time to move out of parents?

Lord_Baltimore

You're 33 and still living at home? Please pass my best wishes on to your long suffering parents. You need to get out of your shell turtleneck; this is not just about money, life is passing you by...

hildosaver

I think at the age of 33 it is probably a good 10-12 years beyond the time you should have thought about being 'totally independent'. If you do not feel it is time to become totally independent at your age then I think you have bigger problems than just whether to move out of your parent's home.

csgohan4

hildosaver wrote: »

I think at the age of 33 it is probably a good 10-12 years beyond the time you should have thought about being 'totally independent'. If you do not feel it is time to become totally independent at your age then I think you have bigger problems than just whether to move out of your parent's home.

Sponging and now used to it. So much so can't make a choice of whether to move out or sell. Do something for others for a change and move out. How would you like your 33 year old son sponging off you without giving compensation out of respect?

snowqueen555

It's probaby best not to make judgements on the OP, we don't know about their background. I know in my situation my parents would love me to come back home (they ask me every week I visit).

One reason I mpved out was it was the same cost, I never sponged off my parents, I sometimes want to tell my friend to stop doing that but it isn't myu place to say.

I like my independence but my houseshare is a nightmare so it is something I always have to fall back on if I get fed up.

Pixie5740

We do know the OP's background. Just search for all threads started by turtleneck. It's the same thing over and over and over and over and over again.

GaleSF63

What do your parents want?

Lord_Baltimore

GaleSF63 wrote: »

What do your parents want?

More reliable contraception?

Davesnave

Pixie5740 wrote: »

We do know the OP's background. Just search for all threads started by turtleneck. It's the same thing over and over and over and over and over again.

Do you know their culture?

In some societies it's quite normal to be living in an extended family, even after marriage.

I'm not saying that's the case here, because I don't know and can't be $rsed to read the threads. It's just a thought.

J_i_m

Always the judgemental people, some really ought to come down from their pompous pedestals.

It is no ones place to judge a person on the age they still reside with their parents.

I'm 32. After a short spell renting in my mid 20s, I moved back in to help me save money towards a deposit for a place of my own. I am working hard towards that and I maintain a independent lifestyle within that.

Ok, sure in the OP's position I would choose to move out. But that is because I want my own space, my own lounge, my own kitchen, my own house rules etc.

It is not out of some moral obligation of what some others may choose to judge upon.

If staying at home is what works for the OP and their family then that is what matters, not what some high and taughty person thinks from behind their computer screen.

Pixie5740

Davesnave wrote: »

Do you know their culture?

In some societies it's quite normal to be living in an extended family, even after marriage.

I'm not saying that's the case here, because I don't know and can't be $rsed to read the threads. It's just a thought.

Why not try motivating yourself to read one of turtleneck's many posts asking if he/she should move out, complaining about the lack of privacy whilst living with parents, asking if he/she should sell the BTL property before commenting. It's just a thought.