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Whoo hoo all painting finally done.... both living rooms and hallway all freshly emulsion-ed inc ceilings and looking very clean and fresh ready for the warmer weather to come and all for under £40 with left over paint....also have washed out all brushes and rollers and stored away, gone are the lazy days of throwing them away after use .
Have now moved on to the conservatory, which has been used as my laundry room for far to long.... all that condensation has left the frame work almost black, not to mention the lovely matching cobwebs. Inside hasn't been decorated/cleaned properly for years basically impossible to reach the ceiling and it is looking so sad and neglected. Having tried and failed at cleaning it myself and resulting in giving myself a stiff neck in the process I have gave in to defeat....had too! just impossible to do everything..... window cleaner has agreed to call tomorrow reasonable charge of only £25 to clean all the inside framework....well worth the money, considering it is quite a large space. I have taken down all of over 200 window slats and in the bin they have gone 12 years worth of dirt and wow looking better all ready ( did try to wash one first in the hope of re-using but nope far to stained). Found a site online selling window slat replacements at only 99p each but even better buy one get one free on certain colours and luckily the colour I like is included in the offer..........so £99 to replace the whole of my conservatory blinds cant be bad (keeping hold of weights/chains from previous blinds saved me some money too).
Have mixed a lovely green sage colour from last years kitchen paint, will use to paint my existing conservatory furniture....determined to refurbish and not to buy new.......fingers crossed they turn out ok
Finally did a food shop yesterday .... spend of £43 icelandy and £28 Asdy ....£71 far to much have overspent, could have done better....should have done full shop aldii but we live and learn.
Good night at the bingo last night with a £110 win, well done me :j:j....was shared between 3 of us but still £37 each happy days and we had money off vouchers, so only paid £4 for our books, cant be bad.
Also £40 topcashy back from pet insurance :j, forgotten all about it ....very nice surprise.
Good that the weather has become that bit milder heating has been turned off for a couple of days now.
Feel as though I am starting to get on top of things ....much more organized which is a good feeling for me ....hate feeling disorganized actually lowers my mood.
Have even made a very small start on my garden today only 2 bags of dead leaves and branches but tiny steps.
Quite a bit of a reduction of -£190 from my mortgage savings (paint, blinds, etc), but strictly only borrowed until next week when I am hoping to put it all back oh well, at-least I didn't use my CC would have so easily done in the past.................
Right then off to the kitchen as in desperate need of a tetley, keep yawning my head off..... thinking little nap is also needed xx......................:D


CC B £600/...£600 total …. Mortgage £100,000 /£71,450 paid £28,550 remaining
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Conservatory all cleaned and squeaky clean :j....sooo worth the money....poor window cleaner puffing and panting must have been very hard work.
Busy morning sorting a mountain of clutter which had seemed to find its way into the conservatory...bin bag filled to the top due to OH and his disorganized DVD collection..what a mess....empty paint cans, old un-watered potted plants barely clinging to life and books, books and more books........have managed to get some to the local charity shop but although now clean it is still looking like a bomb site.....have given up till tomorrow.
£10 paid into my mortgage savings this morning after an unexpected find in the bottom of my bag....have a feeling my beautiful naughty DMamma has put it in there when I wasn't looking, she does this quite often bless her, I am so lucky to have such a wonderfull DMamma:A
Have a bit of a headache at the moment.....think I should try and slow down, not sure why but I always seem to be on some kind of mission and when I do sit down and try to relax, I catch myself thinking of things to do and before I know it I am writing a To Do List..my bag is totally full of old To Do Lists. Maybe I should take up Yoga? anyway that is what my DS keeps telling me to do Lol
OH still behaving ....for now ??
DS happily plodding along with his voluntary work but getting a bit to comfortable..... it is about time he starts looking into his long term future....paid work or open university courses ..Yep definitely dreaded time to have a talk with him and a bit of tough love on the way
Oh must dash nearly 7pm Emerdaly about to start xx


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please-let-me-be-lucky

I'm shattered just reading what you have been up to!! Lots achieved l, well done Xx

safehouse

Haaa, Thanks Lucky I am shattered and I really wouldn't recommend it...............need to take a chill pill Lol xx

safehouse

Lovely day today :D
Still working on my house..... .Back garden had a good tidy 3 bags filled with rubbish, leaves and branches and lawn had first cut............looking very nice (except for very large wood pile from old fencing which has been thrown in the corner) window cleaner suggested we burn it, but the thought of a fire in my garden worries me, have bagged around 8 bags by breaking into smaller pieces....might have to invest in a metal bin specifically designed to burn garden rubbish...depending on cost of course
....slow job and back breaking work but managed to fill brown garden bin....at-least I will be burning calories and after just eating 2 crunchies and gaining 9 pounds over the winter months I really need to
Finished sanding and wood staining my old conservatory furniture and it has come up a treat, very pleased with the end result :j ....why do people buy new furniture Lol? saved a fortune by doing everything myself.......but must say I have definitely hit a wall as regards to painting.
£20 put aside for food shop later today.....thankfully after last weeks £70 food shop freezer well stocked, only needing essentials so will be much more sensible today....writing a list and sticking to it.
Thinking it might be time to join my little doggy in a well deserved afternoon nap xx

safehouse

Arrived home after a morning in town to find an unexpected gas safe reg bill....has to be renewed every year and every year I forget about it £182 to be paid BooHoo :mad:....
window slats arrived on Monday and I now totally understand why buy one get one free offer ....brilliant quality and pattern but the colour has no words, my son described them as the same colour as a bruise on my arm "says it all really!.".......first thought was Oh No £100 down the drain and could have cried but then decided to try and dye instead yes 200 slats and 6 boxes of beige dye at a cost of £27 (mortgage savings raided once again) ....3 days later and finally finished yesterday with Fab results....hard work but certainly paid off saving of £73. Really wish I had thought of using fabric dye in the first place could have just dyed original blinds at a cost of dye only ....silly me
Have been very naughty this morning spending £15 on 2 quirky plant pots ......just loved them and couldn't resist (bad habits of yesteryear).............consoling myself with the 4 reduced plants I also found at only £1 each love a bargain :T.

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safehouse

Feeling sad today such a horrible weekend so far.... usually problem with usual person :(................I know I should just stop moaning about it, especially on here, some people would say "well you choose to live that life, stop whining, you could leave you know...so now you will have to suffer the consequences of staying.., I say it to myself all the time" and they are right . I am falling backwards again, like I have these invisible walls of fear around me, locking me in....truth is I am a coward to leave...better the devil you know . Why am I so frightened of the outside world and me making a new life for myself and DS???? surely cant be any worse than how we are living at the moment.....oh bother I also so angry with myself this morning :mad:.
Another problem again with OH is money or money not adding up again lately, it surely can't all be going on alcohol ..............I have a sneeky suspicion it is going on something else and am waiting to confront him with this theory this morning when he finally slopes out of bed "mornings are the best most lucid times to question him" only problem is how he will re-act so tired of fighting all the time..............:(
Sorry for the Sunday morning moan people...really hope you are all enjoying the sunshine and having a much better weekend than me xx

TallGirl

Morning Safehouse you know I feel for you and totally understand where you're coming from. I couldn't leave either I tried for two years but whatever it was held me back. Might have been the comfortable lifestyle, the fact I loved my house my friends at the golf club where right next door it was just impossible. I didn't get the courage until I spent a week on my own chillingout with my friend of 20 years. The relief and the realisation that the stress and pressure was all coming from one person and I didn't have it live like that gave me the courage in the end. Yes I had my dearest girlfriend who I had just started realising we were more than friends but I think the main driver were realising I was better off without the stress. I also changed as a person I got angry all the time even spilled into work, I could feel the rage build up when person with problems had once again broken a promise or sneaked off to drink. I also realised I didn't like this new person I was becoming it wasn't me and I wanted to be me again. The only way to be me was to get rid of the stressful person.

I don't know what to advice you I think just look after yourself spend time with DS and your mum maybe open up about how things are at home to a good friend or even family and take it from there. It's never too late and you don't have to stick with the devil you know after 24 years with mine I've found love again just as strong if not stronger and no demons.

please-let-me-be-lucky

I too understand where you are coming from and I'm so sorry you are in this predicament. You can only leave if and when you feel ready to, and we will support you whatever.

My Mum left my Dad after years and years of sticking with him for my Sister and I. We actually wanted her to leave him and were pleased when she did. She is in a lovely relationship now. As you know, it took a severe brain injury to stop my DH from drinking and as weird as it sounds, it was the best thing to ever happen to us. I also feel like I'm in a 'new' relationship and alcohol no longer dominates my life.

I hope the talk with OH re money goes ok Xx

Bobarella

Hope you are ok Safehouse. Thinking of you.