At what point do you consider a relationship 'long term'?

jaylee3

It is subjective.

If someone told me they were in a long term relationship, I would think they had been together 8 to 10 years (or more.) More than 3 years I would consider people were fairly serious, but I wouldn't call their relationships 'long term...'

If someone split with their partner after 1.5 to 2 years, I would find it hard to take their break-up seriously, as I would not have considered them to have been very serious after only 1.5 to 2 years.

I have had food in my cupboard longer than that!

I would consider living with someone after about 18 months to 2 years, and getting engaged after another 18, and then married after say 4-5 years together. But yes, I would call long term 7-8 years plus...

Buzzybee90

See it's interesting how much it can differ.

I'd personally say 2 years as the beginning of long term, 3 years definitely long term.

This question came from reading a discussion where someone was referring to their long term partner, it then transpired this meant 4 months!

Buzzybee90

meritaten wrote: »

how long is a piece of string? I have known people reluctant to commit after years together - and others who met one day and that was it! you just KNOW. if you have to have a set period of time - perhaps you just haven't met the right one yet.

I didn't mean our own relationships, more a&b have been together a year, would you consider that long term, because some people seem to while others wouldn't.

Buzzybee90

amistupid wrote: »

Is he refusing to propose?

Haha, no.

Too short....

Sam_Fallow

At what point do you consider a relationship 'long term'?

When getting out of it seems difficult.

FBaby

Indeed, very different views. To me long term is the moment that you feel settled and definitely know you are not in it until you can find anything better coming along!

Saying that, it's two words. They mean nothing on their own. Does it matter at which stage a relationship has reached the 'long term' stage? How does this influence the relationship?

comeandgo

My first relationship lasted 25 years but it was not long term as we split up. Second one is now 15 years. Will it be long term? I hope so.

marlot

After 27 years, my wife still refers to her mother's as 'home', so not long term yet. Ironically, her mother has moved house, but the new one is now 'home'!

Mr_Toad

What I find interesting is some people's need to label a relationship, or anything else.

It is what it is, whatever label you give it is irrelevant but people do like labels.

Guest101

What age group?

12-17? - long erm is likely anything 4-6mnths+
18-24 -long term is 12mnths+
25-30 - 18-24mtnhs +
etc

Thats not my judgment of what is long term. Just what is generally identified in that age group.
- i agree with others hat its subjective