time to move out of parents?

Davesnave

Pixie5740 wrote: »

Why not try motivating yourself to read one of turtleneck's many posts asking if he/she should move out, complaining about the lack of privacy whilst living with parents, asking if he/she should sell the BTL property before commenting. It's just a thought.

I won't, if you don't mind, because I have more 'motivating' things IRL to do now.

I wasn't having a dig, just asking a genuine question. It's certainly the case in a family I know, but not with all of the younger members, which causes a certain amount of friction/complications I needn't go into here.

Pixie5740

It doesn't really matter as turtleneck won't come back to this thread but will start a brand new one in about 6 weeks asking the same thing. :wall:

Lord_Baltimore

J_i_m wrote: »

Always the judgemental people, some really ought to come down from their pompous pedestals.

It is no ones place to judge a person on the age they still reside with their parents.

I'm 32. After a short spell renting in my mid 20s, I moved back in to help me save money towards a deposit for a place of my own. I am working hard towards that and I maintain a independent lifestyle within that.

Ok, sure in the OP's position I would choose to move out. But that is because I want my own space, my own lounge, my own kitchen, my own house rules etc.

It is not out of some moral obligation of what some others may choose to judge upon.

If staying at home is what works for the OP and their family then that is what matters, not what some high and taughty person thinks from behind their computer screen.

The title of this thread is "time to move out of parents?". It is a question (duh). The OP goes on to mention his/her age and circumstances and asks for views.

People are not being judgemental; they are responding with views on specifically defined criteria as invited by the OP.

It is better to have a broad spectrum of views when trying to reach balanced decisions and if the OP isn't big enough to take the rough with the smooth, he/she shouldn't have asked.

J_i_m

Yeah, well. Spectrum of views or not. If you actually read some of the posts, you might notice the judgemental and condescending comments.

fierystormcloud

elsien wrote: »

Never mind what the OP wants. Perhaps their poor parents would like their house to themselves, and hope that next time the boomerang won't come back.

J_i_m wrote: »

Always the judgemental people, some really ought to come down from their pompous pedestals.

It is no ones place to judge a person on the age they still reside with their parents.

I'm 32. After a short spell renting in my mid 20s, I moved back in to help me save money towards a deposit for a place of my own. I am working hard towards that and I maintain a independent lifestyle within that.

Ok, sure in the OP's position I would choose to move out. But that is because I want my own space, my own lounge, my own kitchen, my own house rules etc.

It is not out of some moral obligation of what some others may choose to judge upon.

If staying at home is what works for the OP and their family then that is what matters, not what some high and taughty person thinks from behind their computer screen.

J_i_m wrote: »

Yeah, well. Spectrum of views or not. If you actually read some of the posts, you might notice the judgemental and condescending comments.

I wouldn't judge people for staying at home with their folks to save money, or for boomeranging back once or twice between (failed) relationships. And some people simply never find a partner and stay single. I have known about half a dozen people who have never left home (now 40 to 55 y.o.)

That said, the OP has a flat of his own does he not? So why would he want to go back to his folks?

I left home at 21, and shudder at the thought of going back to live at home. I doubt my folks would want it either. :rotfl:

In addition to the half a dozen or so I know who never left home, I also actually know a few people (all male and around early 20s to 35,) who still live at home, don't work, don't contribute anything financially, don't help their parents with anything, and treat the place like a hotel. No WAY would I stand for that!

Lord_Baltimore

J_i_m wrote: »

Yeah, well. Spectrum of views or not. If you actually read some of the posts, you might notice the judgemental and condescending comments.

Perhaps. It's life Jim but not as we know it

beedeedee

Our son (now 37) has moved out twice (once for a relationship that didn't work out) and then again when we took early retirement and went travelling for a few years. He moved back in on our return and we can honestly say it suits us all. He works and more than pays his way.... he has a long term girlfriend who stays over as and when. We all get on well - but don't live in each others pocket's. We are free to go away whenever we feel like it and they are both on holiday in the States at the moment, so it works for us. Love having him around.

wiltsguy_2

i left home at 16, came back at 17 and left again at 18, got on very well with my mother, but i liked my independence and wanted to stand on my own two feet! but every family is different! IMO 25 is the max age to stay at home! it's called growing up..

Pixie5740

beedeedee wrote: »

Our son (now 37) has moved out twice (once for a relationship that didn't work out) and then again when we took early retirement and went travelling for a few years. He moved back in on our return and we can honestly say it suits us all. He works and more than pays his way.... he has a long term girlfriend who stays over as and when. We all get on well - but don't live in each others pocket's. We are free to go away whenever we feel like it and they are both on holiday in the States at the moment, so it works for us. Love having him around.

Are you not concerned that as a parent, your offspring is not able to stand on his own two feet at the age of 37?

I know a few offshore workers who are still on the rigs in their late 50s because in order to push their adult children and step-children out the nest they're having to buy them flats. That will not be me.

freeisgood

I just remember "Timothy".