Very Low Calorie Diet ..any experiences?

purpleshoes_2

Mumcoach wrote: »

I have asked for this thread to be closed.
It's clear that I have issues, and I have taken some helpful advice from this thread I really have and to those posters I thank you.
But yo those of you who suggest I'm making it up or because YOU didn't feel the way I do when you weighed this much or you weigh x to or because you can can eat this much and lose weight or go to a gym and feel wonderful and confident... So should I!

I hope your self importance and finger pointing has made you feel better about yourselves it certainly hasn't helped me any.
I won't return to the thread but I will do what I need to do to be happy as would anyone. Thank you all for your contributions.

I was 100kgs two years ago, I can assure you at that weight I felt absolutely crap about myself. I have a photo that was taken of me at my biggest and I cringe when I look at it, but I put it on my facebook page from time to time to remind me how far Ive come.

But I got off my backside and did something about it. And if it makes you feel better to point the finger at me and call me self important, then you crack on, I'll save my breath from now on and post on threads where people actually want to discuss things like adults and take advice in the spirit it's meant in even if it's not what they want to hear.

People have been concerned about you on here and no wonder.

I'm not surprised you've had a reaction, because its clear the only posts you want to hear on here are yes, on you go, fill your boots with eating 400 cals worth of soup.

No nutritionist or fitness professional or GP worth their salt would advise anyone to do what you are doing.

Mojisola

Mumcoach wrote: »

I have asked for this thread to be closed.
It's clear that I have issues, and I have taken some helpful advice from this thread I really have and to those posters I thank you.
But to those of you who suggest I'm making it up or because YOU didn't feel the way I do when you weighed this much or that you weigh x or because you can eat this much and lose weight or go to a gym and feel wonderful and confident... So should I!

I hope your self importance and finger pointing has made you feel better about yourselves it certainly hasn't helped me any. If anything it's made me feel worse. But has probably reinforced how wonderful you feel you are.
I won't return to the thread but I will do what I need to do to be happy as would anyone. Thank you all for your contributions.

I think it's a shame you feel like this.

The overwhelming reaction was concern for your health because of the drastic 'diet' you have adopted.

If we, complete strangers, take the time to post because we are worried about what you are doing to yourself, don't you think you can take some time to change the way you think about yourself? We think you are important enough to give time and advice - for your sake, please accept yourself as you are for the time being.

Of course you want to lose some weight and prevent health problems in the future. What you are doing is creating health problems now. That's not what someone who loves (or even likes) herself does.

If you can deal with the feelings and build up your self-esteem, you will be able to maintain a way of eating that will reduce your weight safely.

Kim_kim

Mumcoach wrote: »

I have asked for this thread to be closed.
It's clear that I have issues, and I have taken some helpful advice from this thread I really have and to those posters I thank you.
But to those of you who suggest I'm making it up or because YOU didn't feel the way I do when you weighed this much or that you weigh x or because you can eat this much and lose weight or go to a gym and feel wonderful and confident... So should I!

I hope your self importance and finger pointing has made you feel better about yourselves it certainly hasn't helped me any. If anything it's made me feel worse. But has probably reinforced how wonderful you feel you are.
I won't return to the thread but I will do what I need to do to be happy as would anyone. Thank you all for your contributions.

I'm on a VLCD - slim & save. Look it up, they also have an ebay shop & a Facebook support page.
I've lost nearly 3 stone & I feel great on it too.
I have an under active thyroid gland & I'm on hrt, so weight loss is difficult, doing a normal diet.
Slim & save contains lots of protein & your daily vitamins & minerals.

Murphybear

There are plenty of healthy ways to lose weight. Our GP surgery has prescribed for me a course of Weight Watchers, 12 weeks free and if I lose 2% of my weight another 12 weeks. Our local Council Leisure Centre runs gym sessions for GP referrals for people who are very heavy, very unfit or with health problems such as heart attacks.

lessonlearned

Mumcoach wrote: »

I have asked for this thread to be closed.
It's clear that I have issues, and I have taken some helpful advice from this thread I really have and to those posters I thank you.
But to those of you who suggest I'm making it up or because YOU didn't feel the way I do when you weighed this much or that you weigh x or because you can eat this much and lose weight or go to a gym and feel wonderful and confident... So should I!

I hope your self importance and finger pointing has made you feel better about yourselves it certainly hasn't helped me any. If anything it's made me feel worse. But has probably reinforced how wonderful you feel you are.
I won't return to the thread but I will do what I need to do to be happy as would anyone. Thank you all for your contributions.

Oh dear what a shame.

People on here are genuinely trying to,help and support you and if some have appeared to have become a little exasperated with you, it's only because they are concerned about you and are trying to get you to understand just what a dangerous game you are playing.

I gave up posting because I could see you were intent of being an ostrich. I had hoped that eventually you would ,see the light.

I am the same weight and height as you. I'm not proud of myself, I've got myself into this fix and its up to me to sort myself out.

In my defence I lost my husband 8 months ago and my mother 3 weeks ago. My stress levels have been sky high and ive piled on the weight.

It's my mums funeral on Monday and, although I have mAde a start on improving my eating habits, my new regime of healthy eating and regular exercise begins in earnest after the funeral.

My eldest son has set a wedding date of May 29th, 2016. I estimate this gives me nearly 14 months to lose 4 stones, which is roughly a lb per week.

I think this is an achievable goal. I also intend to improve my overall fitness, strength and stamina.

I am 63 and I realise that losing weight gets harder as you get older. I get the feeling you are considerably younger than me so you should find weight loss much easier.

We have roughly the same amount of weight to lose.

Instead of flouncing off in a huff why not join me......become my diet buddy and let's support and encourage each other.

And if anyone else wants to join in - well why not. The more the merrier.:rotfl:

Mumcoach - I'm throwing down the gauntlet to you. I dare you to pick it up and join me.

Come on, make a fresh start and try again...... But do it slowly, sensibly and forget silly crash diets.

heartbreak_star

Mumcoach, we're not finger pointing, we're scared for you. Please realise that.

HBS x

haras_nosirrah

I am sorry to hear about this and it makes me quite sad that you feel this way

I am an active member on the ultimate losers thread over under debt free wanabee challenges - come and find us and join in - we are a friendly bunch

you are no where near as big as you seem to feel you are - I started in January at 17stone 11 and am 5 ft 4. I have since got down to 14 st 8 so lost 3stone 4lb in 4 months and am eating around 1200 calories during the week and am enjoying my weekends by having whatever I want - kind of the 5/2 diet in reverse.

I am currently around the same weight as you are and am a size 16 - that is the british average and much better than the size 22/ 24 I was.

Aiming to lose another 3 stone by november to get into a size 12

I go to the gym 4 times a week not to use the weights but go to dance type classes (which I started going to at nearly 18 stone), I go trampolining, I swim 100 lengths on a friday and last week I walked 15 miles as am in training for a 20 mile walk in aid of our local hospice in june

I am not saying this to seem as though I am crowing over you because 4 months ago I could barely walk up the stairs and as I have a 2 year old son it broke my heart that I couldn't play with him properly

What I am saying is that if you can do this sensibly then in just a three months time you could lose a couple of stone without damaging your health. Weight loss doesn't have to be all or nothing and psychologically the binge purge cycle is very very hard to break

Being on a diet doesn't mean you can never have chocolate again - I put on 3 lb over easter but am eating sensibly for the next 7 days to lose it again.

I really hope you get the help you need and I would echo the others who say to get a second opinion from another gp. Saying what he said to someone who has had an eating disorder in the past is reckless. Please don't carry on with this diet as I am really concerned that you are going to do yourself permanent harm

As an example of what I eat on my clean days (yesterdays day)

breakfast - 35g porridge with skimmed milk and a banana

lunch - bowl of home made vegetable soup (I batch cook every 3 or so days and keep in the fridge) and a piece of brown toast, a yoghurt and an apple

dinner - turkey stirfry with carrots, peppers and courgette noodles (I have a spiraliser thing which makes vegetables look like pasta as I love pasta and this is a way of tricking me mentally to believe I am eating it)
jelly for pudding

on the my fitness pal it came in at around 1200 calories and is a darn site healthier than 3 cuppa soups and an apple.

Please please please stop what you are doing - go and see someone who can give you a sensible meal plan. No one at the gym is looking at you and if they are they are probably thinking - go on girl you can do it

come and join us on the biggest losers thread - we weigh in every wednesday morning and just chat during the week.

purpleshoes_2

The OP clearly thinks I'm finger pointing. I'd just like to elaborate by saying that I've always been curvy but I was never overweight until my early 20s. After a relationship broke down and the death of a relative. I lost the weight but I never maintained it. I bounced from being very unfit to very fit through my late 20s and 30s and in my 30s I found an exercise routine that worked for me. I trained as a fitness instructor and then broke my wrist 7 weeks later and the weight piled on. I didn't have the confidence to do a fitness class for almost 4 years. Even when I started teaching classes myself, it took me much longer to start doing them.

I've spoken already about the last injury I had, I ended up 15 stones 10. Not just because of the injury but because of a really tough year personally. I treated my body like a toxic waste dump. I'd probably still look like that if I hadn't had to watch a video of myself before it got sent to a company for assessment.

In October 2014 I trained as a personal trainer. I had to be fitness tested on the course and I beat the other girls (who were 20 years younger than me) in almost every test apart from one.

In June 2013 I couldn't have walked the length of myself. If the op thinks I'm self important, because I believe those comments were directed at me. I've been called fat all my life. Starting in the playground. I was called fat all the way through my teens as I was a size 12 to everyone else's size 10.

I've had ex boyfriends call me fat at the first hint of a row and try and put me on diets. I spent years not going out and not socialising, not particularly to do with my weight but it didn't help.

At the end of 2012 which was one of the worst years I can remember I started socialising. I didn't particularly feel great about myself.

But you get to the point where you need to fake it, or your alternative is sit and rot and I did that for too many years.

I'll be 47 next birthday and I never thought I would see the level of fitness again that I currently have. But I know what it's like to feel crap about myself.

If I'd had the courage to set foot in the gym when I was convinced everyone would be looking at me (as lots of people knew me slimmer). I'd have sorted my weight issues out once and for all years ago.

lessonlearned

Purple shoes - what. Fantastic achievement. I shall use you as my inspiration.

I've already started cleaning up my diet, although I e just had the flu and a UTI and have felt dreadful for the past 3 weeks, more or less since my mum died.

I have had a couple of Physio sessions and have one booked for tomorrow. After th funeral on Monday I'm aiming to really get serious.

I've had a miserable few years, caring for my husband, his death last August, mums declining health and death 3 weeks ago.

I've had enough of sickness and death - it's time to step out into the light and make a new start whilst I'm still young enough to build a new life. I want a future where I'm slim, fit and healthy, where I can get out and about, one where I'm not riddled with aches and pains.

It's up to me, I'm the only one that can do it.

I am asking Mumcoach to take up th challenge too.

Purplesnoes - try not to take mumcoach's remarks too much to heart. She's obviously very unhappy and very confused and is just lashing out. I'm sure it wasn't personal.

You have done so well at turning your life round, I only hope that I can emulate you.

haras_nosirrah

have just googled and the calories in 3 cuppa soups and 2 apples amount to 202 calories

I have googled about how long a person can survive on 200 calories a day and it doesn't make pleasant reading

if someone ate that many calories without drinking adequate water they could die in about 2 weeks

obviously you are drinking water which will apparently delay this slightly however I don't fancy your chances of doing this for 12 weeks without severely damaging your health and causing yourself potential problems which could be fatal!!!

Using the same google tells me that annorexics typically eat around 400 calories a day. You are talking about eating half of what a skeleton eats.

I am not saying this to scare you but to wake up and go to a doctor - today. Not next week because you were able to nibble a bit of fruit today - make an emergency appointment with a different gp and get down there now before the damage you are doing is irreperable.

I am really really scared for you and your family. Losing a bit of weight is not worth losing your life - your family would rather have you chunky and with them than dead.

Please please please I am begging you don't do this to yourself.