What happens if I don't go.

Girl_Overboard

If your husband decides not to go, then how about just travelling there on your own?

Archergirl

But it's their honeymoon.......

Girl_Overboard

I know, but the OP mentioned taking a friend with her, so she'd obviously be open to travelling without her husband.

I'd much rather go alone than waste the entire holiday. Two weeks peace and quiet in Thailand sounds like heaven to me!

nearlyrich

My children's Grandma (ex's mum) died a few days before one of my children was due to travel on an expensive holiday. He was torn but my !!!!less ex really stepped up and shocked me by telling him he should go on his trip as he had been there for his grandma and never came home without popping in to see her. Everyone is different but if it was me I wouldn't want my grandson to miss his honeymoon hope you get it sorted.

Mojisola

nearlyrich wrote: »

my !!!!less ex really stepped up and shocked me by telling him he should go on his trip as he had been there for his grandma and never came home without popping in to see her.

Everyone is different but if it was me I wouldn't want my grandson to miss his honeymoon hope you get it sorted.

My Mum used to say this - what's important is what you did while someone was alive, not whether you were there when they died.

Rambosmum

Thanks for the advice.

He and she are very close - we now live 150miles away but see her and his grandpa at least once a month, when we lived closer it was several times a week.

When we booked it we knew she was terminally ill and did discuss this with her. She was adamant that we shouldn't put our life on hold because she was dying and so we booked it.

All members of the family have said we should go, we haven't asked her because we don't want to cause any distress.

Although we know we *should* go, it is very hard now the time has come. It is a lot of money to lose and we probably won't get the chance to go again for a very long time. We will probably go, but I'm worried that OH will regret it and think he should be with his family at this time. It's not so much being there when she goes for her, but the after time for his mum and grandpa. I'm also not sure he'll be able to relax and have fun, I don't want to go half way around the world for him to mope in our hotel room (which I know is selfish).

peachyprice

Have you checked out prices for flights home if she does die while you're away? Would that be affordable?

st999

A funeral is for those left behind not those who have gone.

When my sister was dying, and she knew she was dying, just like the OP's situation, she said she wouldn't know if I was at her funeral so just go on holiday.

She died as our plane was taking off and as per her instructions, no one informed us until we returned and the funeral had passed that she had died.

OP, you are the only ones who can be affected whether you go or not.

If she wants you at her funeral she should put off dying until you return.

I hate emotional blackmail.

bargainbetty

st999 wrote: »

If she wants you at her funeral she should put off dying until you return.

I hate emotional blackmail.

Absolutely no one in the family is emotionally blackmailing anyone. Everyone, including the dying lady, has told them they should go and do their best to enjoy it. This is about how the OP and her husband feel.

Rambosmum

bargainbetty wrote: »

Absolutely no one in the family is emotionally blackmailing anyone. Everyone, including the dying lady, has told them they should go and do their best to enjoy it. This is about how the OP and her husband feel.

Thanks for this.

There is absolutely no emotional blackmail what so ever. My husband needs to make the decision as to whether we go based on how HE feels about the situation.

We've made it very clear that we want to know as soon as possible if she dies whilst we are away, though we probably won't fly home.