Does he have rights

burlington6

If this story was about a woman who had given the money to a man the women on this thread would be after blood

geoffken

Well if he commits suicide then you will not have to pay it back.
Seriously you believe he GAVE you £9000 for a platonic relationship.
If he was getting sex then it certainly was an expensive (car) ride.
Of course you have to pay it back and probably DWP as well

wiltsguy_2

legally- don't know, im sure it would be down to the judge.

morally- I would say give him the cash back, less the depreciation of the car. £9k was 2/3 of the cars value, whats the car worth now? i would say he is entitled to 2/3 of it's current value

root

I think OP crapped herself when DWP and the whole 'putting money in daughters account' to avoid scrutiny all came out. I doubt she will be back sadly :rotfl:

stator

geoffken wrote: »

Well if he commits suicide then you will not have to pay it back.
Seriously you believe he GAVE you £9000 for a platonic relationship.
If he was getting sex then it certainly was an expensive (car) ride.
Of course you have to pay it back and probably DWP as well

Either you don't know what platonic means or you haven't read the thread properly. The OP was seemingly in a normal relationsip with a man that lasted for years. He pressured her into buying a new car and gave her money. Then they split up and he asks for money back.
The fact that has was so obsessed with status symbols that he couldn't stand to be seeing someone who drove a modest car may tell you a lot about his character, but it isn't really relevant to the OPs problem.

Pixie5740

burlington6 wrote: »

If this story was about a woman who had given the money to a man the women on this thread would be after blood

How wonderfully sexist. My stance is no different to a man gifting money to a woman, a woman gifting money to a man, or gifts between same sex couples.

The £9k was given to the OP over a year ago during a relationship. Now that the relationship is over the ex wants the £9k repaid. There was no expectation of repayment during the relationship so now that the relationship has ended the gift can't suddenly become a loan.

I might have come to a different conclusion if the OP had received the £9k and ended the relationship a month later but we're talking about a year.

MNM2903

sell the car, pay him back what you can out of that. its the right thing to do. He was stupid putting that much in to an account anyway. Especially when you had a perfectly good car.

burlington6

Pixie5740 wrote: »

How wonderfully sexist. My stance is no different to a man gifting money to a woman, a woman gifting money to a man, or gifts between same sex couples.

The £9k was given to the OP over a year ago during a relationship. Now that the relationship is over the ex wants the £9k repaid. There was no expectation of repayment during the relationship so now that the relationship has ended the gift can't suddenly become a loan.

I might have come to a different conclusion if the OP had received the £9k and ended the relationship a month later but we're talking about a year.

It's only sexist when it comes from a man, hence my point

Pixie5740

burlington6 wrote: »

It's only sexist when it comes from a man, hence my point

It's sexist because you were stereotyping people based on their gender.

root

We need an eye roll smilie