School Issue 6th form rights

Jagraf

peachyprice wrote: »

At 17 it's the son's choice whether he wants both, either or neither of his parents to see his records.

That's exactly what I thought.

Jagraf

georgie262 wrote: »

On the school's database there will be a little box that is ticked for which parents have PR (parental responsibility) this should be ticked and if it is the school would have no right to withhold the information from the parent. If it isn't you can show the proof of parental responsibility and they will tick the box for you and the same will apply. If both parents have parental responsibility the school has no right to withhold information from either parent. As soon as the son turns 18 though the situation changes. HTH

Are you absolutely sure about this? Not being funny but you can have a baby at 16 and not tell your parents. I thought it was under 16.

swingaloo

elmer wrote: »

It obviously is important that the son attends school, but Im not sure what you're brother can do about it if the son doesn't attend, whether he knows about it or not.

There probably isn't a lot he can do, but he can try to talk to him and encourage him to work towards a better future.


Or he could sit back and not give a s---- but personally I don't think that would make him a better parent.

Jagraf

swingaloo wrote: »

It isn't about reports, its about the whole general knowing what is going on with his education.


This is a mum who has repeatedly kept the son at home over most of the years of his schooling partly because she would not get out of bed in a morning to get him to school. In later years the son would not get out of bed to attend. The only time he had anything like a realistic attendance was in the 2 years when he lived with my brother.


Unfortunately he prefers to live with his mum now as there are no boundaries set and considering he went back to 6th form to re sit his GCSEs it is quite important that he actually attends.

It's not up to his mum anymore, so if your bro wants to sort it he needs to try to find a way to talk to the son. Maybe suggest the son lives with the dad and makes a fresh start?

peachyprice

Jagraf wrote: »

Are you absolutely sure about this? Not being funny but you can have a baby at 16 and not tell your parents. I thought it was under 16.

It certainly is 16 here, it ends when you leave compulsory education. Once at 6th form or college you don't have to let your parents see your attendance record.

Same as they're not entitled to know what happens at the doctors. A young adult's rights to privacy aren't determined by PR.

Poppie68

I think the dad should of discussed it with his son before telling the school to re-add him, he may of made the decision but asked his mum to tell the school...17 year olds aren't children.

fivetide

I think good on him for trying to take an interest in his son. As above, seems like mum isn't a great parent (appreciate we only have one side of the story) but the son sounds a bit petulant and looking for a career on the dole.


Can your brother go see him? Speak to him? Find out what the issue is? Does he have any contact at all?

elsien

Make a formal complaint.. My brother had similar when the school decided only one parent could have a time slot at parents evening and as his ex got the letter she got in first. The head of year told him there was nothing they could do about it.
A complaint to the head cc 'd to the governors pointing out they both had parental responsibility triggered profuse apologies and a hasty about turn. There will be other parents in the same position, so stand your ground.

georgie262

Jagraf wrote: »

Are you absolutely sure about this? Not being funny but you can have a baby at 16 and not tell your parents. I thought it was under 16.

Well that's how we deal with things at our school. I fairly certain it's 18. The only time we would ever consider keeping something from a parent was if there were child protection concerns. There was discussion when our sixth form was set up as to what we have to do when a child turns 18 but 16 has never been an issue - they turn 16 in Y11.

duchy

That's really sad that parents penalize every other child by taking double the time -just because two parents can't manage to sit and discuss their child's progress for ten minutes.

Makes you wonder who the child is.

My ex could be a PITA but we managed to stay civilized on the occasions he bothered to show up for parents evenings. Neither of us would have dreamed of expecting special treatment just because we didn't get along. Parents evenings despite the name are about the child NOT the parents.

elsien wrote: »

Make a formal complaint.. My brother had similar when the school decided only one parent could have a time slot at parents evening and as his ex got the letter she got in first. The head of year told him there was nothing they could do about it.
A complaint to the head cc 'd to the governors pointing out they both had parental responsibility triggered profuse apologies and a hasty about turn. There will be other parents in the same position, so stand your ground.