What is good answer to do you have a boyfriend yet?

Chlorine7

I’ve been single for over a year after a 6 year relationship and I'm in my 30's. I have no interest in anyone else and I don’t see me having any interest anytime soon. I rarely fancy people. I have friends who can walk into a room and find three guys attractive but I can walk into a bar full of guys and not be attracted to a single one. Unless you count kisses that occur after copious amounts of alcohol

Anyway I had a birthday card that recently said ‘I hope you find a new boyfriend this year’ – this from a girl who dropped her knickers to every guy that sold her a clich!d line. I flat out told her in front of everyone that I wasn’t happy with that message and it was rude.

Yesterday I met up with an ex-colleague (who is known for deliberately making you feel uncomfortable) and he asked me why don’t I have a boyfriend yet? I told it’s him because I don’t need or want one and he just sort of laughed at me.

I don’t have a boyfriend because there is currently no one out there for me. I tried Match.com for a month and it just made my skin crawl. I went on Tinder just to see what it’s all about – no attractive men there (at least not to me). I am actually happy on my own as being single hasn’t stopped me from doing everything I want to do!

I think it’s so sad that some people cannot function without a boyfriend and ignorant to think that those who don’t have one aren’t happy.

I don’t want this to be my answer to people I know. So does anyone have any better, witty, ‘shut the hell up and mind your own business answers’?

tealady

How about "I am a woman so am looking for a man, not a boy" Or say (to your ill mannered friend), "I haven't found a man who can keep me in the Cartier diamonds I deserve"

Pollycat

Chlorine7 wrote: »

I’ve been single for over a year after a 6 year relationship and I'm in my 30's. I have no interest in anyone else and I don’t see me having any interest anytime soon. I rarely fancy people. I have friends who can walk into a room and find three guys attractive but I can walk into a bar full of guys and not be attracted to a single one. Unless you count kisses that occur after copious amounts of alcohol

Anyway I had a birthday card that recently said ‘I hope you find a new boyfriend this year’ – this from a girl who dropped her knickers to every guy that sold her a clich!d line. I flat out told her in front of everyone that I wasn’t happy with that message and it was rude.

Yesterday I met up with an ex-colleague (who is known for deliberately making you feel uncomfortable) and he asked me why don’t I have a boyfriend yet? I told it’s him because I don’t need or want one and he just sort of laughed at me.

I don’t have a boyfriend because there is currently no one out there for me. I tried Match.com for a month and it just made my skin crawl. I went on Tinder just to see what it’s all about – no attractive men there (at least not to me). I am actually happy on my own as being single hasn’t stopped me from doing everything I want to do!

I think it’s so sad that some people cannot function without a boyfriend and ignorant to think that those who don’t have one aren’t happy.

I don’t want this to be my answer to people I know. So does anyone have any better, witty, ‘shut the hell up and mind your own business answers’?

I think this response would do quite nicely.

Or continue saying this:

Chlorine7 wrote: »

I don’t need or want one

I am actually happy on my own as being single hasn’t stopped me from doing everything I want to do!

You don't have to explain yourself to anyone, especially to people who are rude or laugh at you.

Rambosmum

I'm exploring my sexuality tends to shut people up!

But you don't need a boyfriend if you don't want one.

People used to ask me when I was having kids after I got married. I made it clear with my tone of voice that it was none of their business (I find it an incredibly presumptive and rude question) and no one has asked a second time.

19lottie82

Chlorine7 wrote: »

I have no interest in anyone else and I don’t see me having any interest anytime soon. I rarely fancy people.

I was the same until I met my OH. I never fancied anyone on a first meet, or across a crowded bar, I had to get to know someone, usually over a period of months, before I started to like them in that way.

Just be honest, there is no "right" answer. It's nothing to feel ashamed about!

aurorahelios

I can empathise, I spent most of my 20s single by choice and had similar comments.

I would respond with a positive comment about being single. What do you most enjoy about being single and turn that into your reply - for me it was the freedom of being able to what I wanted without having to answer to anyone else.

Keep it simple, consistent and positive and eventually people will get fed up of asking.

thorsoak

My answer would be "no - I'm having so much of a ball on my own, I don't need to settle for anything less than perfect - I don't like kissing frogs!

Fluff15

Just say 'I'm happy on my own' and if they press further, say 'it says more about somebody needing a partner for the sake of it, rather than waiting until they're happy'.

lulu_92

I agree with thorsoak.

I would say "I'm perfectly happy as I am. I don't need a relationship to validate my existence."

torbrex

Just tell them that you have one already that satisfies all your desires and needs and why would you want another one

If pressed for details, tell them that his name is Derek, he lives in Fife and is retired on a private income and you are thinking about jetting off to Hawaii with him :T

(photo can be found in my signature :whistle:)

FredG

Tell them you're still trying to hide your ex's body so a new boyfriend will have to wait until the patio is resurfaced.