Renovations and Repayments.

AlexLK

maman wrote: »

You'd better add the cost of fines for bad parenting to the spreadsheet!;)

:rotfl: Fortunately school has been OK about it.

A_Frayed_Knot wrote: »

Well done on the clutter clearance and the bundle of items to sell once you return from holiday. As they say, next month is always another month.

Have a lovely time on holiday, and hopefully will come back raring to start the new month.

Thanks, Frayed Knot. Have to admit I'm usually quite low after a holiday as coming back is always difficult. That's one reason I've decluttered before going, in the hope that the house being presentable will make it not quite so bad. Unfortunately, I like running away from reality.

AlexLK

Well my Jag has been at the specialist for the last few days as it had a problem I couldn't solve. Picking it up today and the bill is over £500. :eek: Also reviewed the spreadsheet over the past week or so. It's not good.

Can't say I'm pleased with myself today.

maman

AlexLK wrote: »

Have to admit I'm usually quite low after a holiday as coming back is always difficult. That's one reason I've decluttered before going, in the hope that the house being presentable will make it not quite so bad. Unfortunately, I like running away from reality.

That's what holidays are all about and the best way I've found to recover from post-holiday blues is to plan another!:)

newgirly

Hope the holiday is going well Alex

AlexLK

Well, I'm back in the real world after the most fantastic holiday. Obscene amounts of money spent but one of the best holidays I have ever had. We were even lucky with the weather, rained once and that was in the evening. Jag did us proud over the 1700 miles it covered. iPad has also been excellent and I have given in to taking photos with it. Given in further to technology by buying an iPhone. :eek: Though the deal was excellent - SE on EE for £14.99 per month and £40 upfront (should be £50 but got an online voucher). Really impressed with the IOS operating system and I've no doubt Apple are going to be seeing more of my money in the future.

Cornwall was absolutely beautiful as was the cottage we stayed in. Really didn't want to come back and the holiday has seriously made me wonder about moving away one day far off into the future. Not that it will happen though. :rotfl: It was wonderful seeing how my son has grown since I last went on holiday with him. Day to day I forget just how much he's learnt since last year and how his interests have developed. It made me rather proud to see how good my wife was with him over the holiday too. If family life was like that in the real world I don't think I'd have any worries.

My wife and I have had some rather serious discussions over the past couple of days, including about our finances and her spending. Basically she sees no point to trying to save / pay mortgage due to the future. She thinks I don't appreciate her efforts to earn money and doesn't see a future for our marriage when we sell the house and I take full responsibility for my parents' affairs. The fact she sees something that is beyond my control as a barrier to our marriage continuing is devastating. Whilst most women would love to have a future free from needing to be financially independent, my wife would rather divorce me. Something bitterly ironic there. Therefore, I'm not really sure where to go from here.

On the MSE front, I have realised from the clutter free cottage it would be good to complete that task and generate some extra cash from selling no longer needed things. Also downloaded a daily budget app as I really do need to reign the spending in now.

smallholdingsister

when we sell the house and I take full responsibility for my parents' affairs

Which part does she object to? Does she explain why? Does she feel you are putting their needs above hers?

choccielover

Do you mean when you sell the house and make her move into a house she has repeatedly told you she doesn't want to.

I know Mrs LK gets a bad rep on here but I have a heck of a lot of empathy for her.

You haven't respected her efforts to earn money, you repeatedly want to sell up and move her in with your parents and live a mortgage free lifestyle now whilst she seems to want to behave like a grown up and make her own way in life, again something you have no respect for.

I'm sorry Alex but from my perspective you married an independent woman with a career and a normal sense of priorities.

Perhaps you should have gone for a spendthrift money grabber who would have not cared a jot for a these things.

You have a childish view on the world Alex, at some point you have to let go of the notion that mummy and daddy will fix everything. Even if they can, there comes a point when you have to stand on your own 2 feet and be your own person.

newgirly

I'm glad you had a good holiday Alex, it's such a same you are still arguing over the same issues its your wife though, what WILL you do if you are given an ultimatum by her?

dawnybabes

Even if you take over your parents properties (and you DONT HAVE TO). You don't need to move into their house. The properties could be sold - it's you choosing to. And to be quite frank if I was your wife and you constantly ignored my wishes I'd be pee'd off too. You are supposed to be a partnership not a dictatorship.

Goldiegirl

I have to agree with what's being said.


It's reasonable that while Alex's parents are still alive he would help with his parents business affairs - and if he's doing that, the parents should pay him a salary


But, there's no need for Alex and his wife to sell their house and move in with the parents.


When the time comes, and Alex's parents are no longer with us, it's not pre-ordained that Alex and his wife have to move into the big house and carry on the business. You could sell everything and make a new life together in Cornwall if you wanted.


I have a lot of sympathy for Mrs Alex - it must be incredibly frustrating and annoying to be married to a man who doesn't listen to her, and appears to put his parents before her. She's a women who wants and expects to be an equal partner, not a meek submissive wife to be kept.


She must love you a lot, Alex, to still be with you. Many women would have thrown in the towel by now