Oh Dear, feeling judged :(

betterlatethannever

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Very shallow if there is a good reason for the debt it would be different. My problem is my other half and I wouldn't want my children going through this ever. Still we'll see her again in a few years going BR again unless she learns how to handle money.

and that comment was useful HOW?????????? you don't know how or why she got in debt. You do this everytime BH. why don't you get the hint.
Unless you have something useful to say then SHUT UP

PixiePie

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Very shallow if there is a good reason for the debt it would be different. My problem is my other half and I wouldn't want my children going through this ever. Still we'll see her again in a few years going BR again unless she learns how to handle money.

You might want to think about posting things on a forum before posting them.
You don't know me at all or my life. I came here as I am as low as can be - one of the reasons I am in such terrible debt is because of her son, but I am not ever going to let her know this as my loyalty is to him and he is more important I feel than me, especially in her eyes and therefore telling her the truth to her about how I got where I am. I fully admit to making mistakes and owning up to my errors, but some things in life are not always of our own doing and it's hard to day I belive how much of something is someone's fault (is being raped someone's fault for being in the wrong place at the wrong time, saying and doing the wrong things, or fully the rapists?)

I will never ever in my life have credit again - I believe I have learnt from my mistakes and am still learning from them and paying for them in that I am homeless and literally starving, but am not asking for any damn help from the tax payers in way of benefits to try and help.

I am literally on the verge of ending it all, and unless you want that on your mind BH, wither of me or someone else, I suggest you think before posting such hurtful things - unless you are one of those awful people who have no heart or consciousin which case I pity you greatly, as at the end of the day I have the possibility of great joy in my life again due to what is possible and with the great lows will come great highs. You will always be a miserable and horrid person, and never know real happiness.

scootw1

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Very shallow if there is a good reason for the debt it would be different. My problem is my other half and I wouldn't want my children going through this ever. Still we'll see her again in a few years going BR again unless she learns how to handle money.

Very hypocritical comment coming from someone who owed £18000.Why is your problem "your other half"? Can he not stop himself spending your money? If he is a problem surely you should be having a go at him rather than slagging people off on this forum who need a bit of comfort and reassurance.

wherediditallgo

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Very shallow if there is a good reason for the debt it would be different. My problem is my other half and I wouldn't want my children going through this ever. Still we'll see her again in a few years going BR again unless she learns how to handle money.

PixiePie wrote: »

You might want to think about posting things on a forum before posting them.
You don't know me at all or my life....I am literally on the verge of ending it all, and unless you want that on your mind BH, wither of me or someone else, I suggest you think before posting such hurtful things - unless you are one of those awful people who have no heart or consciousin which case I pity you greatly, as at the end of the day I have the possibility of great joy in my life again due to what is possible and with the great lows will come great highs. You will always be a miserable and horrid person, and never know real happiness.

Look after yourself, Pixie. Don't let the likes of Broken hearted get you down - as bad as things are for you at the moment, you're doing better than you think. Broken hearted's opinion is exactly that - their opinion - & if it mattered more in real life, they might not have the time/inclination to be posting it here.

philnicandamy

Pixie...you'll learn from BH's past posts..she seems to like the attention

madoldbat

Dear BH
I have never had the delightful gift of your clear and well juged advice.But I have been able to follow your unerring support and kindness to your fellow human beings in some of these posts.You must be very proud of the example you set .
Is that the kind of responce you would like BH ?
Well sorry but you are a narrow minded ,hard ,critical and scary person.
The OP is at a very low point right now fighting to regain controle of her life.
Would it be mean of me to say you are the kind of person we would have all feared had we been in Hitlers Germany or Stalins Russia?
Had you been on the Titanic you certainly would not have shared your life boat more likley beat a few of us off with the oar.
Oh ! Dear I think I may have over reacted.What a shame.Get over yourself.

philnicandamy

I know I shouldn't let the likes of BH get to me but I feel after reading through posts this morning..i've had enough. As BH reminds everyone so many times she's entitled to her opinion, as i've explained there is a time & place for that & some comments could be worded better..the BR & living with it site is frequented by people who are scared/depressed/alone & at the lowest then can be wanting advice on how to best help their situation...these so called opinions are neither useful or helpful and god forbid someone could end up dead after being on the receiving end of BH or anybody elses "opinion"...big thanks to the mods for some EXCELLENT post pulling, i've reported this & many of BH's posts but yet she still continues to upset & taunt people on a daily basis....the problem is sometime ago a discussion was started within the DFW huddle saying the BR & living with it forum should be alone or removed from the DFW...as some of you remember martin stated this WOULD NEVER happen ...try not to take anything to heart sometimes is easier said than done to someone who feels so low. I said some time ago I would leave this board after spats with BH and some of her followers but I reconsidered after realizing that I could help people & hopefully put right some of the comments that had done wrong.....

now i'm not so sure...i'd like to say a huuuuge thanks to every person I ever met here they are some of THE BEST people i've ever had the pleasure to know (you know who you are ...i'm not posting anything else here now...after trying to tidy up pointless postings again, after daves tragic news & a decline in my health as well as coming close to loosing my father a few days ago things like this make you think theres more to life than listening to people who's main aim it seems is to hurt very vunerable people with vicious pointless hurtfull words...sorry BH...Opinions

Anybody considering BR & reads this please don't be put off by whats happened PLEASE post anything you need & I guarantee you'll receive the best support & advice you'll EVER need!!

Goodbye & Good luck

Phil

Broken_hearted

Never intend to hurt anyone just the way I see it Phil.

Broken_hearted

Maybe, lol

wherediditallgo

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Never intend to hurt anyone just the way I see it Phil.

You might not intend to hurt people, but I don't believe for a second that you don't know your words have & will. Firstly, no-one could post as much hurtful stuff as you do, & continue to do it, without knowing some pain would be caused by it. Secondly, you've been told many times that this side of the forum is for support, so if you want to post your opinions about bankruptcy & bankrupts you should post them in the discussion forum where they can be openly & far more appropriately discussed. Instead, you continue to post them here.

I don't pretend for one second to know what problems you've had or still got. I do however know only too well the heartache that I went through in the run-up to going BR. If you spent less time flaunting your opinions, you'd gradually realise that people going through BR experience real pain - they may not handle as well as you might or think they should, but they don't need your barbed words to add to what they're already going through.

You have made some good posts in the past, but they are very few & far between, & your hurtful ones far outweigh the good. My personal opinion is that you live in a self-constructed ivory tower from which you look down on anyone who doesn't live the way you do or do as you think fit. I think you're very lonely & rather insignificant to others in your real life, so you try to make a mark in a forum one, & for that I pity you. You'd best make the most of the situation regarding the site's problems with the "Ignore" button, because once that's fixed you'll find that ivory tower will enable you to see everyone else getting on with their lives & not responding to your posts. The sooner that day comes, the happier I and many others will be. Your words have been both cruel and unnecessary on far too many occasions to make your statement that you "never intend to hurt anyone" in any way believable.