Coming To Terms With Your Memories

splishsplash

I don't think you should forget anything, OP. I think you should do as your thread title says - come to terms with your memories.

You are not responsible for what that woman in the supermarket said all those years ago. You have no reason to feel bad. She is the one who should be ashamed of herself. She is the one who should turn tail and run.

You may have momentarily felt it, but you are no longer that 15 or 16 year old. Now you are an adult and you should be able to see that back then, she was a biatch and a stirrer, and you can just brush her off your shoe and live your life well.

Next time you pass her, rejoice that you are not her. Hold your head up high, stand your ground and know that you never damaged another person like she did. You are the better person and have no need to feel anything other than happy with your life.

determined_new_ms

This is a really great guided mindfulness meditation:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-12263892

trolleyrun

Us humans seem to be programmed to hold on to bad comments. Make a conscious effort of focusing on positive comments. I bet you've had way more positive comments through your life, so choose to focus on those. That's the way I dealt with my issues. It's not a magical cure, but it gets easier the more you do it. Now, if I get a complement, I store it in the "positive" box in my head. If I get a negative comment, I don't store it unless it's useful, such as it can improve my performance at work. I only store the useful part though, and let the rest go.

It's incredibly liberating to free your thoughts like this. I lived with being bullied all through my schooldays and had only negativity from my parents. I rebuilt my life and rarely think about the bad stuff. Don't let comments from half a lifetime ago weigh you down. Just because someone said something horrid, doesn't mean it's true. You are better than that.