Only staying because of children?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

If she were to work fulltime, would he then say that he works harder, so deserves the rest?

If she knows that would be his response, or she's brought it up and that's how he responded, then she's probably right that this is going to end badly.


I know that's how my ex reacted. Mind you, he also complained when he took a week off work and actually looked after the kids for three days whilst I worked, that he 'may as well be a single parent'. Three whole days. Trouble is, if they do break up, she won't be able to assume he'll suddenly become interested.


Never understand why people think children make relationships stronger. The most successful relationships I know are strong despite the children, not because of them. And because the couples are very well matched and actually enjoy one another's company.

Guest101

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

If she were to work fulltime, would he then say that he works harder, so deserves the rest?

If she knows that would be his response, or she's brought it up and that's how he responded, then she's probably right that this is going to end badly.


I know that's how my ex reacted. Mind you, he also complained when he took a week off work and actually looked after the kids for three days whilst I worked, that he 'may as well be a single parent'. Three whole days. Trouble is, if they do break up, she won't be able to assume he'll suddenly become interested.


Never understand why people think children make relationships stronger. The most successful relationships I know are strong despite the children, not because of them. And because the couples are very well matched and actually enjoy one another's company.

I suspect that if either party tried to fill the shoes of the other they would struggle.

Plenty of people who work full time are simply not used to the organised chaos that is children. Not their fault, they've spent the time at work earning for their family.

Equally parents who have stayed at home for a significant portion of the time would not just walk into their other halves job and pick it up at drop of a hat.

Equality doesn't mean doing 50% of everything. In fact equality is a farce. What we should be striving for is what is fair and just.