest101 wrote: »

What age group?

12-17? - long erm is likely anything 4-6mnths+
18-24 -long term is 12mnths+
25-30 - 18-24mtnhs +
etc

Thats not my judgment of what is long term. Just what is generally identified in that age group.
- i agree with others hat its subjective

I agree with this. I think my own judgement of longterm probably fits it with this.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

A long term relationship isn't the same thing as a committed one.

Agree with this. I also think 'meaningful relationships' can come in ltr, short term relationships, committed or not, or none of them. I've had relationships that have been short but have taught me something, or been so 'meaning ful' that they have been more important than longer ones and made me question and challenge my outlook and direction, and changed the course I travel on.

To me these are more important than passing wind in front of someone.

onlyroz

When your toothbrush is in their bathroom cupboard.

FreddieFrugal

onlyroz wrote: »

When your toothbrush is in their bathroom cupboard.

Euphemism?

Maddybee33

Around the 4-5 year mark, I'd say. But even then, I'm not entirely sure.

Maddybee33

When your toothbrush is in their bathroom cupboard.

My mother married someone quickly when she was 23- in all technicality her toothbrush was in his cupboard until they divorced a year or two later.
It took my boyfriend and I 5 years to move in together, however, a dear old friend of ours married someone (and had babies) he'd barely known a year. Will that even last 5 years? My parents were together for 7 before they divorced.
All this is relative, and I am highly skeptical of those who rush.

catkins

Well me and OH got married after we had known each other 5 months. Will celebrate 35 years next week. So I guess long term for us could be classed as 5 months!

mellymoo74

OH and I lived together after 6 weeks have been married 11 years in August and together 13 since March.
So fast isn't always wrong.

lostinrates

mellymoo74 wrote: »

OH and I lived together after 6 weeks have been married 11 years in August and together 13 since March.
So fast isn't always wrong.

We, DH and I, moved in quickly too. Our timescales aren't dissimilar to yours infact.

However, despite everything being great for us its not something I'd do the same way again I don't think.