Engagement gift

FabFifty

My mid-20s nephew has just got engaged and I'd like to give something to the happy couple. I was thinking of a cash gift as they don't yet live in their own home (living with his parents at the current time). Is cash OK? What is "usual" these days?
Any help welcome.

NobodysChild

How nice of you. I think most people will appreciate a cash gift. They can treat themselves to a nice meal out.

heartbreak_star

Some say different, but I say cash is never a bad gift

Congratulations to your nephew

HBS x

kpwll

We normally give a £25.00 for engagements, weddings, 18th & 21st birthdays. That way they can put it towards anything they need. This gift usually goes down well and is appreciated.

Gloomendoom

Engagement gifts?

We missed out.

19lottie82

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Engagement gifts?

We missed out.

Yes, I was about to comment along the same lines.

OP it's nice you want to give an "engagement" gift, but please only do this if you want to, it's certainly not the norm.

I got married to my DH last year, and although we got plenty of gifts at the wedding, I don't think we got any "engagement" gifts, just a few cards, which were great!

I don't think engagement gifts are commonplace these days, especially if you're planning on giving a wedding gift.

If you do want to give them something how about a nice bottle of fizz so they can toast their engagement? I don't think I've ever heard of cash being given as an engagement gift BUT if you want that option, I'm sure they will appreciate it

Buzzybee90

I'd not give or expect an engagement gift so I'm not sure what's usual, I'd say a cash gift would always be appreciated though!

burnoutbabe

I'd never expect any engagement presents.

I think we got his and hers champagne flutes from his parents and a cheese board from someone. Nothing from anyone else (besides cards)

Only give a present if they are hosting a party.

kpwll

I think this may be a generational thing again. A lot of couples go straight into living together before engagement or wedding (that is not being judgemental) where years ago it was courting, engaged, married. I'm really giving my age away.

It is also different if it's family or close friends.

Gloomendoom

kpwll wrote: »

I think this may be a generational thing again. A lot of couples go straight into living together before engagement or wedding (that is not being judgemental) where years ago it was courting, engaged, married. I'm really giving my age away.

It is also different if it's family or close friends.

Generational which way? We didn't live together until after we were married and still didn't get any engagement presents from anyone: family, friends, young or old. Not that we expected any.

[Deleted User]

How much? Ask their parents what the 'going rate' is - especially if there is other aunts/uncles giving.

I'd have thought £50 would cover it - that's what I went for, for my brothers engagement present (in John Lewis vouchers)