Very Low Calorie Diet ..any experiences?

purpleshoes_2

Any user can delete their own posts, just go to edit and the option is there.

starrystarry

purpleshoes wrote: »

Not knocking sw above, just saying it's a matter of finding what works for you.

Agreed, I tried various things before Slimming World with varying degrees of failure.

jenniewb

Well lets hope it at least made her stop and think about what she was putting her body through (potential risks etc) and the fact she'd chosen what she did as her username makes me think she doesn't just have herself to bare in mind IYSWIM.


I also hope that there may be lurkers (people who visit the site but don't join/post anything, just read) who may have taken some of the experiences and warnings posted here and made sure they were safe.


I think the OP got affected by one or two of the posts where people were a bit sharp/harsh with the way they said things (weather or not they meant to be) and somehow thought everyone was saying exactly the same thing- which they/we weren't. Her last post before it was deleted mentioned something about us all feeling proud of ourselves for "pointing the finger".


I guess when your body is in such a messed up state through starvation and malnutrition you develop a very thin skin and everything feels like a personal attack (which is what happens when you become below par or ill with anything IME). Maybe this is what happened and sadly no one will be able to help until the OP 1. realises there is a problem and 2. themselves really wants to change. I don't think the OP really wanted to change, I think she just wanted to connect with people doing the same thing. Starvation is a lonely place. If it helps anyone, I think we all did the right thing by realising the dangers and pointing her in the right direction. I really hope she does change her GP though.

purpleshoes_2

I think the pointing the finger comment was aimed at me. If she thinks I was harsh if she had posted this on other sections of the forum she'd have been torn to shreds. She has a teenage daughter and a husband I believe. All I can say if I were in a relationship with someone existing on those rations I'd be begging them to stop it.

jenniewb

purpleshoes wrote: »

I think the pointing the finger comment was aimed at me. If she thinks I was harsh if she had posted this on other sections of the forum she'd have been torn to shreds. She has a teenage daughter and a husband I believe. All I can say if I were in a relationship with someone existing on those rations I'd be begging them to stop it.

I didn't pick that up and I wouldn't blame yourself for the OP leaving the forum; she had stated in her last message that more than one (we all were in her mind) pointing the finger- even if you had been, in the OPs mind it was everyone. It can feel like this when your new to a forum or have not used a forum very often but it can also feel when your physically at a low ebb that you're a lot more sensitive to everything- I think (in my experience) when your losing weight your mind regresses to a basic level because you just lose the capacity to give anything else thought- it's just simply too exhausting to do (it isn't a choice thing) and you then feel very vulnerable and everything feels aimed at you weather or not it is.


I wouldn't feel upset or as if you caused her to leave, she wasn't clear with what she was asking I think. It would have been wrong for everyone to just have gone along with what she seemed to want which was support for what she was doing so she could carry on. What she was doing at best was risky and at worst was life threatening and she was showing very obvious signs of harming herself even without her underlying conditions.

Blindsided_2

Finding it hard to judge what the OP of the thread was saying as the post have gone but from someone who has tried Cambridge and lighter life. They don't work long term. It sounds to me as if the lady in question has a lot of issues and the weight is just the focus of those, I don't how overweight she is or if it's life threatening so I could be wrong but maybe she needs to concentrate on that first.
Some of the posts were a bit harsh though even if they didn't mean to be they smacked a bit of look where I am and here's how I did it and you should to. Unfortunately when your feeling so low you don't see anything as constructive criticism.
I wish the lady well x

purpleshoes_2

Lots of people on forums post about their own personal experiences when certain topics are raised, particularly if you identify with the subject at hand.

The OP is 34 years old, and has a BMI of 32.9, which puts her into the obese category, but not by that much.

A 3 stone weight loss would get her a BMI of 25, although she could probably lose 2 stones and have a BMI of 27.5 and if she exercised she would look fine. In times gone by BMI, anything above 27 was deemed as overweight, its now 25, but research suggests that having a BMI of 26-29 can be healthier than 20-25.

Very big difference from needing to lose 6 stones, she doesn't. 10 stones 10 at her height would have her BMI being dead on 25. Thats a 3 and a half stone loss.

Which might seem daunting, but nothing to press the panic button over and start starving yourself.

If everyone had said yes that sounds fine, just keep going, Im sure the OP would have stayed, but when someone is at risk of killing themselves, well, maybe you need a few people to say you need to stop this, whether you are happy about that or not.

fairy_lights

Blindsided wrote: »

Some of the posts were a bit harsh though even if they didn't mean to be they smacked a bit of look where I am and here's how I did it and you should to. Unfortunately when your feeling so low you don't see anything as constructive criticism.
I wish the lady well x

I don't see the point in !!!!!footing round the issue though, she's trying to lose weight in a very dangerous way and seems completely in denial. The 'harsh' posts were merely stating that there are healthy ways to lose weight and that lots of posters on here have achieved impressive weight loss without starving themselves.
The OP's doctor is not giving her good health advice and her family don't seem to be encouraging her to eat sensibly either, hopefully the posts on here that she thought were critical will go some way to balancing out the awful advice other people are giving her.

haras_nosirrah

Essentially the lady was saying she was grossly overweight and that she needs to lose 6 stone (however from her weight and height it is more like 3 stone) and that she has been eating 3 cuppa soups and two apples a day, hasn't got the energy to get up in the morning, has heart palpitations and feels sick - has anyone got any advice. I think she was hoping others would say to keep going but as this is not a pro anorexia site we were all saying she needs to stop and go and see a gp before she causes herself irreparable damage

Blindsided_2

Hands up ladies or gents I was'nt saying it was the wrong way to approach the subject. But having been as desperate as I think the lady probably is anything along the lines of your being stupid, is this a wind up. Well in my mind it wasn't going to help? But then maybe nothing was. I know when I was on lighter life I was pig sick but determined despite what anyone said to stick to it.
I just feel for her, I have been there I know the intense feeling of self loathing and maybe that's where the diet is stemming from some sort of punishment. But meh what do I know I'm not a psychiatrist.
I just hope she doing alright