How did you feel when your kids left home

Jagraf

thorsoak wrote: »

I'll be honest: I felt absolutely bereft - when they moved out,one by one - and then, when DD moved to Singapore, and had DGS out there, and then had DGD in Tokyo, I knew that we had done what we set out to do - to give all four of them roots and wings. Now, DS 2 lives on the Isle of Man with his family and 3 girls, DD and her family live in USA; DS 3 lives in the midlands with his partner (soon to be wife), only DS1 lives nearby with his DD.

It comes even harder now - DGS - who won't be 18 until the end of August - will be moving almost 3,000 miles away from HIS family in SepButtember to go to university in Seattle.

You give them roots, you give them wings = and you get heartbreak.

But that's what's supposed to happen. So, I wipe my eyes, blow my nose, give them all a kiss, and say "bye - see you soon - safe journey" - and turn my back so they don't see the tears flow.

you are so right. We are little more than sparrows

paulsad

Like when my dog got run over - gutted for all the times I moaned and groaned about him - then all of a sudden he'd gone - big vacant space where he was always there.

REEN

I still cry when the two oldest leave after a visit and it's over 10 years now.

I was gutted when the youngest left but he's back for the time being. I know it won't be for long, but I hope I'll be better prepared next time !

PennyForThem_2

Thank god - I could do what I wanted when I wanted and they were finding themselves and becoming self sufficient individuals.


I don't live in my kids - I am my own person.

thorsoak

PennyForThem wrote: »

Thank god - I could do what I wanted when I wanted and they were finding themselves and becoming self sufficient individuals.


I don't live in my kids - I am my own person.

Don't get me wrong - I live for myself, and am most definitely my own person - but I still miss them and wish - totally irrationally I admit - that we could all live nearby

pollyanna24

Eek, already dreading it and mine are just 6 and 4.

I haven't lived through the teenage girl years though, maybe that will change my mind!

Andypandyboy

We have them close, really quite close, within a mile, but they call most days. So, the best of all worlds, they are independent with great careers, yet they chose to come home after university and settle here. The last one goes off to Uni in September and we do't know what the future holds there, but she knows she always has a place here until she decides to move out.

jayII

I love the peace, and knowing they're happy and independent, when they're at uni. I also love having them at home during their holidays.

One of mine had a severe health scare a few years back and we didn't know if they'd ever manage to go to uni. They're okay-ish now thank goodness, but it put everything into a new perspective.

Now I'm just happy that both 'children' are happy, relatively healthy and able to follow their dreams.

pickledonionspaceraider

kids leaving home is a bitter / sweet time isn't it.

No one warned me what a wrench it would be. I was shocked at how sad I felt when little 'un moved out.

Morglin

Jagraf wrote: »

I'm generally within the 'age group' where my friends kids are becoming independent / going to uni / moving out. Speaking to them, some are distraught and some can't wait to get their freedom back.

How did you feel or how do you think you will feel / cope / do differently?

I did cartwheels.......:j:beer:

Seriously, it was lovely to have a tidy house, some peace and quiet, and to be able to relax without the house constantly full of their mates!:T

They stayed locally, so I still saw a lot of them.

Although my son has since married an American lass, and emigrated, and it would be nice if I could see him more than once a year.

Lin