Man having sex with woman but googling male !!!!!!?

Ilona

blue_mango wrote: »

Because I am afraid that he is more into men than women but afraid to come out as gay, and having a girlfriend for him might be just fitting in the society, pretending to be 'normal'.

I am also suspicious about his sexual disease search...must be having some casual sex with men then...

And how am I supposed to feel some kind of connection with a man who is lying to me

Why do you bother with all this. May be gay, may be afraid to come out, might catch a disease, could be lying, pretending. Not worth the hassle. Move on and find someone else, plenty out there.
Ilona

rachiibell

Personally I wouldn't want to be with anyone that "hates gays" whether that be in public or in private.

purpleshoes_2

One ridiculous thread gets pulled and another one takes its place.

It's like a bad episode of TOWIE. Can people not communicate with one another? Having sex with someone but you can't talk to them, really not a good sign at all.

mildredalien

So you are having a sexual relationship with a homophobic, racist man who may or may not have caught an STD, and whose private behaviour may completely contradict his outwardly expressed beliefs?

Sounds like a catch!

Either you confront him with your concerns if you want to make a go of it, you carry on with the sexual relationship if that's what you are happy with, or you break it off.

nyc_451

I havent had a sexual intercourse with him. Only kissing and touching each other. No serious relationship yet either, we are just getting to know each other.

purpleshoes_2

Why was sex mentioned in the thread title?

nyc_451

purpleshoes wrote: »

Why was sex mentioned in the thread title?

As far as I know he is/was having sex with women?... Well he clearly wanted me and tried it a few times but I did't feel like it.

Edwardia

Just because a guy seems interested, doesn't mean that you should get into a sexual relationship with him. There are plenty more fish i the sea.

His homophobia may or may not be him repressing his sexuality, but the only person who can really deal with that, is him. He may be going through the coming out process and will later come out as gay or bisexual.

Or he may never have the courage to do it and may always try to be heterosexual to be more accepted and be bitter and unhappy and if you're in a relationshup with him he'll make you unhappy too.

Or he may be straight but fantasises about gay !!!!!! in the same way that some straight women do - and straight men often fantasise about lesbians. In reality none of those scenarios are likely to happen.

But as he's looking at info about STIs he may have experimented already.

Sexuality doesn't make a bisexual more or less likely to cheat than a straight person. People go behind their partner's back if they don't have respect for their partner's feelings.

You don't think your family would like him if he is bisexual, at the moment he's homophobic, you worry about STIs and since you're not in a relationship - and it doesn't seem like he's asked you to be - lots of your questions aren't appropriate.

He has issues and I really doubt that you can deal with them and him. If you attempt to, it could all go pear-shaped.

FBaby

we are just getting to know each other.

Exactly, so why are you already over analysing everything? When you first you get with someone, there are bound to be things you don't know about them. Hopefully, most of them don't affect how the relationship evolve, sometimes it does and it ends there because of it.

You ask how you can start a relationship with a man who lies to you. Well, he could say the same, how can he start a relationship with a woman who is already snooping on him.

You have three choices: You get to know him and see how it evolves, you dump him now just in case, you bring the matter up and discuss it together.