The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

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Poor little poppet but with a Mum like you to support her, make sure that the problems she has are recognised, understood and solutions to them made she'll be OK! Never feel oh 'That Mrs Fuddle again' is anything but doing the right thing for the right reasons my girl, more strength to your arm and your resolve! I hope you can both work out the best solution to her dyslexic problems together to her best advantage xxx.

ivyleaf

Oh fuddle, bless her little heart. I expect she thought everyone saw the words the same way she does! I hope the assessments are helpful and that a solution can be found for her. xx

Lyn Thank goodness those tenants have finally gone

The sun's come out at last. DS was going to cut the grass today, but it rained so much in the night that he's been reprieved!

Those of you in Hants, I trust you'll be heading to Southampton Common to sample the biggest bouncy castle in the world

silvasava

Afternoon all

Fuddle - don't beat yourself up - you have two lovely daughters and you do your very best for them so b**ger what the school thinks.
MrsL - How awful for your neighbour. I rented my Mum's house out for a while. My first tenant was fine but the next two were a nightmare and we sold the house as it got so stressful. I did use an agent but didn't find him a great help.
Ivyleaf - DGD and her boyfriend have gone to Southampton today. He's going tomorrow too but she'll be going to another event in Portsmouth. Do hope it stays fine for them all.
Pottering in the garden today,trimming, pruning and have a 'girly' night booked for tonight. One of my friends has arranged it - we are going to a newly opened wine bar and then on to the local British Legion club where a group of some of my old work friends are playing. DH is going to drop me off and pick me up - bless him! Ive a stock of paracetamol for tomorrow morning lol
Hope everyone has a good evening.

Islandmaid

ivyleaf wrote: »

Those of you in Hants, I trust you'll be heading to Southampton Common to sample the biggest bouncy castle in the world

DS has gone over the water to the 'party' in Southampton today and will go to the other mini festival in Portsmouth tomorrow.

Fuddle - bless her X

nursemaggie

Oh Fuddle how worrying. I think I would be more worried about her sight than dyslexia.

My eldest says words move around and DS who still lives at home says they never look the same.

Despite their problems they seem to have overcome them. My eldest was managing director of his last company and is now head of the technical department in a larger company.

The reason I rarely mention the older one is he does not speak to me. It is not just me he does not speak to any of the family. His father has a sister just the same. No one has known where she is for the last 30 years.

DS at home certainly seems to have the knack of selling. I could imagine him being manager of a garden center at some time in the future. When he does work in the seasonal department all of the staff go to him with problems even the ones who have been there over 10 year. He seems to have the same aptitudes as DD who has run a few language collages.

To be on the safe side I would get both of them's sight checked. It is free for children.

ivyleaf I can just picture all of us jumping up and down on a huge bouncy castle. We would all be in a heap exhausted after about 30 seconds. Those things are dammed hard work.

fuddle

I don't think there's anything wrong with her sight nm. What she's explaining is text book dyslexia. The window of clear sight moves as she reads.

Floss

Fuddle, I agree with Nurse Maggie, you should consider sight tests alongside dyslexia testing - if nothing else you can then say "yes we have had DDs sight tested", as you will probably be asked. It can occasionally be that the dyslexia also hides a sight issue - with DS2 it was the need for reading glasses that hid the dyslexia until he was 19 & starting uni. He has since completed his degree, a Masters, a postgrad course at Oxford and is part way through a Ph.D, so dyslexia isn't a handicap to academic achievement!

monnagran

Fuddle: You keep on at the school flower. Never mind what they think, your daughters are your main concern and it's your job to fight their corner. I don't understand the school. How did this detention situation arise? For goodness sake, anyone would think she is a teenage delinquent. Excuse my wrath but life is difficult enough for children these days without leaning on a well brought up, intelligent, hard working young girl. Is it beyond them to find a corner of a library,spare classroom or some other place for her to finish her work. She won't be the only child with these difficulties so are they all shunted off to the detention room. I bet their explanation will be that they don't have enough staff to cover supervision for a separate room. Huh!

If you could see me now you would detect puffs of steam issuing from my ears.


Lyn, I feel so sorry that your friends had such difficult tenants. I don't know how people can be so ungrateful as to cause such problems in that situation.

Well I hope all those living it up on North Island have fun in their bouncy castles and the like. I am hoping for yet another warm sunny day tomorrow as we have DGS here for half term and we are planning a walk along the beach to a cafe for lunch. Then a call into one of DS's clients garden where the children have an open invitation to go in and have a jump on their simply humongous trampoline. It pays to have the right friends.

x

fuddle

I booked sight tests for both my girls this morning. I worked in SEN in schools for 10 years toughies I'm quite clued up with what needs to be done. It's the reason why I'm beating myself up about not detecting the reading part sooner.

Thank you for all your words. I'm on to it.

According to DD monnagran if children don't complete their work in the lesson they they have to go to the detention room to complete it at lunch time. It turns out DD has been losing a lot of her lunch times for quite some time and no one has thought to speak to me about it.

Floss

fuddle wrote: »

I booked sight tests for both my girls this morning. I worked in SEN in schools for 10 years toughies I'm quite clued up with what needs to be done. It's the reason why I'm beating myself up about not detecting the reading part sooner...

Aah, yes, but that was your job, which you don't take home

Seriously though, don't be harsh on yourself, we all have times of blindness to what is going on, and lack of info from school obviously hasn't helped this time.

On another matter, have you got any garden at this home? Were you able to bring your DHs woodwork with you?